Do not bring a sibling to a birthday party?

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Anonymous wrote:Parents with strict no siblings parties can’t complain about declined invitations. Simple as that.

I don’t think anyone is complaining about that lol

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Anonymous wrote:You don't bring a sibling who has not been invited. Full stop.

It is actually important for siblings who were not invited to learn how to deal with not being invited. Also, it teaches siblings to deal with the fact that their brother or sister have their own friends. It is a way of teaching boundaries. I have watched moms argue that both their kids should go to a party when only one was invited because they want to "always keep things equal forever" between their kids. That is delusional thinking.

True but as others have stated sometimes it’s just a matter if practicality. I have a 3.5 yr old and 1.5 year old. It’s not a drop off party and I don’t have anyone to watch the 1.5 year old most weekends. DW is an ER nurse and has to work many weekends. We just don’t go to the party.

Start finding a roster of sitters. You are going to have a lot of weekend commitments as the kids get older, whether with sports or more birthday parties, and you don’t want to deny your kids the opportunity to enjoy them. If your wife will truly be unable to help most weekends, finding someone trustworthy and reliable now will help you a lot going forward.

Thanks but I don’t want to do that. I like spending time with both kids. I will wait until kids have drop-off parties and will bring one to the others practices and games.

You’re going to be relying a lot on the exact event times to line up, to work it out like that. Pick up and drop off times for sports and parties don’t always work out that neatly.

[Anonymous]

My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

You told a parent that they couldn’t stay at a party in a public place like bowlmor? How old were the kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents with strict no siblings parties can’t complain about declined invitations. Simple as that.

I don’t think anyone is complaining about that lol

But they do. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

Jesus, there are so many restrictions and caveats for a kid’s party!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

Jesus, there are so many restrictions and caveats for a kid’s party!!

+1. It’s pathetically ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

You should RSVP no in this case. The host family shouldn't have to pay for another kid because you are too cheap to pay for a babysitter.

Eh, yeah, PP. That what I just said - I always RSVP no.

So when do you schedule your own child’s parties since weekends are out?

Why would weekends be out? She can have all her kids at her own kids
Party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

You should RSVP no in this case. The host family shouldn't have to pay for another kid because you are too cheap to pay for a babysitter.

Eh, yeah, PP. That what I just said - I always RSVP no.

So when do you schedule your own child’s parties since weekends are out?

Why would weekends be out? She can have all her kids at her own kids
Party

No. According to DCUM, you can’t even have your own other kids at your birthday kid’s party! And one one parent can be in attendance. And everyone has to RSVP the instant they get the evite. And never say “no gifts” because that is rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents with strict no siblings parties can’t complain about declined invitations. Simple as that.

We are complaining about parents bring siblings and other family members. I doubt anyone gives a rat's rear-end if you decline.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

You told a parent that they couldn’t stay at a party in a public place like bowlmor? How old were the kids?

No, the mom wanted to bring her husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

Jesus, there are so many restrictions and caveats for a kid’s party!!

I know, it's ridiculous but when small guests need to be accompanied by an adult, the adult shouldn't be a hog.
As adults, we wouldn't crash someone else's event without being invited. The same should apply to kids events.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents with strict no siblings parties can’t complain about declined invitations. Simple as that.

We are complaining about parents bring siblings and other family members. I doubt anyone gives a rat's rear-end if you decline.

But they do complain all the time when we have to RSVP no. Np here and that what we’re adding. They can’t restrict and then be bugged you can’t attend due to their restriction. You complain either way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

You told a parent that they couldn’t stay at a party in a public place like bowlmor? How old were the kids?

I’m not pp but I’m assuming she was saying that the dad couldn’t bowl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd was invited to a no siblings party so we did something else with sibling ds during the party.
I noticed that one of the kids had her mother, her nanny and her grandmother at the party - and no, they weren't close friends with the host.

When I threw dd a bday party at Bowlmor, one of the parents asked if her husband could come. I had never met him and basically answered - no, let's keep this party focused on Larla's day. What I didn't say was, this is not your family's bowling excursion day on my tab.

When there is a cost per head, I think it is asking a lot of the host to take on strangers. When it's a party at home, or there is no cost per head, I think opening the party to siblings, especially if they are small kids, is a really nice thing to do.

So .. the "no siblings" phrase probably ought to be expanded to "Larla's friend + parent". There really isn't any reason for 3 adults to be in tow with a single child.

Jesus, there are so many restrictions and caveats for a kid’s party!!

I know, it's ridiculous but when small guests need to be accompanied by an adult, the adult shouldn't be a hog.
As adults, we wouldn't crash someone else's event without being invited. The same should apply to kids events.

What? Do you think the second parent is going to hog the pizza or the bouncy house?