What is your 13 year old daughter getting for Christmas?

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Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Shockingly my 13 year old daughter is a voracious reader and the head of the math club at her school AND wants Lululemon and expensive lip gloss.
What box should I put her in?

Thank you, PP. I know it’s pervasive on dcum, but the holier-than-thou posts are so tiresome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

It's a huge part of it.

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I bought mine a drum set.

Yeah, I'm an idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Do you want a medal???


My very accomplished teen wants Lululemon stuff and Uggs. Do you not remember wanting anything specific as a teen?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Do you want a medal???


My very accomplished teen wants Lululemon stuff and Uggs. Do you not remember wanting anything specific as a teen?

Same here. My parents bought me a Nintendo, which is the equivalent of some of these gifts now. In our house Christmas is a magical time, you get things you normally wouldn’t. We’re not getting these things all throughout the year.

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

[Anonymous]

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

Maybe true. My 13yr old isn’t on SM but is obsessed with brands like Nike, Under Armor and now Athleta and Lululemon. She used to happily wear Target stuff but not anymore. This influence is coming from her peers. We are not at a high income school.

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Sheesh! They are Christmas presents. If a parent wants to treat their kid to something within their budget range, why shouldn't they?

My almost 13 yo bookworm is not on social media and hasn't asked for any of these things, but if she did, I would get them for her.

I somewhat wish she was into these things. It would make my shopping easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sheesh! They are Christmas presents. If a parent wants to treat their kid to something within their budget range, why shouldn't they?

My almost 13 yo bookworm is not on social media and hasn't asked for any of these things, but if she did, I would get them for her.

I somewhat wish she was into these things. It would make my shopping easier.

I understand what you’re saying, but I also think that this post encapsulates everything that’s wrong with the grotesque consumerist juggernaut that is modern Christmas.

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And just because someone put something on their Christmas list doesn’t mean they’re actually getting it! I remember one of my nephews putting ‘Gucci slippers’ on his list, because someone at school said his mom loved the ones she has (he was 7 or 8).

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Anonymous wrote:Sheesh! They are Christmas presents. If a parent wants to treat their kid to something within their budget range, why shouldn't they?

My almost 13 yo bookworm is not on social media and hasn't asked for any of these things, but if she did, I would get them for her.

I somewhat wish she was into these things. It would make my shopping easier.

I understand what you’re saying, but I also think that this post encapsulates everything that’s wrong with the grotesque consumerist juggernaut that is modern Christmas.

So just as an example, what do you get your teen? I really want to understand.

Personally I find getting Uggs and a random Lululemon top no different than the kids who get game consoles or other expensive toys. Clothing gets worn. A lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Sheesh! They are Christmas presents. If a parent wants to treat their kid to something within their budget range, why shouldn't they?

My almost 13 yo bookworm is not on social media and hasn't asked for any of these things, but if she did, I would get them for her.

I somewhat wish she was into these things. It would make my shopping easier.

I understand what you’re saying, but I also think that this post encapsulates everything that’s wrong with the grotesque consumerist juggernaut that is modern Christmas.

So just as an example, what do you get your teen? I really want to understand.

Personally I find getting Uggs and a random Lululemon top no different than the kids who get game consoles or other expensive toys. Clothing gets worn. A lot.

Mine’s not into brand name clothes or electronics. She’s into art, music, thrift store clothing. She’ll get records and arts supplies for the most part. And I’m not trying to sound holier-than-though, really. I get swept up in the craziness sometimes, too. It’s just the idea that kids who already have everything deserve even more just because we can afford it and just because the internet made them want it. And then calling it the “magic of Christmas.” (Not you, a different poster.) I struggle with this time of year.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what's on my (almost) 13 year old's list.

- Ryse loaded protein powder in the flavor chocolate PB cup (I got this for her, and she says it's delicious)

- Lightening McQueen crocs
- Jordan 4s
- Jordan 1s
- New Balance 530s
- Uggs ulta minis

- Dior Lip Oil (cherry) - This seems to be a thing
- Sol de Janeiro Brazilian bum bum cream and body spray
- Laniege lip glowy balm
- Laneige lip sleeping mask
- Ariana grande eau de parfum

- Aerie crossover flare leggings
- Lululemon define jacket

basically my daughter's list minus the crocs. Where is everyone finding Jordans? They're impossible to find, especially the black and white ones. Why isn't Nike making more oft these things??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sheesh! They are Christmas presents. If a parent wants to treat their kid to something within their budget range, why shouldn't they?

My almost 13 yo bookworm is not on social media and hasn't asked for any of these things, but if she did, I would get them for her.

I somewhat wish she was into these things. It would make my shopping easier.

I understand what you’re saying, but I also think that this post encapsulates everything that’s wrong with the grotesque consumerist juggernaut that is modern Christmas.

So just as an example, what do you get your teen? I really want to understand.

Personally I find getting Uggs and a random Lululemon top no different than the kids who get game consoles or other expensive toys. Clothing gets worn. A lot.

Mine’s not into brand name clothes or electronics. She’s into art, music, thrift store clothing. She’ll get records and arts supplies for the most part. And I’m not trying to sound holier-than-though, really. I get swept up in the craziness sometimes, too. It’s just the idea that kids who already have everything deserve even more just because we can afford it and just because the internet made them want it. And then calling it the “magic of Christmas.” (Not you, a different poster.) I struggle with this time of year.

I'm the PP with the "Sheesh" comment so not the one you are responding to.

But we can only work to create a real Christmas in our own homes, full of more than just presents I hope. This thread when viewed in entirety can make you think that all teens just are materialistic with the case of the gimmes. But I've met more than enough parents to realize that behind any Dior Lip oil or Taylor Swift tix is a real child, one that may not be as materialistic as they seem just from their shopping list.

What are they doing in their environment? Are they contributing in effort and in other ways to their school, their peers, their family and community?
For many on this list, I suspect the answer is yes, but then again the title of this thread is what is your DD getting for Christmas.

And for kids being influenced by social media, yes they probably are. Hopefully their parents are on top of that, but teens have historically been into trends. That's one way for them to fit in while they may be seeking their identity at a vulnerable time.

[Anonymous]

Florence by Mills is also on my DD's list--I was today years old when I realized this is Millie Bobby Brown's skincare line lol