Anyone wish their spouse was more attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:The more attractive a man is, the more successful a man is, the more his options increase, and I like that I am really attracted to my DH but not necessarily everyone else is.

I know a really tall, attractive man who is constantly hit on my women. A friend feels sorry for his wife because that's a lot of women to fend off, and sometimes she actively has to!

Yep. My husband has had women chasing him hard since I met him when he was 25. He appeals to women of all ages…still at 51.

I have always been equivalent in looks, fitness, intelligence career- [/b]but women are ruthless. Men seem to respect the ring on a finger more than the women that see it as a “challenge”.

It can be exhausting. And if you lose trust over time…awful.

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This is the raw unadorned truth. Internalized sexism and a desperate clawing at limited resources. The more competitive women become over promotions and seats in political office the better it will be for our daughters.

NP here who hit the last page of this thread and saw this post. My DH is similar and it’s been something we’ve always joked about and dealt with on our terms throughout our 22 year marriage. But I’m starting to think the pressure is becoming worse for him now that he’s hit 50 and it’s become a constant fight for him to battle these crazy younger women on business trips. Just fighting the wolves makes him exhausted. BTW, I trust him implicitly and we both have been aware of this fight for awhile…even amongst our friends prior to marriage.

Awww. You’re poor husband. How exhausting it must be to battle allllll of those younger woman. Cry me a river, lady.

[Anonymous]

I'm finding the opposite...after 20 years and 3 kids I don't look the way I used to. Meanwhile he's still fit and the gray hair around his temples is hot. At least he's a total introvert so he'd rather play video games than seek out other women.

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I have never wished my spouse was more attractive. I wish he was other things (health conscious, organized, neat, on time, etc), but never have I ever wished he looked different.

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Anonymous wrote:The more attractive a man is, the more successful a man is, the more his options increase, and I like that I am really attracted to my DH but not necessarily everyone else is.

I know a really tall, attractive man who is constantly hit on my women. A friend feels sorry for his wife because that's a lot of women to fend off, and sometimes she actively has to!

Yep. My husband has had women chasing him hard since I met him when he was 25. He appeals to women of all ages…still at 51.

I have always been equivalent in looks, fitness, intelligence career- [/b]but women are ruthless. Men seem to respect the ring on a finger more than the women that see it as a “challenge”.

It can be exhausting. And if you lose trust over time…awful.

[b]


This is the raw unadorned truth. Internalized sexism and a desperate clawing at limited resources. The more competitive women become over promotions and seats in political office the better it will be for our daughters.

NP here who hit the last page of this thread and saw this post. My DH is similar and it’s been something we’ve always joked about and dealt with on our terms throughout our 22 year marriage. But I’m starting to think the pressure is becoming worse for him now that he’s hit 50 and it’s become a constant fight for him to battle these crazy younger women on business trips. Just fighting the wolves makes him exhausted. BTW, I trust him implicitly and we both have been aware of this fight for awhile…even amongst our friends prior to marriage.

Awww. You’re poor husband. How exhausting it must be to battle allllll of those younger woman. Cry me a river, lady.

* your DP, but I think you’re missing the nuance here in your rush to throw out tired idioms. Handsome, successful MARRIED men are aggressively pursued by young women- in hopes that a hook- up will blossom into a relationship, then marriage. They are trying to mate- poach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot sleep with a man I find unattractive. Looks are important, personality is important, hygiene brains, morals are also important to me. I do not care if the person is not too wealthy. MC is fine by me. But, my ovaries would shrivel into dust if the man was unattractive, unclean, dumb, obnoxious or a jerk. Eeeekkk.

That is the reason that I admire the Kardashians. They end up with really hideous looking or weird men. How are they sleeping with them? Or having kids with them? These are women who are not shallow at all.

Similarly, women like Melania who married Donnie. She had to sleep with him at least once or twice, right? That woman has done so much to help her parents out of a communist country and bring them to America. This is for me a great example of filial piety and self sacrifice!

This sounds to me like you aren’t really attracted to black men because the only one with a hideous looking partner compared to their own looks is Kim and Kanye. Lamar and Khloe were equally matched when they got together as she was plain and pretty chubby then. Tristan is actually attractive on the outside. Kylie without photoshop and makeup is actually ugly as is Travis.

Melania was likely working as an escort when she met Donald given her age and the fact that most models careers are over at 25. So in that context he probably didn’t seem that bad.

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Anonymous wrote:The more attractive a man is, the more successful a man is, the more his options increase, and I like that I am really attracted to my DH but not necessarily everyone else is.

I know a really tall, attractive man who is constantly hit on my women. A friend feels sorry for his wife because that's a lot of women to fend off, and sometimes she actively has to!

Yep. My husband has had women chasing him hard since I met him when he was 25. He appeals to women of all ages…still at 51.

I have always been equivalent in looks, fitness, intelligence career- [/b]but women are ruthless. Men seem to respect the ring on a finger more than the women that see it as a “challenge”.

It can be exhausting. And if you lose trust over time…awful.

[b]


This is the raw unadorned truth. Internalized sexism and a desperate clawing at limited resources. The more competitive women become over promotions and seats in political office the better it will be for our daughters.

NP here who hit the last page of this thread and saw this post. My DH is similar and it’s been something we’ve always joked about and dealt with on our terms throughout our 22 year marriage. But I’m starting to think the pressure is becoming worse for him now that he’s hit 50 and it’s become a constant fight for him to battle these crazy younger women on business trips. Just fighting the wolves makes him exhausted. BTW, I trust him implicitly and we both have been aware of this fight for awhile…even amongst our friends prior to marriage.

Awww. You’re poor husband. How exhausting it must be to battle allllll of those younger woman. Cry me a river, lady.

* your DP, but I think you’re missing the nuance here in your rush to throw out tired idioms. Handsome, successful MARRIED men are aggressively pursued by young women- in hopes that a hook- up will blossom into a relationship, then marriage. They are trying to mate- poach.

And women the same age, as well as older.

I had a few outright tell me they were jealous of me and wanted my husband and life.

[Anonymous]

Truthfully, OP, that might be on my list if the list wasn't filled with more important things, such as: I wish he didn't have Asperger's, I wish he didn't have ADHD, etc... But in terms of looks, eh, my husband is fine. It's the inside that's problematic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

I can relate, indirectly, my sister has an issue like that, the kids were really cute when they were babies but now going through the teenage awkward phase and some features from her DH are not very attractive, still the eyes are splendid, look them in the eye, that's how you get over it
life is not perfect, deal with it!

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OP, how do you know you are more attractive than he is?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot sleep with a man I find unattractive. Looks are important, personality is important, hygiene brains, morals are also important to me. I do not care if the person is not too wealthy. MC is fine by me. But, my ovaries would shrivel into dust if the man was unattractive, unclean, dumb, obnoxious or a jerk. Eeeekkk.

That is the reason that I admire the Kardashians. They end up with really hideous looking or weird men. How are they sleeping with them? Or having kids with them? These are women who are not shallow at all.

Similarly, women like Melania who married Donnie. She had to sleep with him at least once or twice, right? That woman has done so much to help her parents out of a communist country and bring them to America. This is for me a great example of filial piety and self sacrifice!

This sounds to me like you aren’t really attracted to black men because the only one with a hideous looking partner compared to their own looks is Kim and Kanye. Lamar and Khloe were equally matched when they got together as she was plain and pretty chubby then. Tristan is actually attractive on the outside. Kylie without photoshop and makeup is actually ugly as is Travis.

Melania was likely working as an escort when she met Donald given her age and the fact that most models careers are over at 25. So in that context he probably didn’t seem that bad.

Tristan's head is kinda small for his body. Lamar is more attractive for that reason. Tristan is not bad looking, but he is not attractive with that tiny head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know you are more attractive than he is?

Don’t you just know sometimes? I know looks are subjective but sometimes it’s pretty clear who in a relationship is better looking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine dating, let alone marrying, an unattractive man. So no.

Same. Why would you have married someone you did not find attractive OP? My DH is very attractive as is my only child. I would have stayed single if I had not found an attractive spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine dating, let alone marrying, an unattractive man. So no.

Same. Why would you have married someone you did not find attractive OP? My DH is very attractive as is my only child. I would have stayed single if I had not found an attractive spouse.

Because looks are only one part of the equation? And attractiveness isn’t black and white. You can be above average but still not that attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine dating, let alone marrying, an unattractive man. So no.

Same. Why would you have married someone you did not find attractive OP? My DH is very attractive as is my only child. I would have stayed single if I had not found an attractive spouse.

How long have you been married? Looks change over time. My DH got fat. It sucks. My desire is gone.