I do not like the parent population at my kids school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

I think the OP is a troll trying to stir up some anti-private hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Well actually I disagree. If your kids are on high school sports teams we’ve already been to many games already for our high school. We’ve had back to school nights and parent meetings and parent association meetings and several games already for all 3 of my kids so it’s definitely possible for the OP to have been to at least 15-20 school events between her two kids at this point. I surely have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Highschool sports are in full swing! My kids have already had several games each plus parent meetings etc… Op could definitely have gotten a vibe even if she went to just 2 or 3 events and got the cold shoulder.

What I find odd is the naysayer posters. I don’t think anyone can tell op or anyone else how they should feel. You don’t know her situation or interactions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

What are you so invested in disproving the op? I find that really strange. Do you know her? Are you worried she is talking about you and your school? I don’t get your intentions to disprove her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

I think the OP is a troll trying to stir up some anti-private hate.

Yes, I think that’s right. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

How long have you been there? It's possible that connections will grow over time.

I have nothing in common with the parents at the school my child goes to and yet everyone is cordial and welcoming and I am definitely not miserable.

Is it a matter of you hoped to get your own friends when you enrolled your child? Say more so we understand why you are miserable, sounds like you are having a hard time with the unmet expectations.

I hav

Different poster here.

The thing is that at some schools, many people are NOT cordial or welcoming. That is the problem. I am NOT looking for my new BFFs or even friends but it would be nice if people who I chatted with 2 or 3 times at previous events would even acknowledge me when passing at the next event It's just weird. I didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday and have been in many DC circles of busy people who still manage to engage politely with others. So when SAHMs of high schoolers at our school look through me (and others) I know it's not because they're "too busy"; rather that they're just being obnoxious.
Vent over: I have met some lovely people and have a dozen or so I can chat with at events and a few that I will probably keep in touch with long after my kids graduate. But the rest I could really do without.

Not a private school situation. It's the mean high school kids not changing and being mean adults. Why do you want to be friends with people who make you feel bad? You have a few people who you say are lovely so put your energy there makes more sense.

This. Every time I encounter a "mean mom" who looks through me like I'm air I picture her as the sad and empty person who was likely an unloved or ignored little girl and needs to "empty other people's buckets" in order to try and fill hers, but it never will work and she might die without having reached true self acceptance or any true happiness within herself. They are kind of pathetic.
Find one or two friendly people through volunteering or through parents of the nicer kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

What are you so invested in disproving the op? I find that really strange. Do you know her? Are you worried she is talking about you and your school? I don’t get your intentions to disprove her?

I’m not that PP, but I despite liars, and I think OP is clearly lying or trolling.

[Anonymous]

OP, parents are not mean everywhere. I am sorry you are experiencing this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

What are you so invested in disproving the op? I find that really strange. Do you know her? Are you worried she is talking about you and your school? I don’t get your intentions to disprove her?

I’m not that PP, but I despite liars, and I think OP is clearly lying or trolling.

Because no new parent ever disliked the parent community at the school their child attends?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

[Anonymous]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2022/09/25/carolyn-hax-daughter-friends-mom/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Why do you need to socialize with the parents? Don't you have other friends? family?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming OP’s child started the day after Labor Day, like most local independent schools, her DD has been in school 14 days total. Hardly enough time to make friends!

Yes, I’m the PP who said I don’t understand and this is why. OPs kids are in high school. The kids have been in school a month, if that. Possibly just two weeks. How can OP even have met enough people to even reach this conclusion? It seems insane to me.

What are you so invested in disproving the op? I find that really strange. Do you know her? Are you worried she is talking about you and your school? I don’t get your intentions to disprove her?

I’m not that PP, but I despite liars, and I think OP is clearly lying or trolling.

Because no new parent ever disliked the parent community at the school their child attends?

Of course not, but the facts here seem very very off. I think OP is trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

You must be at Flint Hill.

I was thinking of another school. Are they like this at Flint Hill?

Absolutely.