My sister is having her best friend be called aunt

[Anonymous]

I am 28 almost 29 years old with 2 older sisters. My oldest sister has 2 children of her own and my other sister is pregnant with her first. In our culture we are very big on only actual aunts and uncles being called aunt and uncle. My sister's very best friend she has since 3rd grade she is going to have her child call her aunt. I am a little hurt by this because I feel like it takes away and waters down the people who are actually the child's aunt. I addressed this with my sister and she said I'm being ridiculous as it's not like she is having every friend be called aunt and it's just her very best friend that she has been friends with for 20+ years. It's still a friend and not an aunt.

Am I being irrational?

[Anonymous]

Yes. With aunts and uncles it's the more the merrier.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Oh god I really wish you had not brought this up to your sister. Yes, you are being ridiculous. And controlling! You don't get to demand and dictate what OTHER people let THEIR kids call OTHER people

[Anonymous]

Yes you are wrong and irrational.

[Anonymous]

Ultimately, the title will mean absolutely nothing in terms of your relationship with your niece/nephew. You can be a blood-relative aunt and have virtually no relationship if you do not make the effort, and you can have a very close aunt-like relationship with a friend's child if you do make the effort. Put your energy into the relationship rather than the title.

[Anonymous]

That’s the culture you came from. Not the culture your sister wants to raise her child in. Things change.

[Anonymous]

The most important thing will be the relationship you have with your nibling and that will not be determined by what others are called.

[Anonymous]

What culture is this, OP?

In my family’s culture, friends are like family, everyone is an uncle or aunt.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are being irrational. If you continue trying to police your sister’s choices then you will not be a close aunt to her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

Sometimes I wonder whether this poster has a computer keyboard with only four working keys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 28 almost 29 years old with 2 older sisters. My oldest sister has 2 children of her own and my other sister is pregnant with her first. In our culture we are very big on only actual aunts and uncles being called aunt and uncle. My sister's very best friend she has since 3rd grade she is going to have her child call her aunt. I am a little hurt by this because I feel like it takes away and waters down the people who are actually the child's aunt. I addressed this with my sister and she said I'm being ridiculous as it's not like she is having every friend be called aunt and it's just her very best friend that she has been friends with for 20+ years. It's still a friend and not an aunt.

Am I being irrational?

No, you are not being irrational, just overly sensitive.

[Anonymous]

There may be some legal implications to the name. My brothers former girlfriends kid called my brother Dad when they were a little kid. After he died, the adult kid filed a claim on his estate and got a big chunk of his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

Sometimes I wonder whether this poster has a computer keyboard with only four working keys.

This is the appropriate response to probably 90% of dcum posts.

[Anonymous]

To those saying MYOB. This is my sister don't I have a right to express my feelings to my own sister? Shouldn't my feelings as her sister trump the feelings of her friend?