What men want
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
+1 All you get are women declaring that men really want intellectually challenging, high-powered careerist, “boss-babe” types. I’m a woman and I actually believe men when they say they just want someone fun, kind, attractive, and DTF. Class and education certainly factor in, but not nearly to the degree it does for women when considering men for the same thing. |
Anonymous
I believe men when they say that, but I also think actions speak louder than words. I met my husband while he was doing his MBA at a top-tier school and no one he graduated with married a “fun/kind/attractive/DTF” girlfriend unless they were also at a threshold of education and professional accomplishment. Not always “careerist” but just like with attractiveness, there is a threshold. |
Anonymous
I’m the PP you responded to. I think maybe, to be more clear, I should say I think there’s a difference between concerns with class, and concerns with a woman’s job. I think class can be self-selecting, so an UMC man is more likely to pick a UMC woman, and expect a certain amount of education and “breeding” that goes along with that. I still believe he will pick someone within that pool of women according to the aforementioned simple standards. He simply doesn’t care as much about the woman’s resume, in the same way she might care about his. |
Anonymous
Lots of women, believe it or not, go for men who are blue collar or even *gasp* unemployed. And same goes for men. I’m not saying that men or women want more from their partner, just that men really aren’t as low-maintenance and easy to please as they like to think they are. And when I say they want women to be an equal partner, I don’t mean equal earner, equal in ambition, or equal in social class. I mean an equal contributor in the quality of his life, whatever that may mean. And there is more to quality of life than regular sex and conversation with an attractive person. Men don’t want somebody who is going to make their lives more difficult. They don’t want somebody who is so bad with finances they will get into consumer debt, who create conflict with friends and in-laws (you can do that even if you’re generally kind and fun), who demand their husbands keep the house as clean as they do, etc. And often they don’t want somebody who spends lots of time on makeup and hair, who is way, way dumber than they are, who has obnoxious friends, etc. |
Anonymous
I've got a date tonight with a woman who is 30 years younger. Third date. |
Anonymous
Go for it, brother. Through trial and error plus A/B testing I've figured out the exact cadence of text chat and first date plan to sleep with college women. |
Anonymous
so you didn't pay attention to the question, did you? |
Anonymous
I was/am genuinely curious what men would say. But it doesn't matter. The women here use strawman arguments and will overrule anything a man offers. Just notice how many of the posts are about what women look for in a man - a thread asking men for their opinions is turned into, by a couple of prolific posters, a thread all about women. |
Anonymous
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Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.
Health 9-10 Looks 6-9 Education 8-9 Income/wealth 5-9 Career/ambition 6-8 Personality 6-9 Morality 9-9 Stable family background 7-9 Personal baggage 0-1 |
Anonymous
Most also want similar race, religion, culture and social class, not because they are racist/religious/traditionalist/elitist but because it seemingly helps family harmony. |
Anonymous
| Let’s not forget the fact that most divorces happen between spouses of same race, religion, culture and social class but I guess it’s co-relation not causation. |
Anonymous
Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality. 1. That wasn’t the question. 2. You’re not a guy. 3. Uh, wrong. |
Anonymous
It says need not want. |
Anonymous
These sure make good marriage material. |