Do not bring a sibling to a birthday party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

+1. Same. We just decline. If DS was old enough for a drop off party it would be fine but he isn’t so we don’t go. I work and have a nanny all week and don’t want to leave my youngest with a babysitter again.

[Anonymous]

Hosting a party this weekend and someone asked to bring a sibling. I can assure you it’s not appreciated. The fact that people continue to do this doesn’t mean it’s not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hosting a party this weekend and someone asked to bring a sibling. I can assure you it’s not appreciated. The fact that people continue to do this doesn’t mean it’s not rude.

Did you agree?

[Anonymous]

Does this apply to infants? Bringing my four year old to a party and was planning on bringing my 3 month old (needs to breastfeed) and wearing her the whole time. Never crossed my mind to ask the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does this apply to infants? Bringing my four year old to a party and was planning on bringing my 3 month old (needs to breastfeed) and wearing her the whole time. Never crossed my mind to ask the host.

Use some common sense, an infant isn’t using any of the party resources. It’s fine. We’re discussing mobile siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this apply to infants? Bringing my four year old to a party and was planning on bringing my 3 month old (needs to breastfeed) and wearing her the whole time. Never crossed my mind to ask the host.

Use some common sense, an infant isn’t using any of the party resources. It’s fine. We’re discussing mobile siblings.

I dunno DCUM has some insane rules (certain toilets are not for pooping in springs to mind) so I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these posters were violently offended by newborns too just because.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

+1. Same. We just decline. If DS was old enough for a drop off party it would be fine but he isn’t so we don’t go. I work and have a nanny all week and don’t want to leave my youngest with a babysitter again.

+2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

+1. Same. We just decline. If DS was old enough for a drop off party it would be fine but he isn’t so we don’t go. I work and have a nanny all week and don’t want to leave my youngest with a babysitter again.

That’s fine. No one is upset if you don’t come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always rsvp no to any party that doesn’t include siblings. DH works on weekends and I’m not hiring a babysitter for a birthday party.

+1. Same. We just decline. If DS was old enough for a drop off party it would be fine but he isn’t so we don’t go. I work and have a nanny all week and don’t want to leave my youngest with a babysitter again.

That’s fine. No one is upset if you don’t come.

DP here. I never assumed anyone was upset, dear. Just stating a fact.

[Anonymous]

You don't bring a sibling who has not been invited. Full stop.

It is actually important for siblings who were not invited to learn how to deal with not being invited. Also, it teaches siblings to deal with the fact that their brother or sister have their own friends. It is a way of teaching boundaries. I have watched moms argue that both their kids should go to a party when only one was invited because they want to "always keep things equal forever" between their kids. That is delusional thinking.

[Anonymous]

I think once the age group becomes drop off (parent does not stay) then def no siblings. However once a parent dropped off kid plus sibling to a per head trampoline venue. I couldn’t believe it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hosting a party this weekend and someone asked to bring a sibling. I can assure you it’s not appreciated. The fact that people continue to do this doesn’t mean it’s not rude.

Did you agree?

Yes

[Anonymous]

My kids are 7 and 5. I am happy to include siblings as long as siblings are well behaved. But we have small casual parties. I can see why people who invite the whole class and/or go to a venue that is $$ would not include siblings and we never bring siblings unless they’re included on the invite (id never ask anyone if I can bring a sibling. If they didn’t say so on the invite or tell me directly that it was ok, then it’s not ok).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't bring a sibling who has not been invited. Full stop.

It is actually important for siblings who were not invited to learn how to deal with not being invited. Also, it teaches siblings to deal with the fact that their brother or sister have their own friends. It is a way of teaching boundaries. I have watched moms argue that both their kids should go to a party when only one was invited because they want to "always keep things equal forever" between their kids. That is delusional thinking.

True but as others have stated sometimes it’s just a matter if practicality. I have a 3.5 yr old and 1.5 year old. It’s not a drop off party and I don’t have anyone to watch the 1.5 year old most weekends. DW is an ER nurse and has to work many weekends. We just don’t go to the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't bring a sibling who has not been invited. Full stop.

It is actually important for siblings who were not invited to learn how to deal with not being invited. Also, it teaches siblings to deal with the fact that their brother or sister have their own friends. It is a way of teaching boundaries. I have watched moms argue that both their kids should go to a party when only one was invited because they want to "always keep things equal forever" between their kids. That is delusional thinking.

True but as others have stated sometimes it’s just a matter if practicality. I have a 3.5 yr old and 1.5 year old. It’s not a drop off party and I don’t have anyone to watch the 1.5 year old most weekends. DW is an ER nurse and has to work many weekends. We just don’t go to the party.

Start finding a roster of sitters. You are going to have a lot of weekend commitments as the kids get older, whether with sports or more birthday parties, and you don’t want to deny your kids the opportunity to enjoy them. If your wife will truly be unable to help most weekends, finding someone trustworthy and reliable now will help you a lot going forward.