Moving to a different state and impact on kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

What an “apology?!”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here you go OP. Ages 12-14 are the hardest for kids.

https://medium.com/@washingtonpost/moving-as-a-child-can-change-who-you-are-as-an-adult-c40e46740156

Agree with this.

And what makes you the expert?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

Therefore, kids are weirdos if they want to stay rather than uproot and move. Got it.

[Anonymous]

I’ve moved my kids across the country twice and to a new school district locally (couldn’t find anything to buy in our price range). This last move the middle schooler was still close enough to hang out with old friends and we moved in a transition year. They also don’t like change and no way would I move them at this stage if it could be helped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here you go OP. Ages 12-14 are the hardest for kids.

https://medium.com/@washingtonpost/moving-as-a-child-can-change-who-you-are-as-an-adult-c40e46740156

Agree with this.

And what makes you the expert?

You called me the expert, I didn’t. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve moved my kids across the country twice and to a new school district locally (couldn’t find anything to buy in our price range). This last move the middle schooler was still close enough to hang out with old friends and we moved in a transition year. They also don’t like change and no way would I move them at this stage if it could be helped.

Mr hey must be aerosols according to at least one poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve moved my kids across the country twice and to a new school district locally (couldn’t find anything to buy in our price range). This last move the middle schooler was still close enough to hang out with old friends and we moved in a transition year. They also don’t like change and no way would I move them at this stage if it could be helped.

Get ready for your kids to be called weirdos from a poster on here.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

Yeah, you’re rude and feel sorry for yourself with your unapology. “But geez.”

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

Therefore, kids are weirdos if they want to stay rather than uproot and move. Got it.

No. Every kid is going to say they don't want to. Whether their wishes should necessarily carry the day in every instance is another issue. For some families, moving is clearly the right answer. For others, it might not be so clear, but on balance a move may make sense. For a few, it's a hard pass, if for among other reasons the kids are weirdos and the parents are convinced they can't adjust.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

Therefore, kids are weirdos if they want to stay rather than uproot and move. Got it.

No. Every kid is going to say they don't want to. Whether their wishes should necessarily carry the day in every instance is another issue. For some families, moving is clearly the right answer. For others, it might not be so clear, but on balance a move may make sense. For a few, it's a hard pass, if for among other reasons the kids are weirdos and the parents are convinced they can't adjust.

In underestimated your inappropriateness with your persistence in calling children weirdos.
Why did you attempt to apologize? Because you know you’ve embarrassed yourself.
You are the weirdo in all of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Hard pass.

Are your kids weirdos or something?

No, but you are to be saying something so asinine. You’ve embarrassed yourself.

Well, "hard pass" is an equally stupid response.

NP again. It’s an appropriate answer to infer a vehement no. You know that already and have embarrassed yourself plenty.

A fabulous job opportunity at a much higher pay in a great city with excellent schools and all you can say is "hard pass?"

Asking if children are weirdos is all you can say?

Well, I mean, to not even consider the possibility tells me that the poster doesn't think much of her kids' ability to adapt.

I would say a hard pass answer would likely mean they have thought about it or experienced it, weirdo.
You just don’t agree and attack people who have a different opinion. You are an entitled witch.

Wow, sorry if I struck a nerve. I wasn't saying her kids ARE weirdos, I was just wondering if they might be because she was so vehemently opposed to the idea without offering any reasoning whatever. I apologize, but geez.

Therefore, kids are weirdos if they want to stay rather than uproot and move. Got it.

No. Every kid is going to say they don't want to. Whether their wishes should necessarily carry the day in every instance is another issue. For some families, moving is clearly the right answer. For others, it might not be so clear, but on balance a move may make sense. For a few, it's a hard pass, if for among other reasons the kids are weirdos and the parents are convinced they can't adjust.

No, my child did not say they didn’t want to move. Regrets it now.

[Anonymous]

I would not do it BUT I will say I was the kid who had to move every 3 years or so until I was in 6th grade. Having stability from 6th grade on was very important to me. That said, I did make new friends everywhere I went and am still friends with all my important friends from various stages of life to this day. Now, my kids have been friends with the same kids since the age of 2-3 and they are in upper ES, so personally I wouldn’t do it because their friendships are so special and grounding for them. That’s just a personal situation though, and each situation is different and nuanced. The question I would ask yourself is how important are their friendships to them now and how important are they to the mental health and well-being of your children?

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Anonymous wrote:I would not do it BUT I will say I was the kid who had to move every 3 years or so until I was in 6th grade. Having stability from 6th grade on was very important to me. That said, I did make new friends everywhere I went and am still friends with all my important friends from various stages of life to this day. Now, my kids have been friends with the same kids since the age of 2-3 and they are in upper ES, so personally I wouldn’t do it because their friendships are so special and grounding for them. That’s just a personal situation though, and each situation is different and nuanced. The question I would ask yourself is how important are their friendships to them now and how important are they to the mental health and well-being of your children?

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Unless your kids have anxiety disorders or other conditions that would cause this to severely impact their mental health, there is no reason to insulate them from change. They're in MS. They will absolutely miss their friends, but they will also make new ones and be stable through high school.

Sounds like you're highly resourced, too.
Throw them a party.
Send them back for a week to stay with old friends.
Invite old friends to visit to join on vacation.

It's a gift to your children to expand their horizons and show them new strengths and broaden their networks. Especially when you can afford to keep ties to the old ones.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless your kids have anxiety disorders or other conditions that would cause this to severely impact their mental health, there is no reason to insulate them from change. They're in MS. They will absolutely miss their friends, but they will also make new ones and be stable through high school.

Sounds like you're highly resourced, too.
Throw them a party.
Send them back for a week to stay with old friends.
Invite old friends to visit to join on vacation.

It's a gift to your children to expand their horizons and show them new strengths and broaden their networks. Especially when you can afford to keep ties to the old ones.

Good luck!

Like I said . . .