Pajamas pants or super casual for school pickup/dropoff

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread filled entirely with mothers in law? Because that’s what it sounds like. It’s not 1950.

I'm 38 and think grown ups wearing pajamas in public is gross, lazy, and ugly. I also think its disrespectful in some ways. And shows your kids that its ok to put minimal effort in to your life. These aren't traits I would admire.

Get dressed before you leave your house or else you will be judged.

Why would the judgment of random people at school drop-off have any meaning to me?

Some people are still stuck in a middle school mentality, it seems.

[Anonymous]

So many grown ass women still think that one’s appearance has bearing on the value of a human, especially first thing in the morning doing a mundane task. Come on y’all. All the wonderful people you are missing out on and all the wonderful people that are missing out on you. Evolve- just a tiny bit.

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I don’t think it really matters much but if I’m being 100% honest I find the pajama thing kind of lazy and immature. It takes 10 seconds to throw on a pair of leggings or jeans.

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Years of pickups seeing every type of fashion from character PJs to business suits to bathing suits and nothing has bothered me. I am bothered easily so maybe I had to pick some things not to care about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work remotely, and I don't need to dress up. I often wear no makeup and messy hair in pajama pants or casually doing drop off/ pickup. I wonder what does school teachers/staffs/parents think of me? My kids are clean anx dressed well, excep me.

We only think you’re lazy if you pick them up in pjs.

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They could be lazy or they could be people with better, more interesting ways to spend their time. Frankly when I see someone impeccable all the time, I think they must not have much going on in their head to choose to spend their time that way.

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I don't judge hair. I know that curly/wavy hair is what it is and does not benefit from running a brush through it, lol.

Athletic wear makes sense since a lot of families walk or bike to school and a lot of parents are coming from our going to a workout. The thing that confuses me the most are the people who wear slippers. I notice the pajama pants more when they're paired with slippers than with normal shoes. I don't understand how they shuffle along, they're not even comfortable for walking long distances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread filled entirely with mothers in law? Because that’s what it sounds like. It’s not 1950.

I'm 38 and think grown ups wearing pajamas in public is gross, lazy, and ugly. I also think its disrespectful in some ways. And shows your kids that its ok to put minimal effort in to your life. These aren't traits I would admire.

Get dressed before you leave your house or else you will be judged.

Why would the judgment of random people at school drop-off have any meaning to me?

Some people are still stuck in a middle school mentality, it seems.

A couple of comments here. First, school isn't random. Its families of your kids friends, teachers and staff with meaningful roles in your kids lives and other parents in the same phase of life as you that you may wish to connect with. Its the opposite of random.

Second, OP is literally asking the opinion of random strangers on the internet. And she is getting it.

Third, I see a lot of middle schoolers wearing pajamas so not sure your analogy works. To me when I see grown ups in pajamas I think they are stuck in middle school and unable to be responsible and presentable like an adult!

Fourth, there is a really wide range between pajamas and impeccable. Pick something just slightly above pajamas if you dont want pity or judgement.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 little kids to get out the door on my own in the AM so I don't shower / do my hair and makeup until after I get back from drop off. However I always put on non-pj pants. It takes one second to put on black joggers and tennis shoes instead of mickie flannels and slippers.

I don't expect anyone to look nice (or notice whether they do) - they're going to or from the gym / work / home to wipe butts etc etc so it makes sense for people to look all sorts of pulled together or not. But if you can't at least put on clothes and shoes made for leaving the house (which is basically almost anything other than obvious pj pants and slippers) I do think you've just kind of given up on any having any self image beyond "frazzled mom / dad"

[Anonymous]

if you really can't change out of your pj pants, why not buy some black ones that don't scream PAJAMAS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many grown ass women still think that one’s appearance has bearing on the value of a human, especially first thing in the morning doing a mundane task. Come on y’all. All the wonderful people you are missing out on and all the wonderful people that are missing out on you. Evolve- just a tiny bit.

Putting on clothes other than those specifically designed to only be warn in bed and shoes that are actually designed for walking on sidewalks and other outdoor surfaces shows a minimum degree of living a functional life

[Anonymous]

There’s a huge difference between not looking like you just rolled out of bed and being fully dressed with hair and makeup done. No one on here is saying the latter is the standard, but some of you act like it’s just too much work to look slightly more put together than you did after you just woke up. Have some self-respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this thread filled entirely with mothers in law? Because that’s what it sounds like. It’s not 1950.

I'm 38 and think grown ups wearing pajamas in public is gross, lazy, and ugly. I also think its disrespectful in some ways. And shows your kids that its ok to put minimal effort in to your life. These aren't traits I would admire.

Get dressed before you leave your house or else you will be judged.

Why would the judgment of random people at school drop-off have any meaning to me?

Some people are still stuck in a middle school mentality, it seems.

A couple of comments here. First, school isn't random. Its families of your kids friends, teachers and staff with meaningful roles in your kids lives and other parents in the same phase of life as you that you may wish to connect with. Its the opposite of random.

Second, OP is literally asking the opinion of random strangers on the internet. And she is getting it.

Third, I see a lot of middle schoolers wearing pajamas so not sure your analogy works. To me when I see grown ups in pajamas I think they are stuck in middle school and unable to be responsible and presentable like an adult!

Fourth, there is a really wide range between pajamas and impeccable. Pick something just slightly above pajamas if you dont want pity or judgement.

Nope, don't care about what other parents think about me. They're not my friends (and my friends wouldn't care if they saw me in super-casual clothes). Administrators and teachers couldn't care less what parents are wearing in the morning.

Again, why would I care if my morning outfit bothers you? You're not a potential sexual partner, and you don't pay my paycheck. In video-game terms, you're an NPC.

Only really shallow people with too much time on their hands care about any of this.

[Anonymous]

I wear Aviator Nation sweats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a huge difference between not looking like you just rolled out of bed and being fully dressed with hair and makeup done. No one on here is saying the latter is the standard, but some of you act like it’s just too much work to look slightly more put together than you did after you just woke up. Have some self-respect.

I don't think people are saying it's too much work. They're just saying it's pointless, and they don't care.