It's not, though. He is not that tall and small-framed. He gained and lost the same 10lbs over the past 15 years but now he's creeping ever upward. He has commented on how he's got a belly and has gained more weight and needs to lose it. I try to be supportive, I certainly don't say "no you are fine the way you are!" but I encourage him to take time to himself to exercise and I don't bring junk into the house. He knows. If he got super fit, our sex life would skyrocket. |
+2 *I* am very attracted to my DH, and he’s 6’4, but he’s frankly a bit funny-looking and I know he thinks he hit the jackpot with me. I’ve been with very handsome men and it’s more trouble than it’s worth. Big plus: my DH is a wonderful husband and dad - he was born to be a family man. I feel very lucky. |
The men know better than to comment. |
Why, though? It's anonymous. |
Tell him this specifically. |
It's common sense, though. I cannot tell him this, it would hurt him. He's never been super fit, just not fat. If he told me this, I would think "he thinks I'm disgusting and he only wants me when I fit into a certain mold for him". It's disrespectful. And I don't think men are much different than women when it comes to this stuff. They are just as sensitive. |
I don't feel this way at all. For some reason TBH I feel... suspicious probably isn't the right word but I feel something not positive about super good looking men who put more than average effort into their looks.
I have always been way more into personality than looks though, BDE is real to me! Plus I always wanted to be better looking than my husband so I wouldn't have to be perpetually self conscious about my looks. I also feel that a lot of men are still attractive as they age while many women lose their looks so it would compound the issue if my DH were already better looking. |
Yep. My husband has had women chasing him hard since I met him when he was 25. He appeals to women of all ages…still at 51. I have always been equivalent in looks, fitness, intelligence career- but women are ruthless. Men seem to respect the ring on a finger more than the women that see it as a “challenge”. It can be exhausting. And if you lose trust over time…awful. |
What’s wrong with being with super handsome men? |
Nothing. A man whore is a whore. Less attractive men with status and charm still have women fawning over them. Ugly rich/ successful men cheat as much as the good looking ones. Marrying an uglier one does not save you any trouble. Women who go after married men will not spare yours because he is ugly. |
Yup. |
It's sometimes amazing how some men age so much for the better:
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I would rather that my wife thought that she was more attractive, rather than her self-esteem getting in the way. |
smart man has entered the chat |
I…..wow. This is a sterling example. |