What men want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality.

1. That wasn’t the question.
2. You’re not a guy.
3. Uh, wrong.

Well, morality has many definitions but good character and decent principles matter for any relationship. Why would you want a person who is a lier, cheater, player, manipulator etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality.

1. That wasn’t the question.
2. You’re not a guy.
3. Uh, wrong.

Morality and education are basic blocks of a good personality. Looks are important for getting married but rarely help with staying married.

[Anonymous]

In some ways good looks help building a good personality because life is easier for pretty faces so they aren’t as skeptic or resentful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality.

1. That wasn’t the question.
2. You’re not a guy.
3. Uh, wrong.

Morality and education are basic blocks of a good personality. Looks are important for getting married but rarely help with staying married.

Morality is not more important than personality.
And past a certain minimum, more education does not equate to a better relationship. Save your resume for a job interview, not a date.

And stable family background? Now you’re just making up weird stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some ways good looks help building a good personality because life is easier for pretty faces so they aren’t as skeptic or resentful.

Though they do expect people to put them on a pedestal but in a marriage you need a partner not a god or goddess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality.

1. That wasn’t the question.
2. You’re not a guy.
3. Uh, wrong.

Morality and education are basic blocks of a good personality. Looks are important for getting married but rarely help with staying married.

Morality is not more important than personality.
And past a certain minimum, more education does not equate to a better relationship. Save your resume for a job interview, not a date.

And stable family background? Now you’re just making up weird stuff.

For moral and intellectual people yes but not necessarily for everyone. Family background matters as family issues, drama and baggage tends to make marriages sour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are men in general less picky when it comes to their partner, compared to women? I.e., as long as they have regular sex, are attracted to them, can carry a somewhat decent conversation, and that’s it?

Women are more detail oriented.

[Anonymous]

Are men in general less picky when it comes to their partner, compared to women? I.e., as long as they have regular sex, are attracted to them, can carry a somewhat decent conversation, and that’s it?

That’s not a bad list.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, all men want the following:

- pretty and thin/fit
- happy disposition
- fun
- reasonably intelligent


The men who cannot afford the most beautiful women, settle for ok looking but fun and happy women.

[Anonymous]

Men are hilarious. It’s as though women who have dated, married, been friends with, been colleagues with, and raised don’t have some insight into what men want.

I stand by my statement that men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need, or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

Plus, men just don’t seem to *see* women who they wouldn’t be interested in. The fact is that men put women into two categories: wife material and not wife material, and they’re only analyzing the women who are in the wife material category to see if they meet their needs. Like, can a hooker be attractive, DTF, fun, and kind? Yes. Would most men marry one? No.

[Anonymous]

men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need

And? Sounds like we are easier to please. What's your point?

or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

No, the cliche - and personal experience - is that women change and expect the guy to change accordingly. A guy's expectations going in include a certain amount of sex, say, and he still wants that years down the road. It's the woman who changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

men only seem easier to please because most women already have other qualities they need

And? Sounds like we are easier to please. What's your point?

or they don’t know they need them until 5 years into the relationship when women can no longer meet the needs they didn’t know they had.

No, the cliche - and personal experience - is that women change and expect the guy to change accordingly. A guy's expectations going in include a certain amount of sex, say, and he still wants that years down the road. It's the woman who changes.

Nope you’re wrong on both points.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


The men who cannot afford the most beautiful women, settle for ok looking but fun and happy women.

Warren Buffet, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Barack Obama, Bush Sr, Bush Jr, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg etc all can afford beautiful women but that’s not who they went after.

[Anonymous]

Looks matter a lot for dating but for long term partner who’ll parent your children and spend old age with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ona scale of 0-10, this is what most educated/employed men need.

Health 9-10
Looks 6-9
Education 8-9
Income/wealth 5-9
Career/ambition 6-8
Personality 6-9
Morality 9-9
Stable family background 7-9
Personal baggage 0-1

Hey look everyone! The question is what do men want, and some woman replies that morality and education are bigger needs than looks and personality.

1. That wasn’t the question.
2. You’re not a guy.
3. Uh, wrong.

Well, morality has many definitions but good character and decent principles matter for any relationship. Why would you want a person who is a lier, cheater, player, manipulator etc?

Finding a woman whose company I enjoy is harder than finding one who isn't dishonest. So sufficient morality, like sufficient education (in this area), is more or less a given. Income, career? If she has a job, all is good. Family background: irrelevant. Baggage: important. I did my time with a mentally ill spouse; never again.