9 year old still bedwetting every night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those recommending diapers vs the GoodNites that we’re using now, can you share brand/type? I had only seen diapers up to size 6, with the tape fasteners.

We were recently staying in a hotel with my BF and her 8 and 3yr old boys. Older one still occasionally has accidents and not wanting to take the chance of something happening she decided to have him wear a diaper. He fussed about it, but they did fit him surprisingly well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you're getting good advice here. My son is now 14 but was wet nightly until 11-12. We saw Dr. Kalloo at Children's who suggested dietary changes (constipation is often the culprit, and even if they poop every day they can be constipated). It's exhausting and lots of laundry, but he WILL outgrow it. The very best thing you can do is just ensure he's not embarrassed. We used to "double make" the bed with 2 sets of waterproof mattress covers/fitted sheets, so when he leaked (which was most nights) we just took the wet layer off and he could go back to sleep quickly. The alarm didn't work - he slept through it so it was too late. Stay patient and hang in there. This too shall pass.

This was us too. In addition to double making the bed, we put disposable pads on the bed, if DS soaked through he could peel off the pad and go back to sleep. Was DH a bedwetter? it is often hereditary, The laundry is frustrating and DC turned down a lot of sleepovers but it did eventually stop about age 11.

[Anonymous]

I have twins. One was night trained at age 4. The other finally finished with night pants at 8.5. The one who was not night trained was the deeper sleeper and just could not wake up from the need to urinate. He still doesn't, but at some point between just before their 8th birthday and about 8 years 5 months, his body finally got enough control to hold it in until he woke up in the morning. From just before their 8th birthday until 8y5m, he just started having more and more dry days.

And a tip. If your larger child is still wetting night pants at night and sometimes overflowing the nights pants, get some long maxipads and put then inside the night pants. They act as diaper doublers, but are so much less expensive than the diaper doublers. And they hold the pee in very well. We used to get the inexpensive generic brand super long maxipads and they worked great at keeping the pee inside the night pants. Don't get the thin ones or the ones with wings, but get the superlong ones.

It was worth the cost of a few packs of cheap maxipads to avoid having to deal with a wet bed.

[Anonymous]

My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have twins. One was night trained at age 4. The other finally finished with night pants at 8.5. The one who was not night trained was the deeper sleeper and just could not wake up from the need to urinate. He still doesn't, but at some point between just before their 8th birthday and about 8 years 5 months, his body finally got enough control to hold it in until he woke up in the morning. From just before their 8th birthday until 8y5m, he just started having more and more dry days.

And a tip. If your larger child is still wetting night pants at night and sometimes overflowing the nights pants, get some long maxipads and put then inside the night pants. They act as diaper doublers, but are so much less expensive than the diaper doublers. And they hold the pee in very well. We used to get the inexpensive generic brand super long maxipads and they worked great at keeping the pee inside the night pants. Don't get the thin ones or the ones with wings, but get the superlong ones.

It was worth the cost of a few packs of cheap maxipads to avoid having to deal with a wet bed.

Great advice- thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

You really shouldn’t have to change the bed if he’s already wearing a diaper at night. Have you considered trying something other than the Goodnites?

[Anonymous]

My 6 year old still wears and often leaks out of pull ups overnight. But, unlike others, I have tried size 7 diapers, and he doesn't fit in them. They are too tight. I have also tried maxi pads, and they didn't help. They just made the pull up less tight fitting and I think actually made leaking worse. I also tried adult size incontinence underwear OVER the pull up - didn't help at all.

Our solution is to keep the bed double made and just quickly strip to the next layer at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 year old still wears and often leaks out of pull ups overnight. But, unlike others, I have tried size 7 diapers, and he doesn't fit in them. They are too tight. I have also tried maxi pads, and they didn't help. They just made the pull up less tight fitting and I think actually made leaking worse. I also tried adult size incontinence underwear OVER the pull up - didn't help at all.

Our solution is to keep the bed double made and just quickly strip to the next layer at night.

He must be a big kid. Those diapers easily fit my 7yr old.

[Anonymous]

You could monitor water intake and bowel movement.
-Don't drink after 7pm. Drink all he can drink, especially right after school because alot of kids don't drink during school hours.
-Have him try to do a #2 bowel movement before bed. This free up some space and not put pressure on the bladder.
-Make sure he really empties his bladder when he pees. Yes, that sounds like nagging. You know how it is. We pee just a bit because we are in the habit of rushing all the time, when you should really empty your bladder.
Sleeping patterns - if he's so tired, he can't possibly wake up so he sleeps through it, even with an alarm. So, routine sleeping time is helpful. It's the same as adults, you are so tired, you really don't want to get up to to go the bathroom but our brain wakes us up and we don't want to wet ourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

A lot of kids go through this phase. It’s a lot easier to take care of now that the pull-ups for bigger kids are available. No reason to have a kid waking up wet every day when that’s an option.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read all 4 pages but when DD was 8 we had success with a bed wetting alarm. If you follow the instructions exactly as stated, it works! But I would only use it on a motivated child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read all 4 pages but when DD was 8 we had success with a bed wetting alarm. If you follow the instructions exactly as stated, it works! But I would only use it on a motivated child.

Friend of mine tried the alarm before. It can make things a lot worse if you’re not careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son was a bedwetter and used pull ups until he was 10 and then like magic he outgrew it. We didn’t do any alarms or anything. At one point I would wake him around midnight to go to the bathroom when I was going to bed but that got old fast and we stopped. It wasn’t worth it. I sympathize with you. We had a wet pull up and wet bedding every night. I got disposable and washable pee pads to lay on top of the sheets which really helped - we wouldn’t have to change the sheets then, only remove the pee pad. One day he will grow out of it! Hang in there.

OP here, thank you! Before this post I hadn’t heard about anyone else with a child with this issue beyond 5-6. I appreciate it. Great idea about the disposable pad on the bed.

What’s his attitude towards it? Does it bother him a lot that he still has accidents?

[Anonymous]

No real solutions, but came here to say that DS was wetting his bed regularly until he was about 12! At some point, we made him change his bed on his own without waking us up. But he'll be heading to college this year and all is good now...