[b] This is the raw unadorned truth. Internalized sexism and a desperate clawing at limited resources. The more competitive women become over promotions and seats in political office the better it will be for our daughters. |
So stupid. This is a completely subjective POV. There is absolutely nothing more inherently attractive about women. |
I agree women are objectively more attractive than men. No question. |
I never said a single negative thing. Only positive attention. Works over time. The most basic form for a spouse is, “You look sexy in X.” |
I’m from the region and Slovenia was NEVER a bad place to live. Not ever. Melania is an accomplice to the Trump family’s decades of fraud, she’s no patriot of any country. |
I wish my husband would lose 40 pounds. I hate that I'm not attracted to him. And no--I'm not that fit. I'm just shallow. We both struggle with our weight, so I don't blame him or think less of him for it. He tries, just like I do. But I can't really help it. He looks more and more like his father to me. He's not an unattractive man, and he's never been skinny. But something about the age and the weight together--I don't know. ![]() |
Me too. It's a turn off when men spend too much time at the gym. I don't care how good looking they are. My DH can be as big as he wants ( he is currently about 15 pounds overweight and has a belly) and I will be attracted to him anytime, anywhere. There is so much positive history between us that it's all in my mind at this point. |
It's OK, he is not that into you either anymore; you probably remind him of your fat mom. In any case, if he cared, he'd do something about it. But he knows you are disposable. |
uncalled for PP |
NP here who hit the last page of this thread and saw this post. My DH is similar and it’s been something we’ve always joked about and dealt with on our terms throughout our 22 year marriage. But I’m starting to think the pressure is becoming worse for him now that he’s hit 50 and it’s become a constant fight for him to battle these crazy younger women on business trips. Just fighting the wolves makes him exhausted. BTW, I trust him implicitly and we both have been aware of this fight for awhile…even amongst our friends prior to marriage. |
I feel you, OP. My DH looks about 6 months pregnant. It’s annoying because I know he’d be shocked if I gained a big gut. I hate the double standard. And I assumed we would both try to stay in shape for one another. We’ve been married only 5 years so he really let himself go quickly. |
You’re probably right. Except for the disposable part. We’ve been together for 25 years and don’t have a prenup. |
Lies. Ugly, broke men cheat all the time. Trust me. |
Welp, shoulda chose better, hun. |
The bad news is that weight loss might not reignite desire. It is frequently “not there” anymore regardless of his looks/body. |