9 year old still bedwetting every night

[Anonymous]

My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

Some kids don’t outgrow it until they start puberty. I used to babysit a 10 yr old who had Goodnites. Is DS at all concerned that he’s still having these accidents?

[Anonymous]

1/3 of my boys is nine and has never woke up dry. 1/3 was dry at age 3; the final was dry at age six. Bed wetting does run in our family.

My ped is also not concerned. I have no reason to suspect anything other than he doesn’t make enough of a hormone yet. We decided not to get a bed wetting alarm because he sleeps so deeply that when he wakes up it takes him forever to fall back asleep. He already needs a ton of sleep, so we weren’t willing to risk loss of sleep.

We plan to try the medication for sleepovers and sleep away camp this spring.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

It’s normal. He good about making sure he goes straight to the bathroom as soon as he wakes up in the morning? How much does he weigh? Is he small for his age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

It’s normal. He good about making sure he goes straight to the bathroom as soon as he wakes up in the morning? How much does he weigh? Is he small for his age?

Nope he’s not small for his age- 75th-90th percentile. We make sure he goes right before bed and right when he wakes up. Honestly he doesn’t seem very bothered by this. He also hasn’t had any sleepovers..

[Anonymous]

One of my sons wet the bed until he was about 11.....he is almost 21 now with no issues except that if he drinks a lot he has to get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

A doctor once told me it was something to do with stressed adrenal glands not producing the correct hormones when sleeping that keep you from having to urinate when asleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my sons wet the bed until he was about 11.....he is almost 21 now with no issues except that if he drinks a lot he has to get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

A doctor once told me it was something to do with stressed adrenal glands not producing the correct hormones when sleeping that keep you from having to urinate when asleep.

Interesting- could that be a medical issue then, to have adrenal glands not producing the correct hormones? Seems most kids stop bedwetting years earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

It’s normal. He good about making sure he goes straight to the bathroom as soon as he wakes up in the morning? How much does he weigh? Is he small for his age?

Nope he’s not small for his age- 75th-90th percentile. We make sure he goes right before bed and right when he wakes up. Honestly he doesn’t seem very bothered by this. He also hasn’t had any sleepovers..

If he’s not bothered I wouldn’t stress over it. He mind having to use the Goodnites? Might help if you don’t call them diapers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

OP here, that’s what the pediatrician said. That his sleep signals are much stronger than his wake up and go pee signals still. That’s exactly what she told us to do - nothing. She said he’ll eventually grow out of it. I was just posting on here to see if others had kids who were similarly bedwetting at this age and grew out of it, or if there could be a medical or structural issue somehow. I’m up for trying something (and trust me if you knew me I’m extremely proactive about stuff) but have heard the alarms can be a mixed bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

OP here, that’s what the pediatrician said. That his sleep signals are much stronger than his wake up and go pee signals still. That’s exactly what she told us to do - nothing. She said he’ll eventually grow out of it. I was just posting on here to see if others had kids who were similarly bedwetting at this age and grew out of it, or if there could be a medical or structural issue somehow. I’m up for trying something (and trust me if you knew me I’m extremely proactive about stuff) but have heard the alarms can be a mixed bag.

I did it until i was 16 and my cousin is still doing it at 10, bedwetting at that age is very common and its nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

OP here, that’s what the pediatrician said. That his sleep signals are much stronger than his wake up and go pee signals still. That’s exactly what she told us to do - nothing. She said he’ll eventually grow out of it. I was just posting on here to see if others had kids who were similarly bedwetting at this age and grew out of it, or if there could be a medical or structural issue somehow. I’m up for trying something (and trust me if you knew me I’m extremely proactive about stuff) but have heard the alarms can be a mixed bag.

My kids are heavy sleepers. They are now 5 and 7 and still have an accident almost every night. We tried the nighttime pull-ups and then switched to Pampers diapers after the pull-ups leaked several times. I don’t know how big your DS is but if you are having an issue with leaks you can try an insert to help with absorbency or possibly a youth diaper.