Anyone wish their spouse was more attractive?

[Anonymous]

DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

[Anonymous]

The more attractive a man is, the more successful a man is, the more his options increase, and I like that I am really attracted to my DH but not necessarily everyone else is.

I know a really tall, attractive man who is constantly hit on my women. A friend feels sorry for his wife because that's a lot of women to fend off, and sometimes she actively has to!

[Anonymous]

Meh no. My DH is tall and moderately attractive and I much prefer him not to be the most handsome man in the room. He thinks he married up looks-wise, and I am never worried about him with other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

Yes, you are horrible and superficial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more attractive a man is, the more successful a man is, the more his options increase, and I like that I am really attracted to my DH but not necessarily everyone else is.

I know a really tall, attractive man who is constantly hit on my women. A friend feels sorry for his wife because that's a lot of women to fend off, and sometimes she actively has to!

Meh at that point he's egging them on and encouraging it

[Anonymous]

no, I can honestly say I don't wish this.

I don't care if others find him attractive or not but I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

I don't have your problem, but I am not going to lie that imagining what my kids would look like was one of the things I took into consideration when picking a spouse. There were many other things, but this was one of them.

[Anonymous]

DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

How do you know he is less attractive?

Men may pay more attention to you than women do to him. However, this would mean little since men might be paying attention because they sense your contempt and believe you are open to sex.

Women are objectively more attractive than men. Again, this means little since the relevant factor is marketability, meaning which of the two of you is more likely to land a relationship post-divorce is the more important.

Now, marketability could mean who is more likely to find hook-up sex. Clearly, a married woman who is even moderately attractive could find sex easier than an attractive married man.

You think you are hotter? Here is how you get over it. Stop being horrible and cut him free (via divorce.) He will find more women to form relationships with and may find someone who treats him well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DH isn’t ugly but he’s less attractive than me and sometimes I feel annoyed by it for some reason. Or jealous of friends with more attractive husbands. Also, our kids have some of his less attractive features which which I feel annoyed about too sometimes…

I know, I’m horrible. Can anyone relate though? How do I get over it?

How do you know he is less attractive?

Men may pay more attention to you than women do to him. However, this would mean little since men might be paying attention because they sense your contempt and believe you are open to sex.

Women are objectively more attractive than men. Again, this means little since the relevant factor is marketability, meaning which of the two of you is more likely to land a relationship post-divorce is the more important.

Now, marketability could mean who is more likely to find hook-up sex. Clearly, a married woman who is even moderately attractive could find sex easier than an attractive married man.

You think you are hotter? Here is how you get over it. Stop being horrible and cut him free (via divorce.) He will find more women to form relationships with and may find someone who treats him well.

Women are objectively more attractive than men? Huh?

[Anonymous]

Okay it’s one thing to wish your husband was more attractive, but your kids!?!

I think you need to do some inner work and ask yourself why you think the appearance of your children matters so much to you. They deserve better from you.

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine dating, let alone marrying, an unattractive man. So no.

[Anonymous]

Women are objectively more attractive than men? Huh?

Yes, I think a woman's body (or appearance) is more attractive than a man's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine dating, let alone marrying, an unattractive man. So no.

Fair point.
So, OP, how did you pick this man in the first place? You seem to really dislike certain of his features.

[Anonymous]

I cannot sleep with a man I find unattractive. Looks are important, personality is important, hygiene brains, morals are also important to me. I do not care if the person is not too wealthy. MC is fine by me. But, my ovaries would shrivel into dust if the man was unattractive, unclean, dumb, obnoxious or a jerk. Eeeekkk.

That is the reason that I admire the Kardashians. They end up with really hideous looking or weird men. How are they sleeping with them? Or having kids with them? These are women who are not shallow at all.

Similarly, women like Melania who married Donnie. She had to sleep with him at least once or twice, right? That woman has done so much to help her parents out of a communist country and bring them to America. This is for me a great example of filial piety and self sacrifice!

[Anonymous]

Op if you do a score card on this small list, you are maybe 50/50?

Looks, okay YOU
Personality, who is nicer?
$, who makes more?
sex, who is better in bed?
family, who has nicer family?
religion?