S/O family all sharing one room in vacation

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Not this poster, but I can’t go to bed at 8-9pm and my 6 year old is a heinous beast if he stays up any later than 9. If the kids share a bed they wiggle all night long and neither sleeps keeping me and my spouse up too. If we sleep one each with the children, they kick and flop and keep us awake. I would also rather not travel than share a room with my children. Airbnb has been a savior for our family to actually vacation.

+1 to everything plus my 8 year old wakes up by 6:45 each day and he cannot stop chatting and we will all be awakened by him daily.

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Anonymous wrote:We are currently at a resort. Kids are 10 and 8. How long can we keep sharing one room? I’d prefer to do it until college, but not sure if that’s weird.

I have three kids with a ten year age span from oldest to youngest. We never stopped sharing rooms. Our last trip was when they were 12-22. There is no way I’m wasting money on a second room. We take air mattresses and sleeping bags if there isn’t enough sleeping space.

For some people having a luxury room where they spend time is important but that’s not us. And we all really enjoy each other. So it works.

I really enjoy my family too. We do not, however, enjoy being sleep deprived. And that's what happens when you put my snoring husband and light sleeping 12 year old in a room together. I have vivid memories of her being 6 or 7 and sobbing in the middle of the night because she couldn't sleep. And that's when we decided one hotel room just didn't work. Luxury rooms? No. It's about people being able to get the sleep (an essential human function) that they need. We always get AirBnbs or VRBOs now.

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The last time I shared a hotel room with my parents I was 23. It was horrible. Never again.

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Anonymous wrote: It's not weird. We get two rooms because we'd rather have the privacy than the money, but my parents got one room (with 3 kids) even when we were all in college. Of course, it was pretty horrible IMO (I hated listening to my dad snore and pee), which is why as an adult with my own family I get two rooms even though it is $$.

I hated having to all stay in the same hotel room growing up - always a Super 8 or
motel 6. I just can’t do it.

My family never vacationed, didn’t have money for a super 8. Would drive 12 hours straight to get to aunt and uncles house, we slept on the floor.
My kids are very fortunate to be able to go paces and stay in hotels.

I remember as a high schooler thinking I would much rather not go anywhere than stay in another Super 8 where I couldn’t sleep meanwhile having my parents tell me how lucky I was to be able to travel…

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

My teens are happy to go on vacation. They aren't going to complain about sharing a room when they realize a vacation is already a luxury.

-- normal not rich person.

Well consider yourself lucky to have hit the grateful teen lottery!
Also a normal non rich person and my teens complain. Often times they don’t even want to go and would rather be home hanging out with their friends.
My guess is your teens probably just don’t complain out loud because you’ve reminded them so many times what a luxury it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the love for Air BnB. They are so expensive once the cleaning fee and service fee and whatever other fees they tack on are taken into account. Much rather stay at a hotel with more amenities and actual staff to resolve issues.

I’ve never paid more than $250 a night even with the fees. And it gives me a kitchen and I can get amenities like a hot tub or a pool table plus beds and rooms for everyone. We’ve stayed in them all over the country and abroad. Never had an issue.

I’ve stayed at a couple, never had issues. But lately, when comparing air bnb to a hotel, the hotels are a better deal without the hassle of an Airbnb and whatever weird policies the place has.

I agree that in absolute costs AirBnBs aren’t necessarily a deal, but I like having a kitchen and more space - there’s more bang for my buck. For $300 a night I can share a hotel room and be dependent on eating at restaurants or I can have two bedroom place and more options.

Also many hotels I use for work travel - Marriotts, Westins, W, etc - still haven’t bounced back from the pandemic. The restaurants are semi operational, housekeeping is limited, there’s no room service, the hotels look drab ….. not good.

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

My teens are happy to go on vacation. They aren't going to complain about sharing a room when they realize a vacation is already a luxury.

-- normal not rich person.

When rates are really high, we share a room with two beds; I (DW) share a bed with my teen DD and DH shares a bed with our teen DS; the beds are usually queen, but sometimes full or king, depending on what’s available. When rates are lower we might get two rooms because my DD is really sensitive to he dad’s occasional snoring and DS doesn’t seem particularly bothered. Obviously we go into the bathroom to change, etc.

It’s been fine and we’ve been doing it for years. My kids are private but we live in a small-ish house so togetherness for a week isn’t a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

My teens are happy to go on vacation. They aren't going to complain about sharing a room when they realize a vacation is already a luxury.

-- normal not rich person.

When rates are really high, we share a room with two beds; I (DW) share a bed with my teen DD and DH shares a bed with our teen DS; the beds are usually queen, but sometimes full or king, depending on what’s available. When rates are lower we might get two rooms because my DD is really sensitive to he dad’s occasional snoring and DS doesn’t seem particularly bothered. Obviously we go into the bathroom to change, etc.

It’s been fine and we’ve been doing it for years. My kids are private but we live in a small-ish house so togetherness for a week isn’t a big deal.

Just to add - when my kids were small, if rates were reasonable we would get a suite and could hang out in adjoining “living room” while kids went to bed earlier. Or DH and I would look at our phones in bed until we were able to nod off. But we often went to bed a bit later in general on vacation.

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Not this poster, but I can’t go to bed at 8-9pm and my 6 year old is a heinous beast if he stays up any later than 9. If the kids share a bed they wiggle all night long and neither sleeps keeping me and my spouse up too. If we sleep one each with the children, they kick and flop and keep us awake. I would also rather not travel than share a room with my children. Airbnb has been a savior for our family to actually vacation.

+1 to everything plus my 8 year old wakes up by 6:45 each day and he cannot stop chatting and we will all be awakened by him daily.

PP here and in these circumstances we would’ve done Airbnb too. We just like to break up our vacations a bit and rarely stay in one place more than a couple days at a time, which is why we use hotels so much more.

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Anonymous wrote:For air b&b v hotels. I 100% prefer staying in an apartment with a small kitchen while on longer vacations, just because we all get tired of eating out for every meal. For short weekends, hotels are better.

+1 I don’t like doing a hotel for a whole week+. That’s way too many meals out.

And when we do stay in a hotel, I almost always book a suite with a separate bedroom. Kids get the pull-out sofa plus a rollaway or an air mattress and they can stay up as late as they want.

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For me, going to luxury resort and then spending a week in one room with two teenagers feels significantly less luxurious than going to a mid-range resort and getting two bedrooms there.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the biggest issue is will both kids want to keep sharing a bed. The bigger they get, the more room they may want/need. Our kids are 12 and 10 and we prefer not to share a room because we'd rather not go to bed for the night when the kids do, but it still works in a pinch. I think ours are close to too old to be comfortable sharing a bed though.

We've got boy and girl teens. If staying t a hotel vs. renting a house, we've always shared a room, or gotten a 2-bedroom suite if an option. As of a couple years ago, they really started to have an issue with sleeping in the same bed (understandably), so we make sure we get a room with three separate sleeping options--usually two queen beds and sleeper sofa, or a rollaway if offered.

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Don't you want a kitchen so you don't need to eat out all the time? Food was a major expense especially with growing kids and our vacations matured.

The type of vacay matters too. A ski trip, with ski gear and bulky clothes, is impossible w/4 kids (especially teens) in a traditional hotel room. Verse a beach trip where packing is light and pool/beach/easy to be outdoors all day.

My tween and teen are girls. They love their clothes and hair stuff. My son is content wearing the same shorts and brings only a few shirts and hoidies and takes up no space.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the love for Air BnB. They are so expensive once the cleaning fee and service fee and whatever other fees they tack on are taken into account. Much rather stay at a hotel with more amenities and actual staff to resolve issues.

Off-topic, but I've been staying in many hotels in many countries over two decades, and the only issues that come up somewhat regularly is key card not working. I think I had a hotel room TV not working properly once in... mid-2000s? What are these ISSUES that you need the staff for so regularly that it's actually a consideration when planning a trip?

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Anonymous wrote:Don't you want a kitchen so you don't need to eat out all the time? Food was a major expense especially with growing kids and our vacations matured.

The type of vacay matters too. A ski trip, with ski gear and bulky clothes, is impossible w/4 kids (especially teens) in a traditional hotel room. Verse a beach trip where packing is light and pool/beach/easy to be outdoors all day.

My tween and teen are girls. They love their clothes and hair stuff. My son is content wearing the same shorts and brings only a few shirts and hoidies and takes up no space.

100% about kitchen space. I have a super active teenage boy, and two younger kids. My oldest is in the crazy growth spurt phase where he burns through food at an amazing capacity. A week of restaurant only would kill us. It’s much cheaper at this stage to do VRBO or AirBnB for the kitchen use. With a little more space, everyone sleeps better, too. I don’t want to spend my vacation dealing with hungry crabs!!