DH left gas stove on overnight

[Anonymous]

If neither of you could smell the gas, you need COVID tests.

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Anonymous wrote:Your risk was of a giant explosion. There was no carbon monoxide poisoning. Not that one is much better than the other.

This was my thought too, it’s not a CO2 risk. If it were really that bad they would’ve smelled it likely. But the answer now is that there should be a gas detector (in addition to CO2 detector) in the vicinity of all gas appliances. I’m a pretty big stickler about this and have caught a small gas leak before near our dryer that even the gas company was impressed I discovered. There’s no point getting mad at DH because everyone messes up. Learn a lesson and move on.

Carbon monoxide is CO, not CO2.

Ahh you’re right. CO2 is dioxide. I stand by the advice to get a gas and CO detector.

[Anonymous]

I would be furious at my husband too OP.

There are certain mistakes that just shouldn’t be made, even once.
Leaving a gas stove on all night is one of them.

When if for instance your husband left a candle 🕯 on overnight and your entire house burned down because the candle was too close to a curtain, etc.
Even if it only happened ONCE - his carelessness would still be infuriating.
Same if I accidentally hit a parked car while backing up.

Considering you have a baby in the home, your husband should definitely have been much more careful.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be furious at my husband too OP.

There are certain mistakes that just shouldn’t be made, even once.
Leaving a gas stove on all night is one of them.

When if for instance your husband left a candle 🕯 on overnight and your entire house burned down because the candle was too close to a curtain, etc.
Even if it only happened ONCE - his carelessness would still be infuriating.
Same if I accidentally hit a parked car while backing up.

Considering you have a baby in the home, your husband should definitely have been much more careful.

If I accidentally hit a parked car and my husband was then “furious” with me, we would have a hard time. His fury would be uncalled for, and I wouldn’t tolerate being the brunt of that. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s one thing to point out a mistake, or to continually make the same mistake - but to launch into fury over one regretted incident is not only pointless but also hurtful.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ideal, but nothing happened. I’d be much more concerned if there was a pattern of carelessness. One time let it go. You’re fine. The baby is fine.

The other day, he filled the tub as the baby sat in the tub. I’ve told him not to do that before because there is a risk of scalding baby. He says it’s fine because he’s already tested the water before putting baby in- well guess what happened? When he reached to turn off the faucet, his hands weren’t supporting baby and baby fell backwards in the tub.

He’s super careful and never makes mistakes at work, and I feel like he doesn’t take the same care at home at all. He says I am too careful and over vigilant.

Umm, I def fill the tub with baby in it. So what? Baby could have just as easily fallen backwards when he reached for the soap. He was right there, right? Baby was righted immediately? Sounds like he’s very responsible.

You definitely need to get off his back. Or you’re going to end up with a lot of resentment in your marriage, an anxious kid, and doing way more than your share around the house/with the kids because only you do things “right.” You’re on a bad path here. Apologize to your husband for overreacting about the gas, call your pediatrician if you’re concerned, and if you can’t seem to relax or lower your standards at all, you might consider therapy for anxiety.

I thought babies can sit quite well at 11 months?

[Anonymous]

I'm ticked off every time DH does something like this. It doesn't seem to register that he needs to be more careful. He's left the gas stove on, electric oven on with food inside, fireplace burning with the vent closed (at least twice), left house and car doors unlocked countless times (good thing we live in a safe neighborhood), the sunroof open multiple times (his car got soaked at least twice), allowed the baby to roll off of the bed, and left candles burning. So, now we have timers, sensors, smart locks, electronic candles, and no fireplace. It boggles the mind how someone can be so careless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ideal, but nothing happened. I’d be much more concerned if there was a pattern of carelessness. One time let it go. You’re fine. The baby is fine.

The other day, he filled the tub as the baby sat in the tub. I’ve told him not to do that before because there is a risk of scalding baby. He says it’s fine because he’s already tested the water before putting baby in- well guess what happened? When he reached to turn off the faucet, his hands weren’t supporting baby and baby fell backwards in the tub.

He’s super careful and never makes mistakes at work, and I feel like he doesn’t take the same care at home at all. He says I am too careful and over vigilant.

Umm, I def fill the tub with baby in it. So what? Baby could have just as easily fallen backwards when he reached for the soap. He was right there, right? Baby was righted immediately? Sounds like he’s very responsible.

You definitely need to get off his back. Or you’re going to end up with a lot of resentment in your marriage, an anxious kid, and doing way more than your share around the house/with the kids because only you do things “right.” You’re on a bad path here. Apologize to your husband for overreacting about the gas, call your pediatrician if you’re concerned, and if you can’t seem to relax or lower your standards at all, you might consider therapy for anxiety.

I thought babies can sit quite well at 11 months?

Yep. And crawl. And pull to standing. Some can walk at that age. Definitely not safe to leave alone in a bath, but safe to let go of baby during bath time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm ticked off every time DH does something like this. It doesn't seem to register that he needs to be more careful. He's left the gas stove on, electric oven on with food inside, fireplace burning with the vent closed (at least twice), left house and car doors unlocked countless times (good thing we live in a safe neighborhood), the sunroof open multiple times (his car got soaked at least twice), allowed the baby to roll off of the bed, and left candles burning. So, now we have timers, sensors, smart locks, electronic candles, and no fireplace. It boggles the mind how someone can be so careless.

Have you really never done any of those things? Ever?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm ticked off every time DH does something like this. It doesn't seem to register that he needs to be more careful. He's left the gas stove on, electric oven on with food inside, fireplace burning with the vent closed (at least twice), left house and car doors unlocked countless times (good thing we live in a safe neighborhood), the sunroof open multiple times (his car got soaked at least twice), allowed the baby to roll off of the bed, and left candles burning. So, now we have timers, sensors, smart locks, electronic candles, and no fireplace. It boggles the mind how someone can be so careless.

If it could help you feel less frustrated, he could be tested for adult ADHD. It is highly treatable.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm ticked off every time DH does something like this. It doesn't seem to register that he needs to be more careful. He's left the gas stove on, electric oven on with food inside, fireplace burning with the vent closed (at least twice), left house and car doors unlocked countless times (good thing we live in a safe neighborhood), the sunroof open multiple times (his car got soaked at least twice), allowed the baby to roll off of the bed, and left candles burning. So, now we have timers, sensors, smart locks, electronic candles, and no fireplace. It boggles the mind how someone can be so careless.

If you have this much anxiety it boggles my mind that you are married to someone so careless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ideal, but nothing happened. I’d be much more concerned if there was a pattern of carelessness. One time let it go. You’re fine. The baby is fine.

The other day, he filled the tub as the baby sat in the tub. I’ve told him not to do that before because there is a risk of scalding baby. He says it’s fine because he’s already tested the water before putting baby in- well guess what happened? When he reached to turn off the faucet, his hands weren’t supporting baby and baby fell backwards in the tub.

He’s super careful and never makes mistakes at work, and I feel like he doesn’t take the same care at home at all. He says I am too careful and over vigilant.

Developmental psychologist perspective--I think you're overreacting. An 11 month old is nearly a toddler. They are going to slip, fall, etc. Sitting and falling backward in a tub is a normal kind of bump in their lives. Let DH parent in his own way--you don't have exclusive rights on deciding how everything should be done with a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm ticked off every time DH does something like this. It doesn't seem to register that he needs to be more careful. He's left the gas stove on, electric oven on with food inside, fireplace burning with the vent closed (at least twice), left house and car doors unlocked countless times (good thing we live in a safe neighborhood), the sunroof open multiple times (his car got soaked at least twice), allowed the baby to roll off of the bed, and left candles burning. So, now we have timers, sensors, smart locks, electronic candles, and no fireplace. It boggles the mind how someone can be so careless.

Have you really never done any of those things? Ever?

NP here It’s one thing to leave a car door unlocked or a window down every now and then. But I get how frustrating it is when it happens over and over again. Even in a safe neighborhood, people get robbed, especially cars. I came home the other day from taking the kids out to dinner and DH had left the front door to the house wide open. This is not the first time. And don’t get me started on the cars. I can’t tell you how many times he has left it unlocked or windows down or even the car door or truck wide open all night. It’s ridiculous that a grown man doesn’t have enough sense to do basic things even after I’ve mentioned it over and over.

[Anonymous]

Order a hair shirt on Amazon for DH.

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Anonymous wrote:If you were that worried about your baby’s health, you would be calling the ped rather than posting on DCUM. You’re not here because you’re worried about your baby, your here because you’re hoping a lynch mob will join you in tearing your husband apart.

THIS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ideal, but nothing happened. I’d be much more concerned if there was a pattern of carelessness. One time let it go. You’re fine. The baby is fine.

The other day, he filled the tub as the baby sat in the tub. I’ve told him not to do that before because there is a risk of scalding baby. He says it’s fine because he’s already tested the water before putting baby in- well guess what happened? When he reached to turn off the faucet, his hands weren’t supporting baby and baby fell backwards in the tub.

He’s super careful and never makes mistakes at work, and I feel like he doesn’t take the same care at home at all. He says I am too careful and over vigilant.

So you warned him of one thing but then another thing happened and yet you still feel like you were right?

You need to relax. Your kid is fine.