DH left gas stove on overnight

[Anonymous]

Well you sound crazy in your post, so I’m guessing it’s worse in person. You wanna scream at him? He made a dumb mistake, that’s it. Worth discussing and sharing fears and then moving on.

My kid has always sat in the bath while it was being filled. It’s not like I’m leaving the child alone and not aware of the temp. Yup, one hand on baby to turn off water would have been better forethought, but “falling” into the water for a second hurt no one.

If he makes mistakes like this daily then it is worth being upset and maybe trying to identify a cause of focus. If he make occasional mistakes that simply means he is human.

[Anonymous]

I am confused, can’t your 11-month sit upright? Why does he need to be supported in the tub?

Agree with everyone else asking you to extend him grace and potentially work on your anxiety. Otherwise I guarantee you will be posting on DCUM soon that your DH never helps with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At some point your kid is going to get a goose egg bump, shiner, scrape etc on your watch. How harshly do you want to be judged once something actually happens?

Exactly. OP extend some grace because it’s inevitable you’ll be asking for it during your parenting years too. Remember, you and your spouse are a team.

[Anonymous]

OP another way of looking at this is thinking “my husband left the gas on all night and we are all okay! Something bad could have happened but it didn’t. We are all so lucky to have each other safe and sound.”

Mistakes happen. Sometimes they have bad consequences. But sometimes they don’t and that’s a perfect opportunity to practice gratitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He cooked dinner last night and woke up this morning and realized one of the knobs was on but no flame, so we be been breathing gas all night. I am FURIOUS. is baby (11 months) at risk for any neurological problems? We have a carbon monoxide detector and it didn’t beep but breathing in all those fumes for hours must still be very bad. I want to scream at DH for his carelessness.

You are ready stupid. There wouldn't have been enough gas fumes to kill a rat. If I were your DH, I'd tell you to cook from now on.

[Anonymous]

You have a husband that cooks dinner and baths the baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am confused, can’t your 11-month sit upright? Why does he need to be supported in the tub?

Agree with everyone else asking you to extend him grace and potentially work on your anxiety. Otherwise I guarantee you will be posting on DCUM soon that your DH never helps with the kids.

Even better that he is fed up with your constant complaining, left you and filing for divorce. I bet everyday he asks himself why he married you and how much happier he would be if you flew away on your broom to another galaxy.

Even when I cook, I have left a burner on as well as the oven and this is why I check the stove every time it is used to make sure everything is off. Why can't you do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re both tired from dealing with a new baby. It’s been a slog. I mean this kindly, but you just haven’t done your stupid thing yet. You will.

11 months is not a new baby. Why can't an 11 month old child sit up by himself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At some point your kid is going to get a goose egg bump, shiner, scrape etc on your watch. How harshly do you want to be judged once something actually happens?

Exactly. OP extend some grace because it’s inevitable you’ll be asking for it during your parenting years too. Remember, you and your spouse are a team.

I know a woman who left her 6 year old daughter in a running car, on a level drivewsy, to run back into house to get something she forgot. Somehow, car got out of Park, rolled backward, turned over and daughter was killed. She had a wonderful and empathetic husband. He never blamed her and helped her through the years of her blaming herself. Above OP IS right about grace. This couple stayed married and had more children but his love was stronger than his grief. This was a tragedy, yours is not. Learn from this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Call your pediatrician if you are concerned about the baby. Your husband made a mistake and can’t time travel to fix it. It sucks and I understand you are upset/mad, but you are just making yourself miserable. Sometimes extending grace to others really is extending grace to yourself (not allowing this to ruin your day).

I already did but it’s after hours so I have to wait for the doctor to call me back

??you Peds office doesn't have anyone on call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call your pediatrician if you are concerned about the baby. Your husband made a mistake and can’t time travel to fix it. It sucks and I understand you are upset/mad, but you are just making yourself miserable. Sometimes extending grace to others really is extending grace to yourself (not allowing this to ruin your day).

I already did but it’s after hours so I have to wait for the doctor to call me back

??you Peds office doesn't have anyone on call

Agree. I started smelling troll when she indicated an 11 month can't sit up by himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your risk was of a giant explosion. There was no carbon monoxide poisoning. Not that one is much better than the other.

This was my thought too, it’s not a CO2 risk. If it were really that bad they would’ve smelled it likely. But the answer now is that there should be a gas detector (in addition to CO2 detector) in the vicinity of all gas appliances. I’m a pretty big stickler about this and have caught a small gas leak before near our dryer that even the gas company was impressed I discovered. There’s no point getting mad at DH because everyone messes up. Learn a lesson and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call your pediatrician if you are concerned about the baby. Your husband made a mistake and can’t time travel to fix it. It sucks and I understand you are upset/mad, but you are just making yourself miserable. Sometimes extending grace to others really is extending grace to yourself (not allowing this to ruin your day).

I already did but it’s after hours so I have to wait for the doctor to call me back

??you Peds office doesn't have anyone on call

Agree. I started smelling troll when she indicated an 11 month can't sit up by himself.

I honestly wondered if some man was trying to prove that DCUM posters always take the side of the wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your risk was of a giant explosion. There was no carbon monoxide poisoning. Not that one is much better than the other.

This was my thought too, it’s not a CO2 risk. If it were really that bad they would’ve smelled it likely. But the answer now is that there should be a gas detector (in addition to CO2 detector) in the vicinity of all gas appliances. I’m a pretty big stickler about this and have caught a small gas leak before near our dryer that even the gas company was impressed I discovered. There’s no point getting mad at DH because everyone messes up. Learn a lesson and move on.

Carbon monoxide is CO, not CO2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your risk was of a giant explosion. There was no carbon monoxide poisoning. Not that one is much better than the other.

This was my thought too, it’s not a CO2 risk. If it were really that bad they would’ve smelled it likely. But the answer now is that there should be a gas detector (in addition to CO2 detector) in the vicinity of all gas appliances. I’m a pretty big stickler about this and have caught a small gas leak before near our dryer that even the gas company was impressed I discovered. There’s no point getting mad at DH because everyone messes up. Learn a lesson and move on.

+1

OP you are too anxious, but if your DH is forgetful or your stove is old a gas monitor is well worth investment