My sister is having her best friend be called aunt

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 28 almost 29 years old with 2 older sisters. My oldest sister has 2 children of her own and my other sister is pregnant with her first. In our culture we are very big on only actual aunts and uncles being called aunt and uncle. My sister's very best friend she has since 3rd grade she is going to have her child call her aunt. I am a little hurt by this because I feel like it takes away and waters down the people who are actually the child's aunt. I addressed this with my sister and she said I'm being ridiculous as it's not like she is having every friend be called aunt and it's just her very best friend that she has been friends with for 20+ years. It's still a friend and not an aunt.

Am I being irrational?

Are you perpetually single? Freeze your eggs right now.

Right? If OP didn't say her age I would have guessed 17 or 18 at the most. The whole because she is my sister so she isn't allowed to have any other close friends in her life screams immaturity to me.

Kind of like those people you know in high school who get possessive over their friends and whose friends aren't allowed to have any other friends that aren't in their direct social circle.

Exactly. She is seeing her niblings (new word I heard here (above)) as her outlet to parent. She might end up 40 man-less and child-less before she figures this out. Best to freeze the eggs now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

No, but i have more faith in my best friend that we’re not going to have a relationship ending falling out than me and my sister.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

Are you really this obtuse? The sister would always be the aunt. In her case, it’s not in name only.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

Do you not know what an Aunt is?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

Yes, I have no relationship with a sibling but I also don’t have my children calling my friends aunt or uncle.
You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

No, but i have more faith in my best friend that we’re not going to have a relationship ending falling out than me and my sister.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

No, but i have more faith in my best friend that we’re not going to have a relationship ending falling out than me and my sister.

I have no relationship with a sibling and would not have my children address him as uncle, but I also don’t have my children call my friends aunt or uncle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

Do you not know what an Aunt is?

An aunt certainly doesn’t have to be a blood relation. The relationship is at least as important as the blood ties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

Do you not know what an Aunt is?

An aunt certainly doesn’t have to be a blood relation. The relationship is at least as important as the blood ties.

You are right that there is an informal defintion of "aunt" that means an adult friend of the family who a child refers to as "aunt'.

I believe there is also an informal definition of "uncle" that means a random guy who visits mommy only at night who a child might run into while using the bathroom or at breakfast.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to speak from the perspective of a very close best friend of someone that I have been friends with for 30+ years. My friend does have one sister and the sister and I are close as well just from me being friends with her sister for so long.

I would be hurt if my best friend stopped referring to me as aunt to her child because her sister didn't like it. It would show her sister's feelings trumped mine. Now if my friend didn't want to call me aunt I wouldn't be the least but offended or bothered but if she stopped it on account of someone else's feelings that wasn't her or her husband (the father) I would be hurt that the other person's feelings mattered over how close she saw our friendship.

I think after so long friends start to fall more into the family category.

Yeah some people on here are acting like the OP's sister met these people a day ago and are giving them the aunt title or every acquaintance she meets in the grocery store she has her kids call them aunt

No, you’re the one who conjured up this imaginary thought.

You probably didn't read all the responses but there were some people actually agreeing with the OP's thoughts and saying it's normal to be bothered by this hence which is why I said those people are acting like she is going around town calling every Tom, Suzy, and Jane aunt or uncle. They have been best friends for almost a lifetime

Is the best friend still an aunt if they have a falling out? How does that work?

What if OP’s sister gets tired of her controlling personality and cuts her off? Is she still an aunt if she doesn’t have a relationship with sister and niece? How does that work?

Do you not know what an Aunt is?

An aunt certainly doesn’t have to be a blood relation. The relationship is at least as important as the blood ties.

Um well if not by blood than by adoption. An aunt is a sister to one of your parents. Done.

[Anonymous]

My spouse’s family calls non-family members aunt and uncle and it always feels like they are lying. They are dishonest and always trying to impress others. It feels as though they are feigning a closeness in someone who isn’t a family member. It didn’t bother me at first but now that I’ve figured them out it make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse’s family calls non-family members aunt and uncle and it always feels like they are lying. They are dishonest and always trying to impress others. It feels as though they are feigning a closeness in someone who isn’t a family member. It didn’t bother me at first but now that I’ve figured them out it make sense.

"feigning closeness" how do you know they aren't truly close to these people. Again family doesn't automatically guarantee closeness and I have super close friends who are more family to me than my actual.blood relationships.