Pajamas pants or super casual for school pickup/dropoff

[Anonymous]

No one cares what you look like at 7:30-8:00 am in a dark parking lot. Not if it is passed noon and you are still in pjs and a messy bun I’ll assume you have the flu or are lazy

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

And the people judging you are saying more about themselves than they are about you. If the person wearing pajamas doesn’t care, why do you? Don’t you have anything more worthwhile to think about? Do you need a book recommendation or a charity that is seeking volunteers?

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares.

While this is true, I would say they notice. I’m mean - pajama pants?! How lazy can you be? Pull on black leggings, joggers or yoga pants. But rolling out of bed and going to your kids school? People don’t care what op does, but that doesn’t mean s/he’s not leaving an impression.

What is the f-ing difference? None, really. Do you have an IQ of 5?

Says the person dropping f bombs.

The difference is effort, self respect, respect for your kids as you are making an impression on the people in their lives. Again, I don’t care, but don’t pretend people don’t notice.

If this is your bar, not interested in your opinion of me. You have a narrow view of what constitutes self-respect. So shallow. I'm more interested in your character, the meaningful things you do with your lives, the way you treat those kids and those teachers. The fact that pj pants is a deal-breaker for you suggests you lack real compassion or character.

I'm quite sure the teachers prefer the nice lady in her pj pants who thanks them and is respectful than the dolled-up mom constantly demanding this or that for her snowflake.

Our society has wasted time on this stuff for too long.

Amen. The amount of money and time women waste to look a certain way for strangers is mind boggling. It only matters because people choose to keep thinking that it matters.

Honestly, you could put a gun to my head, and I couldn't remember what anyone was wearing at school drop off.

This!!! I could only remember one - a mom who is now a friend - and that’s because during the early pandemic days when we were in person she always was dressed nicely and it stood out compared to our wfh survival gear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

And the people judging you are saying more about themselves than they are about you. If the person wearing pajamas doesn’t care, why do you? Don’t you have anything more worthwhile to think about? Do you need a book recommendation or a charity that is seeking volunteers?

It’s a great way to weed people out. People of substance don’t care what you wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m generally more worried about what I’m doing, but if I glance over and see someone in pjs I usually think whew, there is someone here more disorganized than me! No thoughts on well fitting/clean athleisure with non sloppy hair.

hahaha same
OP thanks for making me feel better

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

And the people judging you are saying more about themselves than they are about you. If the person wearing pajamas doesn’t care, why do you? Don’t you have anything more worthwhile to think about? Do you need a book recommendation or a charity that is seeking volunteers?

Calm down and go back to bed. You're already in your pajamas afterall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many grown ass women still think that one’s appearance has bearing on the value of a human, especially first thing in the morning doing a mundane task. Come on y’all. All the wonderful people you are missing out on and all the wonderful people that are missing out on you. Evolve- just a tiny bit.

Looking slovenly and being taken seriously is a privilege reserved for white people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

Judge away Karen. IDGAF what you think about me. Be happy I have clothes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are probably embarrassed as hell.

That means I'm doing my job as a parent.

I would agree with that in some cases, but not in the case of, "Oh look, Larla's mom is a slob who wears pajamas out in public."

I’m 35, and 20 years ago the mom the uptight moms made fun of as “sloppy” was the one all the girls liked the most because she was not obsessed with looks— she was a cool artist. So don’t worry, while you judge OP your daughter is embarrassed by you for being the uptight mom. We cannot escape embarrassing our child but you could try to be more creative about it.

I'm really not uptight. I was embarrassed by own mother for normal reasons, but absolutely mortified when she took me to school in her pajamas. I'm no fashionista, either.

If you’re calling Larla’s mom “a slob” then yes you are uptight, at least about this, potentially triggered by your personal history. If you care less what others think you will find you also care less how others dress. It’s better for your sons and daughters to model the idea that appearance is merely the least interesting thing about someone.

Not true. How you present yourself in appropriate clothing is very important. Dirty clothes, uncombed hair, wearing pajamas in public is a bad look and you are judged.

Judge away Karen. IDGAF what you think about me. Be happy I have clothes on.

Your last sentence reveals that you have a lot of "karen" traits yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 3 little kids to get out the door on my own in the AM so I don't shower / do my hair and makeup until after I get back from drop off. However I always put on non-pj pants. It takes one second to put on black joggers and tennis shoes instead of mickie flannels and slippers.

I don't expect anyone to look nice (or notice whether they do) - they're going to or from the gym / work / home to wipe butts etc etc so it makes sense for people to look all sorts of pulled together or not. But if you can't at least put on clothes and shoes made for leaving the house (which is basically almost anything other than obvious pj pants and slippers) I do think you've just kind of given up on any having any self image beyond "frazzled mom / dad"

However, EVERY working mom in the world can manage it but not you. Sad so very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares.

While this is true, I would say they notice. I’m mean - pajama pants?! How lazy can you be? Pull on black leggings, joggers or yoga pants. But rolling out of bed and going to your kids school? People don’t care what op does, but that doesn’t mean s/he’s not leaving an impression.

What is the f-ing difference? None, really. Do you have an IQ of 5?

Says the person dropping f bombs.

The difference is effort, self respect, respect for your kids as you are making an impression on the people in their lives. Again, I don’t care, but don’t pretend people don’t notice.

If this is your bar, not interested in your opinion of me. You have a narrow view of what constitutes self-respect. So shallow. I'm more interested in your character, the meaningful things you do with your lives, the way you treat those kids and those teachers. The fact that pj pants is a deal-breaker for you suggests you lack real compassion or character.

I'm quite sure the teachers prefer the nice lady in her pj pants who thanks them and is respectful than the dolled-up mom constantly demanding this or that for her snowflake.

Our society has wasted time on this stuff for too long.

Amen. The amount of money and time women waste to look a certain way for strangers is mind boggling. It only matters because people choose to keep thinking that it matters.

Honestly, you could put a gun to my head, and I couldn't remember what anyone was wearing at school drop off.

This!!! I could only remember one - a mom who is now a friend - and that’s because during the early pandemic days when we were in person she always was dressed nicely and it stood out compared to our wfh survival gear.

I work with a lot of extremely brilliant and successful women, many with young kids. While I have never dropped off in PJs, I am not so sanguine as to think it could never happen. We have a saying in my workplace that for every mother in the workplace with a messy bun and car-lipstick, there is a kid at school in perfectly matching bows (or matching mittens/hat). Everyone gets the same number of minutes in the morning and someone spending those minutes on their kid instead of their pants doesn’t impact me in the least.