My sister is having her best friend be called aunt

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of poster point out that their culture does this. They should respect other cultures that do not.

What culture is that? Seriously.

Don’t be so obtuse.

Answer the question, then. Oh wait, your stance is a bunch of BS.

Yes, we’re waiting to hear which culture actively frowns on this practice.

Another person waiting to hear the answer. I can't think of any culture which actively frowns on using the term "aunt" and "uncle" for anyone at all beyond the biological siblings of the parent.

I mean, OP can object to it because she doesn't like it, but attributing it to a culture to give it some kind of borrowed authority is really ringing flat.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that calling someone who is unrelated Auntie is confusing to kids understanding of family. Do you introduce these women friends as sisters?

You can't be serious. How dumb are your kids?

My 3 year old gets that he only has one real aunt. He is glad he has more.

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Anonymous wrote:There may be some legal implications to the name. My brothers former girlfriends kid called my brother Dad when they were a little kid. After he died, the adult kid filed a claim on his estate and got a big chunk of his money.

You are leaving out a lot of context.

He was not the bio Dad, nor did he ever live with the child. But lawyers can spin a 'name like Dad' into a legal commitment.

Lady, why are you bringing up this completely unrelated story? Are you suggesting, what, that this unborn kid may somehow have a claim to his mom’s friend’s estate? Do you see how stupid and ridiculous your point is? Start your own post if you are mad about your brothers estate for some reason.

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I know a women who named her BF 'Auntie' to her kids. She also calls some other people sister, brother, dad, mom when they are not related to her. It's all very informal. Her kids call them Grandpa, Grandma, etc. and they have different bio dads so the kids call the baby Dads, Daddy and the baby daddy grands - are called grandma, etc. It is meaningless.

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I would drop it OP. I have to admit I was a bit hurt when my SIL made a big deal out of the same situation, but never said anything because I knew I was overreacting. Years later, I realized that it's always better to have more "aunts and uncles" than fewer, so it's really not a big deal in the long run.

Just acknowledge to yourself you have hurt feelings now OP, but don't let it hurt the relationship with your sister or the baby.

And yes, we are all white American.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m white and never did this and no one in my family did either.

Don’t GAF. My kids call my best friend “aunt”. I made her their godmother too. I think my SIL is offended, especially because my kids mix up their names and call her by my friend’s name. Oh well, love is like a pie and it expands. I’m grateful to have a friend who loves my kids like her own. Or at least like nieces and nephews.

My kids have asked if her kids could be their cousins. They don’t have any cousins and they’re sad about it. I said no, but they could be best friends. Cousins isn’t an honorific like aunt or uncle is.

What difference does this make??? That's not a culture.

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Why don’t you ask for additional titles so that you can feel better and everyone else can recognize your rights and lineage, something like Lord Supreme Aunt, first of her name, Protector of the 3 Cousins, Warden of the Best Western, and Commander of the Crock Pot

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Anonymous wrote:There may be some legal implications to the name. My brothers former girlfriends kid called my brother Dad when they were a little kid. After he died, the adult kid filed a claim on his estate and got a big chunk of his money.

You are leaving out a lot of context.

He was not the bio Dad, nor did he ever live with the child. But lawyers can spin a 'name like Dad' into a legal commitment.

Lady, why are you bringing up this completely unrelated story? Are you suggesting, what, that this unborn kid may somehow have a claim to his mom’s friend’s estate? Do you see how stupid and ridiculous your point is? Start your own post if you are mad about your brothers estate for some reason.

It's related because it about calling someone an untrue familiar name and how it confuses kids. If that is the only man you have ever called Dad, you may think it's true.

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I only called my parents siblings and siblings-in-law aunt and uncle when I was a kid. Definitely never my parents's friends.

But my kid calls several of our closest friends "aunt" and "uncle". The friends like it and my kid sees them way more than our siblings (various reasons for this). It's nice for kids to have a variety of adults in their lives who love them and are invested in them. I wouldn't bestow the honorary "aunt" title on just anyone, but my friend who is my kid's honorary aunt actually pays more attention to her, sends her thoughtful gifts, and asks after her more than my kids actual aunts and uncles. I'm really grateful to her. She has earned "aunt" more than my own sister has for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you ask for additional titles so that you can feel better and everyone else can recognize your rights and lineage, something like Lord Supreme Aunt, first of her name, Protector of the 3 Cousins, Warden of the Best Western, and Commander of the Crock Pot

Lol, I loved this, thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:There may be some legal implications to the name. My brothers former girlfriends kid called my brother Dad when they were a little kid. After he died, the adult kid filed a claim on his estate and got a big chunk of his money.

You are leaving out a lot of context.

He was not the bio Dad, nor did he ever live with the child. But lawyers can spin a 'name like Dad' into a legal commitment.

Lady, why are you bringing up this completely unrelated story? Are you suggesting, what, that this unborn kid may somehow have a claim to his mom’s friend’s estate? Do you see how stupid and ridiculous your point is? Start your own post if you are mad about your brothers estate for some reason.

It's related because it about calling someone an untrue familiar name and how it confuses kids. If that is the only man you have ever called Dad, you may think it's true.

OMG, stop. You're irrelevant, your story is irrelevant. Nobody is going to think any such thing unless they are specifically told that as the truth. Any moron can figure that one out. There is no such thing as a true or untrue name unless you're discussing a pen name or an alias.

Go see a therapist about your issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you ask for additional titles so that you can feel better and everyone else can recognize your rights and lineage, something like Lord Supreme Aunt, first of her name, Protector of the 3 Cousins, Warden of the Best Western, and Commander of the Crock Pot

This one made me laugh harder than you'd think.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s probably closer to her best friend and feels she’s just as much an aunt as you are.

+1.. and maybe more of an aunt than you are based on your contempt.

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My two best friends all refer to each other as “auntie Larla” to the kids. It’s a term of endearment. Instead of being upset, be thankful your sister has close friends who enrich her life.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you ask for additional titles so that you can feel better and everyone else can recognize your rights and lineage, something like Lord Supreme Aunt, first of her name, Protector of the 3 Cousins, Warden of the Best Western, and Commander of the Crock Pot

+1 I think I'd go with Princess Auntie