What is your 13 year old daughter getting for Christmas?

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I come from a MC family, but my parents always got me the name brand items I craved for Christmas: Abercrombie clothes, Uggs, Juicy sweatsuits, Juicy tubes, etc (the equivalent of Lululemon, bum bum cream, and Dior lip glow today). I loved fashion growing up, and it was so important knowing my parents understood that.

I am not vapid or materialistic. I have a PhD, a great job, great DH and kids. And I have a wonderfully close relationship with my parents today. Having the right brands gave me a lot of happiness and confidence growing up, and I don’t know if I would be who I am today if my parents had been stingy or judgmental.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

My dd is also in a magnet program for visual arts. If you’re in DC, maybe they already know each other 😄

So wanting expensive, name brand markers is a badge of honor, but, expensive pants are shameful?

Bottom line, kids want expensive stuff. Surprise, they are like adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a MC family, but my parents always got me the name brand items I craved for Christmas: Abercrombie clothes, Uggs, Juicy sweatsuits, Juicy tubes, etc (the equivalent of Lululemon, bum bum cream, and Dior lip glow today). I loved fashion growing up, and it was so important knowing my parents understood that.

I am not vapid or materialistic. I have a PhD, a great job, great DH and kids. And I have a wonderfully close relationship with my parents today. Having the right brands gave me a lot of happiness and confidence growing up, and I don’t know if I would be who I am today if my parents had been stingy or judgmental.

You don’t know who you would be today if your parents hadn’t bought you the Juicy sweatsuit you wanted? Some of you aren’t making the cases you think you are. Also, can we stop equating love for fashion with love for whatever mass produced trendy thing everyone else is wearing? Not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So weird how people are bragging on their daughters make up AND being nice. All the 13 year old girls I knew as a child and now as an adult that are obsessed with make up and looks, are really brats.

Just because someone asked for makeup, doesn't mean they're obsessed with makeup and looks. Mine doesn't wear makeup to school. There are kids that do. Yet, she wanted stuff like Dior lip oil, that she will wear on occasion.

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a MC family, but my parents always got me the name brand items I craved for Christmas: Abercrombie clothes, Uggs, Juicy sweatsuits, Juicy tubes, etc (the equivalent of Lululemon, bum bum cream, and Dior lip glow today). I loved fashion growing up, and it was so important knowing my parents understood that.

I am not vapid or materialistic. I have a PhD, a great job, great DH and kids. And I have a wonderfully close relationship with my parents today. Having the right brands gave me a lot of happiness and confidence growing up, and I don’t know if I would be who I am today if my parents had been stingy or judgmental.

You don’t know who you would be today if your parents hadn’t bought you the Juicy sweatsuit you wanted? Some of you aren’t making the cases you think you are. Also, can we stop equating love for fashion with love for whatever mass produced trendy thing everyone else is wearing? Not the same.

For the average teen, it is the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a MC family, but my parents always got me the name brand items I craved for Christmas: Abercrombie clothes, Uggs, Juicy sweatsuits, Juicy tubes, etc (the equivalent of Lululemon, bum bum cream, and Dior lip glow today). I loved fashion growing up, and it was so important knowing my parents understood that.

I am not vapid or materialistic. I have a PhD, a great job, great DH and kids. And I have a wonderfully close relationship with my parents today. Having the right brands gave me a lot of happiness and confidence growing up, and I don’t know if I would be who I am today if my parents had been stingy or judgmental.

You don’t know who you would be today if your parents hadn’t bought you the Juicy sweatsuit you wanted? Some of you aren’t making the cases you think you are. Also, can we stop equating love for fashion with love for whatever mass produced trendy thing everyone else is wearing? Not the same.

For the average teen, it is the same.

+1 The teens who are seen as fashionable by their peers are the ones who are trendy, not the ones in Old Navy or Costco brands.

[Anonymous]

Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

Nobody is bashing the girls who don't want these things. No one has called them loser. I will admit to being the poster who thinks that some of them are hiding things from you. My comment was certainly not meant to bash these girls. It was meant to be a commentary on what you, as the adult, are fostering.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

If your kid goes to HS in the DMV, the chances of that seem very low.

I don’t know, my DD is at a HS with a visual arts magnet program, and I don’t see a lot of those brands. It’s possible some of the flared leggings I sometimes see are Lululemon, but I doubt it. Definitely no Uggs, but tons of Crocs. My DD and her friends not only don’t wear Lululemon or Uggs, they wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

The sportier girls sometimes wear baggy sweats and hoodies, but I generally see lots more thrifted-type outfits. It’s just a very quirky, creative environment, so the way to conform (to be “cool,” that is) is to not conform, if that makes sense? There’s almost more competition to be anti-fashion.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

Nobody is bashing the girls who don't want these things. No one has called them loser. I will admit to being the poster who thinks that some of them are hiding things from you. My comment was certainly not meant to bash these girls. It was meant to be a commentary on what you, as the adult, are fostering.

Again, you don’t get it. If I bought my daughter clothes that the popular, trendy girls wear, she wouldn’t wear them. She very consciously does not want to look like they do. And I’m not saying that’s some sort of badge of honor, I’m just stating a fact. Her friends are the same.

Read the post above this. That one gets it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

Nobody is bashing the girls who don't want these things. No one has called them loser. I will admit to being the poster who thinks that some of them are hiding things from you. My comment was certainly not meant to bash these girls. It was meant to be a commentary on what you, as the adult, are fostering.

Again, you don’t get it. If I bought my daughter clothes that the popular, trendy girls wear, she wouldn’t wear them. She very consciously does not want to look like they do. And I’m not saying that’s some sort of badge of honor, I’m just stating a fact. Her friends are the same.

Read the post above this. That one gets it.

You don’t seem to understand that just because a kid isn’t asking doesn’t mean they don’t want it or look down on it.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

If your kid goes to HS in the DMV, the chances of that seem very low.

I don’t know, my DD is at a HS with a visual arts magnet program, and I don’t see a lot of those brands. It’s possible some of the flared leggings I sometimes see are Lululemon, but I doubt it. Definitely no Uggs, but tons of Crocs. My DD and her friends not only don’t wear Lululemon or Uggs, they wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

The sportier girls sometimes wear baggy sweats and hoodies, but I generally see lots more thrifted-type outfits. It’s just a very quirky, creative environment, so the way to conform (to be “cool,” that is) is to not conform, if that makes sense? There’s almost more competition to be anti-fashion.

Are any of them wearing Docs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

I've read through this entire thread and not once did someone bash girls who don't like the expensive stuff and no one on this thread said that girls who don't like these things are liars or losers. Clearly this has struck a cord with you and perhaps you need to look inward as to why, then get off this thread and get some therapy. You don't need to launch WWIII on here just because your DD doesn't want bum bum cream and others do. It's not that big of a deal. The purpose of this thread was to discuss what teen girls want, not to analyze how those choices shape their character.

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Anonymous wrote:Can the posters who are bashing other people's daughters for wanting clothes and makeup get off this thread? Very tired of women perpetuating the misogynistic idea that being girly=being vain and materialistic.

Sure, if we can also stop bashing girls who don’t want clothes and makeup. I’m tired of people perpetuating the idea that all teenage girls want the exact same things, and if they don’t, they must be liars or losers.

Nobody is bashing the girls who don't want these things. No one has called them loser. I will admit to being the poster who thinks that some of them are hiding things from you. My comment was certainly not meant to bash these girls. It was meant to be a commentary on what you, as the adult, are fostering.

Again, you don’t get it. If I bought my daughter clothes that the popular, trendy girls wear, she wouldn’t wear them. She very consciously does not want to look like they do. And I’m not saying that’s some sort of badge of honor, I’m just stating a fact. Her friends are the same.

Read the post above this. That one gets it.

You don’t seem to understand that just because a kid isn’t asking doesn’t mean they don’t want it or look down on it.

+1 Oftentimes kids don't ask for these items because they worry about being judged by their parents (who take pride in their kids not being like other girls) and their peers (for thinking they're trying too hard). These kids are often already outsiders. There are of course exceptions like PP's daughter at an artsy school. Every environment has its own rules, in-groups, and indicators.