Neighbors having sex in backyard

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Anonymous wrote:We've had outdoor sex on our property as well as in our apartment with the curtain open where people could see us. It was hot. If you're not interested, don't look.

So, it's "hot" because you might be seen. Right. But the problem with that thinking is that the people participating in your fetish (voyeurism) have not consented to it.

They don't need to look into our apartment window then. No one's putting a gun to their head. We're not doing it on the metro.

People in other countries manage to not look in other peoples windows. As it is rude.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooooo… my DH and I sat outside for a nightcap and heard it. Super awkward. Why would anyone do this? We started laughing - not offended but definitely thought it was an odd night to choose for it.

Sorry! We thought you’d already gone to bed!

Curious though, you were cool with this except for the night we chose? 😂

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

dad has a great tongue? 👅

I agree, no kid is happy / ecstatic when they see their mom getting railed up the ass by daddy.

Ugh yes as a teen and college student I HATED hearing my parents. It didn't seem fair to me that they could carry on but I wasn't allowed b.c I wasnt married. I was made to feel ashamed and guilty for even having sexual thoughts...which I did all the time.
-Recovering Catholic

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Anonymous wrote:It is in fact, illegal to do this.

Cite, please.

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Anonymous wrote:It is in fact, illegal to do this.

Cite, please.

It can’t be illegal to be overheard having sex.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

dad has a great tongue? 👅

I agree, no kid is happy / ecstatic when they see their mom getting railed up the ass by daddy.

Ugh yes as a teen and college student I HATED hearing my parents. It didn't seem fair to me that they could carry on but I wasn't allowed b.c I wasnt married. I was made to feel ashamed and guilty for even having sexual thoughts...which I did all the time.
-Recovering Catholic

So you think you’d be better of with parents who had a sexless marriage??? In which case would your kids be better off if you and your spouse didn’t have sex? Couples can’t have sex in their own home until the kids are out? This country really has taken a nosedive. Sure no kid wants to see or hear their parents but they should recognize that it is healthy, appropriate part of family life and like I said before glad their parents are doing it. Some people really need to grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

I feel sad for you and worse for your parents. As a teen I “caught” my grandparents when I got up in the middle of the night to get some water. I was impressed and happy for them.

And I feel sad for you that you cannot seem to understand that two, seemingly opposing statements, can both be true. It isnt one or the other. You can be happy for other people having a sex life but you can also have expectations that you not be subjected to it. If you want to have sex everywhere, dont have guests. If you want to do it regularly in your home with children and others but most especially non-adults, sound proof your room and get a lock. If you want to have sex outside, be quiet and be in an enclosed space ( outdoor shower for example)- although the rhythmic slapping of wet skin is pretty singular.

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I’d have yelled “FAKE! Do better dude so she doesn’t need to fake!”

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

dad has a great tongue? 👅

I agree, no kid is happy / ecstatic when they see their mom getting railed up the ass by daddy.

Ugh yes as a teen and college student I HATED hearing my parents. It didn't seem fair to me that they could carry on but I wasn't allowed b.c I wasnt married. I was made to feel ashamed and guilty for even having sexual thoughts...which I did all the time.
-Recovering Catholic

So you think you’d be better of with parents who had a sexless marriage??? In which case would your kids be better off if you and your spouse didn’t have sex? Couples can’t have sex in their own home until the kids are out? This country really has taken a nosedive. Sure no kid wants to see or hear their parents but they should recognize that it is healthy, appropriate part of family life and like I said before glad their parents are doing it. Some people really need to grow up.

FYI most psychologists, sexologists, and sex-positive therapists disagree with YOU. No one is saying it cant happen accidently but you cannot just free-for-all and act like everyone else is suppressed. Consent applies to this who will witness it or hear it. If you arent willing to negate possible instances of non-consenting persons witnessing or hearing it then you are just self-absorbed.

[Anonymous]

I’ve tried to talk my husband into this for years. In the hammock. We have a privacy fence and lots of trees. He’s not into it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

I feel sad for you and worse for your parents. As a teen I “caught” my grandparents when I got up in the middle of the night to get some water. I was impressed and happy for them.

And I feel sad for you that you cannot seem to understand that two, seemingly opposing statements, can both be true. It isnt one or the other. You can be happy for other people having a sex life but you can also have expectations that you not be subjected to it. If you want to have sex everywhere, dont have guests. If you want to do it regularly in your home with children and others but most especially non-adults, sound proof your room and get a lock. If you want to have sex outside, be quiet and be in an enclosed space ( outdoor shower for example)- although the rhythmic slapping of wet skin is pretty singular.

Ummm…I’m not talking about purposely going out of your way to have sex in front of people. Do you scream if someone like one of your kids opens your bedroom door when changing?? Geez. There’s nothing to get hysterical over. Sounds like you have a lot of shame associated with sex and the human body. Is that what you want to pass along to your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve tried to talk my husband into this for years. In the hammock. We have a privacy fence and lots of trees. He’s not into it.

That’s a shame.

It’s fun. He should try it. If for no other reason than because *you* want to. That’s being a GGG partner.

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I still remember years ago renting a room in a row house in DC where my window faced directly into the neighbors window. She would have loud, vocal, awesome sex with the window completely open.

Best summer ever. If it’s not your thing, fine move along. But it is absolutely 100% my thing, and I’m jealous of OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

dad has a great tongue? 👅

I agree, no kid is happy / ecstatic when they see their mom getting railed up the ass by daddy.

Ugh yes as a teen and college student I HATED hearing my parents. It didn't seem fair to me that they could carry on but I wasn't allowed b.c I wasnt married. I was made to feel ashamed and guilty for even having sexual thoughts...which I did all the time.
-Recovering Catholic

So you think you’d be better of with parents who had a sexless marriage??? In which case would your kids be better off if you and your spouse didn’t have sex? Couples can’t have sex in their own home until the kids are out? This country really has taken a nosedive. Sure no kid wants to see or hear their parents but they should recognize that it is healthy, appropriate part of family life and like I said before glad their parents are doing it. Some people really need to grow up.

FYI most psychologists, sexologists, and sex-positive therapists disagree with YOU. No one is saying it cant happen accidently but you cannot just free-for-all and act like everyone else is suppressed. Consent applies to this who will witness it or hear it. If you arent willing to negate possible instances of non-consenting persons witnessing or hearing it then you are just self-absorbed.

I’d like to see some citations. Personally, as I said earlier I don’t like to be seen or heard, but I’m not going to flip out if I hear my parents going at it.

Funny People don’t always consent to having pot or cigarette smoke drifting into their home but they’re told to put up with it because it’s legal.

Pot smoke >> sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still remember years ago renting a room in a row house in DC where my window faced directly into the neighbors window. She would have loud, vocal, awesome sex with the window completely open.

Best summer ever. If it’s not your thing, fine move along. But it is absolutely 100% my thing, and I’m jealous of OP.

+1, we love watching, and love being watched.