9 year old still bedwetting every night

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read all 4 pages but when DD was 8 we had success with a bed wetting alarm. If you follow the instructions exactly as stated, it works! But I would only use it on a motivated child.

Like all solutions, it works for some children, but not all. Be careful about trying to make a one-size-fits-all or one-solution-fits-all statement.

It works for some children that are not deep sleepers. There are many deep sleepers who either stlll don't wake up, or wake up so slowly, that they wake up too late. In our case, with the alarm, my child was slow to wake and would wake up after his accident and still have a wet bed. Then, because he was woken up, often from REM sleep, he would be very tired and cranky the next day. It not only didn't help, it doubled the problems. The bed alarm was worse than the bed wetting.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

What’s his attitude towards it? Does it bother him a lot that he still has accidents?

Honestly, no it doesn’t seem to bother him that he has a soaked diaper most mornings. I thought it might since his 5-year-old brother has been dry for a long time. But it doesn’t bother him. He’s a very deep sleeper so I’m doubtful the alarm would work for him.

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Anonymous wrote:No real solutions, but came here to say that DS was wetting his bed regularly until he was about 12! At some point, we made him change his bed on his own without waking us up. But he'll be heading to college this year and all is good now...

Thanks for the reassurance!

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Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

What’s his attitude towards it? Does it bother him a lot that he still has accidents?

Honestly, no it doesn’t seem to bother him that he has a soaked diaper most mornings. I thought it might since his 5-year-old brother has been dry for a long time. But it doesn’t bother him. He’s a very deep sleeper so I’m doubtful the alarm would work for him.

Is he good about getting up in the morning and going straight to the bathroom? Does he wake up usually on his own or do you wake him up?

[Anonymous]

Set up an appointment with a physical therapist who specializes in fascial counterstrain. Mary Beth Herrity in Annandale is good, but her appointments run late. Anyone who works for Brian Tuckey in Frederick will be good, but it’s a drive. Tell the kid it’s for his back, his knee, or whatever. Tip off the physical therapist that the kid still wets his bed at night. Fascial Counterstrain is a good physical therapy treatment that often works for idiopathic ailments.

https://youtu.be/4jRilvE6AKE

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Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

What’s his attitude towards it? Does it bother him a lot that he still has accidents?

Honestly, no it doesn’t seem to bother him that he has a soaked diaper most mornings. I thought it might since his 5-year-old brother has been dry for a long time. But it doesn’t bother him. He’s a very deep sleeper so I’m doubtful the alarm would work for him.

Is he good about getting up in the morning and going straight to the bathroom? Does he wake up usually on his own or do you wake him up?

Yes he goes right away in the morning and he gets up on his own. Sometimes he will wake up too early because of the soaked diaper and he can’t get back to sleep (5 or 6) he will immediately change into underwear once he gets up.

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It’s good that he’s being responsible about going to the bathroom. Do you ever check him during the night?

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DOES Anyone else think they make them a lot more noticeable now ?

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DOES Anyone else think they make them a lot more noticeable now ? the goodnites pullusp

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Anonymous wrote:DOES Anyone else think they make them a lot more noticeable now ? the goodnites pullusp

How are they more noticeable?

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Anonymous wrote:DOES Anyone else think they make them a lot more noticeable now ? the goodnites pullusp

How are they more noticeable?

I have noticed this, they are very easy to hear and they are a bit thicker than they used to be as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

OP here, that’s what the pediatrician said. That his sleep signals are much stronger than his wake up and go pee signals still. That’s exactly what she told us to do - nothing. She said he’ll eventually grow out of it. I was just posting on here to see if others had kids who were similarly bedwetting at this age and grew out of it, or if there could be a medical or structural issue somehow. I’m up for trying something (and trust me if you knew me I’m extremely proactive about stuff) but have heard the alarms can be a mixed bag.

OP my DS wore pullups at night until puberty. He did not want to use the alarm because his anxiety made it hard for him to fall asleep if woken up in the middle of the night. Pedia was notnoverly concerned and said he would outgrow it, which he did.

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My DS is 8 (4 months shy of 9) and wakes up with a full pull up most nights. We have tried the bed wetting alarm with no success. He was peeing before it went off so we still had to get up and clean up pee after the alarm. We have tried waking him up to pee around midnight. He will pee and go back to bed but still wake up with pee in a pull up. His dad wet the bed until he was 10 so I think it’s genetic.

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My DD wasn't dry at night at age 9. There was family history, so I wasn't concerned, and neither was the doctor, but it was also getting old. So I bribed her.

Maybe her body hit that magic maturation point at the same time as I hit my patience limit, but it worked. We started with a reward for one night dry, then two nights, then three, then a week, and so on. After a month we discontinued the bribes and declared the experiment a success.

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Anonymous wrote:DOES Anyone else think they make them a lot more noticeable now ? the goodnites pullusp

How are they more noticeable?

I have noticed this, they are very easy to hear and they are a bit thicker than they used to be as well.

I discussed this with our kids' babysitter this past week. (it's fine, she's been babysitting for us almost since the boys were born). Only one of our DS's wears pull-ups at night still, we also use the Goodnites. But she seems to think the same thing - that they're more 'noticeable' now.

7 yo DS hasn't expressed any discomfort with wearing them however, and isn't at all concerned about whether or not they're discreet. He will (and has...) mention to family/friends or even complete strangers that he wears pull-ups at night. He thinks they're GREAT! and asks why everyone doesn't wear a pull-up for bedtime.

Lord help me.