How many of you are truly pro-choice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have some concerns about adoption but ultimately it would be her choice.

Actually, many adoptions these days are open. The birth grandparents still get to stay in contact sometimes.

And why I would hope DC would not consider adoption. The adoptive parents are the ones with the least rights in these situations, which is not ok. And before you jump on me for this opinion, which I don't really care anyway, one of my parents was adopted so I saw this up close and personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the “babies are expensive” camp

I’m not raising my grandchildren unless absolutely necessary.

I’ve watched my husband’s family deal with the consequences of these decisions and I am NOT going to have my grown children bringing kids into my home to live pet a do until they are 18. No way.

I will encourage abortion and make clear to my children that are still not financially independent that we cannot care for or pay for babies they bring into this world. It is their responsibility to do so.

So, would that mean shuffling your daughter and grandchild out of the house? If you saved for her college tuition, is that withheld only if and until she goes to college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the “babies are expensive” camp

I’m not raising my grandchildren unless absolutely necessary.

I’ve watched my husband’s family deal with the consequences of these decisions and I am NOT going to have my grown children bringing kids into my home to live pet a do until they are 18. No way.

I will encourage abortion and make clear to my children that are still not financially independent that we cannot care for or pay for babies they bring into this world. It is their responsibility to do so.

So, would that mean shuffling your daughter and grandchild out of the house? If you saved for her college tuition, is that withheld only if and until she goes to college?

DP but do you not know how college savings accounts work? Hint: they can be used only for education purposes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is this even a question? 1000% support my daughter to choose what she does with her body. And no, it’s not a BaBy! At 20 weeks a clump of cells the size of a golfball. If she needed later, I would trust what her doctor said. So unAmerican to be against a woman’s right to control her own destiny.

Really now?

https://www.sciencephoto.com/media/1007804/view/20-week-old-fetus

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I'm pro-choice, but I first felt my baby kicking and moving at 20-wks. There is no way I would have aborted at that point, barring serious physical issues.

Yeah me too, and being pro- choice means other women may feel differently, and I respect that.

PP here. Yes, I agree. My statement was simply about what *I* would/would not have done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the “babies are expensive” camp

I’m not raising my grandchildren unless absolutely necessary.

I’ve watched my husband’s family deal with the consequences of these decisions and I am NOT going to have my grown children bringing kids into my home to live pet a do until they are 18. No way.

I will encourage abortion and make clear to my children that are still not financially independent that we cannot care for or pay for babies they bring into this world. It is their responsibility to do so.

So, would that mean shuffling your daughter and grandchild out of the house? If you saved for her college tuition, is that withheld only if and until she goes to college?

DP but do you not know how college savings accounts work? Hint: they can be used only for education purposes.

Hint: not everyone uses a college savings account to save for college tuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the “babies are expensive” camp

I’m not raising my grandchildren unless absolutely necessary.

I’ve watched my husband’s family deal with the consequences of these decisions and I am NOT going to have my grown children bringing kids into my home to live pet a do until they are 18. No way.

I will encourage abortion and make clear to my children that are still not financially independent that we cannot care for or pay for babies they bring into this world. It is their responsibility to do so.

So, would that mean shuffling your daughter and grandchild out of the house? If you saved for her college tuition, is that withheld only if and until she goes to college?

DP but do you not know how college savings accounts work? Hint: they can be used only for education purposes.

Hint: not everyone uses a college savings account to save for college tuition.

Well you didn’t specify.

And anyway, of course money saved for college should be used for that purpose. What kind of odd question is that? Especially important if someone becomes a parent at an extremely young age - this is one of the biggest factors in women experiencing poverty, having children too young and therefore not going to college or dropping out of college. Making sure a young mother gets through college can elevate a family’s economic situation. Doesn’t everyone realize this? The younger a woman is when she becomes a mother, the more negatively it affects her lifetime earnings.

[Anonymous]

No way should my child have a baby before college

As I said, I won’t be caring for or paying for a grandchild that my children choose to bring into the world before they are financially capable

Think I’m an awful person or a hypocrite all you want - the choices are abortion, adoption or find a way to care for the child herself if she chooses to try to go through with that decision

[Anonymous]

OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have some concerns about adoption but ultimately it would be her choice.

Actually, many adoptions these days are open. The birth grandparents still get to stay in contact sometimes.

And why I would hope DC would not consider adoption. The adoptive parents are the ones with the least rights in these situations, which is not ok. And before you jump on me for this opinion, which I don't really care anyway, one of my parents was adopted so I saw this up close and personal.

open adoptions are only as open as the Adoptive parents allow. If they want to cut off contact there's nothing the grandparents or first parents can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

Exactly

https://joycearthur.com/abortion/the-only-moral-abortion-is-my-abortion/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have some concerns about adoption but ultimately it would be her choice.

Actually, many adoptions these days are open. The birth grandparents still get to stay in contact sometimes.

And why I would hope DC would not consider adoption. The adoptive parents are the ones with the least rights in these situations, which is not ok. And before you jump on me for this opinion, which I don't really care anyway, one of my parents was adopted so I saw this up close and personal.

open adoptions are only as open as the Adoptive parents allow. If they want to cut off contact there's nothing the grandparents or first parents can do.

not true. new york passed a low making it mandatory. also more states are passing laws requiring adoptive parents abide by the law.

google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

Wrong. Most people in this country are not anti-abortion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

I am the exact opposite of this.

I am pro choice, but I would ask my own daughter to keep the baby. I can't force her to, but I will encourage her to. I would promise to raise it for her if that would affect her decision ( even though I might need to use her college savings and send her to a cheaper college).

For others, I am very pro choice because I cannot help raise those children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but most people are anti abortion when it’s someone else who is pregnant. But they are a lot more flexible when it’s their own daughter.

I am the exact opposite of this.

I am pro choice, but I would ask my own daughter to keep the baby. I can't force her to, but I will encourage her to. I would promise to raise it for her if that would affect her decision ( even though I might need to use her college savings and send her to a cheaper college).

For others, I am very pro choice because I cannot help raise those children.

what if she had 2 children? 3 children? (without still having a more than minimum wage job and without a partner with a job)