9 year old still bedwetting every night

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I did until I was 13 or 14. All of a sudden just completely stopped one day, and never had an accident again. My son is now on the same path...he's 7 and regularly soaks through goodnights. It bothers him, so we bought the alarm and told him if he wants to try it he can, otherwise it's normal and one day he will stop on his own. He hasn't wanted to try the alarm yet so we aren't pushing it.

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DSS did so until he was 11, and then he just stopped. It runs in the family so no one was concerned.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? We had great success with the Malem with our son. You clip it to the underwear and go to him immediately when it goes off. You put his feet on the floor and get him to the bathroom. The alarm is loud and jarring. The point is to train him to “hear” the body signal to wake up. He’s in such a deep sleep.
https://bedwettingstore.com/collections/solve-bedwetting/products/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm-treatment-kit

I thought about getting something like this but he is such a deep sleeper, and once he wakes up he has a hard time getting back to sleep. Also I don’t think I could wake up in the middle of the night constantly to check on it.

So you’re just expecting this to go away on its own? Come on, OP. You’ve got to try it. Yes, it isn’t easy. But if you invest in the effort to get him up and to the bathroom, he will learn. It took us about a month. Stop making excuses. This can be resolved.

He’s not doing it on purpose. It has nothing to do with a lack of trying. Some kids literally cannot help it. It takes time for their body to mature. Don’t be so judgmental.

OP here, that’s what the pediatrician said. That his sleep signals are much stronger than his wake up and go pee signals still. That’s exactly what she told us to do - nothing. She said he’ll eventually grow out of it. I was just posting on here to see if others had kids who were similarly bedwetting at this age and grew out of it, or if there could be a medical or structural issue somehow. I’m up for trying something (and trust me if you knew me I’m extremely proactive about stuff) but have heard the alarms can be a mixed bag.

I never had any success with alarms. If he’s doing okay wearing the Goodnites I would stick with them. Don’t stigmatize them. Treat them like it’s completely normal and just encourage him to be responsible about going to the bathroom as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did until I was 13 or 14. All of a sudden just completely stopped one day, and never had an accident again. My son is now on the same path...he's 7 and regularly soaks through goodnights. It bothers him, so we bought the alarm and told him if he wants to try it he can, otherwise it's normal and one day he will stop on his own. He hasn't wanted to try the alarm yet so we aren't pushing it.

If he is small enough you can try pampers size 7, they worked better than goodnites for us.

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DD is 11 and still wets most nights. We tried the alarm, but she is such an incredibly deep sleeper that she NEVER woke up and was so out of it when I woke her up that sometimes I couldn’t physically get her out of bed. She would be belligerent and have zero memory of it the next day.

Incidentally, she also had night terrors until she turned 8. Doctors say those happen with very deep sleepers as well. I’m really hoping she outgrows it soon because she is bothered by it. Pediatrician said it’s still within the normal range and will be until she’s about 12.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did until I was 13 or 14. All of a sudden just completely stopped one day, and never had an accident again. My son is now on the same path...he's 7 and regularly soaks through goodnights. It bothers him, so we bought the alarm and told him if he wants to try it he can, otherwise it's normal and one day he will stop on his own. He hasn't wanted to try the alarm yet so we aren't pushing it.

We had issues with wetting through them too. Are they too big on him? We’ve found the size 7 regular diapers have actually been much better for overnight and are less costly.

[Anonymous]

My son turns 10 next month and was an every night bed wetter until a month ago. Doctor was never concerned, but at his 9 yr appt, he said he was feeling embarrassed about it and it was really bothering him, so dr suggested an alarm. We waited until summer break to try the alarm. We did the therapee pad first and he went from wetting 2 to 3 times a night in June, to still once per night in August, at which point the therapee pad broke beyond repair. So we got the malem alarm instead. It went off on the first night and then he was dry for 2 whole weeks before he had another accident.

So now we are in late October and he will have a very small accident once every couple weeks. I still don't know if the malem was magic or if it was just coincidence. He grew an inch and a half from late August to now and also gained 5 lbs, so that may have been the real factor that stopped the bedwetting.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS recently turned 9. He has never been dry at night. He wears a GoodNites diaper and it is wet every morning. Sometimes it actually goes through the diaper! He has no medical issues (although he was dx with ADHD recently). We limit his fluid intake in the evenings.

The pediatrician acknowledged it’s fairly rare at this age but said it’s still normal. I’m wondering if others have experienced something similar and their child outgrew it? Wondering if there could be a structural or other medical problem? I have an appt with a pediatric urologist but first opening was in early January.

This only happens at night, not during the day. I know each child is different but my younger son has been dry every night since he was 3 so it’s just a little worrisome.

YES - 8 yo, adhd, also the same. i think it is connected

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We are doing the bed wetting alarm for my 9 year old at his request because the bed wetting was really bothering him. It’s definitely genetic and he is a deep sleeper but it’s gotten significantly better with the alarm. It’s worth trying. You have to commit to waking up with him to help at first though.

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Anonymous wrote:We are doing the bed wetting alarm for my 9 year old at his request because the bed wetting was really bothering him. It’s definitely genetic and he is a deep sleeper but it’s gotten significantly better with the alarm. It’s worth trying. You have to commit to waking up with him to help at first though.

What does he wear for bed?

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for the responses, I appreciate it. Especially after reading on multiple medical websites that it is “normal up until age 7” and how 95% of kids are dry at night by age 6.

I suppose I’ll keep the urology appointment in January just in case we need to rule out an underlying structural problem or condition.

My son is 75 lb and used the large GoodNites and sometimes it soaks through those! He is not overweight at all, just tall and takes after my husband who has a football player type build.

[Anonymous]

Bedwetting runs in our family, too. I am so unconcerned that I have never even mentioned it to the pediatrician. We have not tried the alarms because my husband (whose mom says he wet every day until he was 13) was traumatized by them... they woke up everyone in his family except him! And they never worked. He did eventually outgrow it and hasn't wet the bed since I have known him . My first two outgrew it around 8-9 and my youngest is 9 and still soaking a pullup every night. All very deep sleepers.

[Anonymous]

My sister did this until she was maybe eleven. She had DDAVP for sleepovers and summer camp. I knew someone else who wet the bed into college (again, DDAVP!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for the responses, I appreciate it. Especially after reading on multiple medical websites that it is “normal up until age 7” and how 95% of kids are dry at night by age 6.

I suppose I’ll keep the urology appointment in January just in case we need to rule out an underlying structural problem or condition.

My son is 75 lb and used the large GoodNites and sometimes it soaks through those! He is not overweight at all, just tall and takes after my husband who has a football player type build.

Good chance he’d still fit in the bigger sized diapers, they make ones specifically for overnight with leak locks and they really don’t leak. If he’s getting tired of having a wet bed you might ask him if he’d be willing to give them a try.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for the responses, I appreciate it. Especially after reading on multiple medical websites that it is “normal up until age 7” and how 95% of kids are dry at night by age 6.

I suppose I’ll keep the urology appointment in January just in case we need to rule out an underlying structural problem or condition.

My son is 75 lb and used the large GoodNites and sometimes it soaks through those! He is not overweight at all, just tall and takes after my husband who has a football player type build.

Good chance he’d still fit in the bigger sized diapers, they make ones specifically for overnight with leak locks and they really don’t leak. If he’s getting tired of having a wet bed you might ask him if he’d be willing to give them a try.

What brand?