Moving to a different state and impact on kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should also weigh the potential the increased opportunities from your new salary that they would get. If this job will help you cover grad school or a future down payment for your children, then they are old enough to understand and factor that into their feelings on moving. Ask them, what is more important, keeping the same friends or more resources available to you in the future?

It’s not just about keeping the same friends. Do you not have a deeper understanding, or are you that much of a simpleton?
Money isn’t everything. Don’t we teach our kids that?
You can be bought, not all can.

This made me smile. The women on this forum are typically much sharper than you, what are you doing on here? Lol, "Money isn't everything" on a board where women routinely talk about their $350 HHI as being middle class.

When I was a teen, if my parents had told me a potential move would significantly improve our family's finances and allow me to go to grad school debt free, I would have said yes, even though being away from my friends and cousins would have been tough. But hey, I'm a simpleton (who happens to speak three languages!) so what do I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should also weigh the potential the increased opportunities from your new salary that they would get. If this job will help you cover grad school or a future down payment for your children, then they are old enough to understand and factor that into their feelings on moving. Ask them, what is more important, keeping the same friends or more resources available to you in the future?

DP. Friends and stability can be of value. Some don’t need or value the economic resources you’re speaking of more. Seems they have resources already, friends are not replaceable.

These are middle school kids. My kids never moved until after college, and they had entirely different high school friends than middle school friends anyway. For many kids, friends ARE replaceable and often ARE replaced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should also weigh the potential the increased opportunities from your new salary that they would get. If this job will help you cover grad school or a future down payment for your children, then they are old enough to understand and factor that into their feelings on moving. Ask them, what is more important, keeping the same friends or more resources available to you in the future?

It’s not just about keeping the same friends. Do you not have a deeper understanding, or are you that much of a simpleton?
Money isn’t everything. Don’t we teach our kids that?
You can be bought, not all can.

This made me smile. The women on this forum are typically much sharper than you, what are you doing on here? Lol, "Money isn't everything" on a board where women routinely talk about their $350 HHI as being middle class.

When I was a teen, if my parents had told me a potential move would significantly improve our family's finances and allow me to go to grad school debt free, I would have said yes, even though being away from my friends and cousins would have been tough. But hey, I'm a simpleton (who happens to speak three languages!) so what do I know.

You’re one of those $350 HHI dcum women who come on here to talk bad about other women.
I speak 3 languages and no one cares as well. No one cares if you speak 7, 12, 24 languages. Really. That is not a measure of intelligence, but you’re so obtuse, you think that.

[Anonymous]

We moved abroad during my DC’s sophomore year. It’s been fine. I can’t believe all of the people saying no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband moved 6 times as a kid. While he didn't love moving, the only one that was a huge problem was the move in the middle of high school. He adapted fine to all of the other moves.

Middle school is a perfect time to move. The kids will get over it.

NP.. moving in MS is a toss up. My sister moved while older one was in MS, younger in ES. Younger adapted. Older had a really really hard time. Fell in with a bad crowd.

We moved when the kids were 7 and 4. Easily adapted.

My DH moved at 13 or 14. He adapted.

It really is a toss up. MS age is already kind of hard. This could make it harder. It really depends on the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should also weigh the potential the increased opportunities from your new salary that they would get. If this job will help you cover grad school or a future down payment for your children, then they are old enough to understand and factor that into their feelings on moving. Ask them, what is more important, keeping the same friends or more resources available to you in the future?

It’s not just about keeping the same friends. Do you not have a deeper understanding, or are you that much of a simpleton?
Money isn’t everything. Don’t we teach our kids that?
You can be bought, not all can.

This made me smile. The women on this forum are typically much sharper than you, what are you doing on here? Lol, "Money isn't everything" on a board where women routinely talk about their $350 HHI as being middle class.

When I was a teen, if my parents had told me a potential move would significantly improve our family's finances and allow me to go to grad school debt free, I would have said yes, even though being away from my friends and cousins would have been tough. But hey, I'm a simpleton (who happens to speak three languages!) so what do I know.

No, as a teen you would not have said this. It’s what you want and making some ridiculous hypothetical to boost your agenda.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved abroad during my DC’s sophomore year. It’s been fine. I can’t believe all of the people saying no.

You can’t believe people have different feelings and experiences than you? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should also weigh the potential the increased opportunities from your new salary that they would get. If this job will help you cover grad school or a future down payment for your children, then they are old enough to understand and factor that into their feelings on moving. Ask them, what is more important, keeping the same friends or more resources available to you in the future?

It’s not just about keeping the same friends. Do you not have a deeper understanding, or are you that much of a simpleton?
Money isn’t everything. Don’t we teach our kids that?
You can be bought, not all can.

This made me smile. The women on this forum are typically much sharper than you, what are you doing on here? Lol, "Money isn't everything" on a board where women routinely talk about their $350 HHI as being middle class.

When I was a teen, if my parents had told me a potential move would significantly improve our family's finances and allow me to go to grad school debt free, I [b]would have said yes, even though being away from my friends and cousins would have been tough. But hey, I'm a simpleton (who happens to speak three languages!) so what do I know.

[Anonymous]

Unless your kids are in a special program in MCPS like magnet, I would move them. We can’t even move to another county in MD because DD is 2 years into a MCPS program that doesn’t have an equivalent where DH wants to move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband moved 6 times as a kid. While he didn't love moving, the only one that was a huge problem was the move in the middle of high school. He adapted fine to all of the other moves.

Middle school is a perfect time to move. The kids will get over it.

NP.. moving in MS is a toss up. My sister moved while older one was in MS, younger in ES. Younger adapted. Older had a really really hard time. Fell in with a bad crowd.

We moved when the kids were 7 and 4. Easily adapted.

My DH moved at 13 or 14. He adapted.

It really is a toss up. MS age is already kind of hard. This could make it harder. It really depends on the kids.

With a middle schooler, there’s no way to predict how they will turn out whether you move or stay put. Two of my former in-laws managed to fall in with a bad crowd at Churchill despite living in the neighborhood since they were toddlers.

[Anonymous]

What’s your priority? Your children’s well-being or money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband moved 6 times as a kid. While he didn't love moving, the only one that was a huge problem was the move in the middle of high school. He adapted fine to all of the other moves.

Middle school is a perfect time to move. The kids will get over it.

NP.. moving in MS is a toss up. My sister moved while older one was in MS, younger in ES. Younger adapted. Older had a really really hard time. Fell in with a bad crowd.

We moved when the kids were 7 and 4. Easily adapted.

My DH moved at 13 or 14. He adapted.

It really is a toss up. MS age is already kind of hard. This could make it harder. It really depends on the kids.

With a middle schooler, there’s no way to predict how they will turn out whether you move or stay put. Two of my former in-laws managed to fall in with a bad crowd at Churchill despite living in the neighborhood since they were toddlers.

The pp inferred the move affected the child. Not the same scenario as you gave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your priority? Your children’s well-being or money?

ridiculous framing. no evidence whatsoever that staying where they are will bring about "children's well-being".

[Anonymous]

Midwesterners are generally quite nice and friendly. Your kids and you will likely find making new friends in the Chicago area easier than you might expect. Id do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

Np I think your response pp is over the top. People are different and that does not make them "weirdos" You could have asked why they don't want to move instead of being rude.