Mom bod in a bikini

[Anonymous]

I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't want you to get attention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Similar situation here, only I look better now than I did before three kids. I finally feel ok in a bikini and am proud of myself for running and weight training regularly. Wore the bikini on our vacation where my husband didn't notice or comment. Gee, thanks honey.

Wear your bikini proudly and screw anyone who isn't supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he doesn't want you to get attention?

This was the first thought that popped into my head. Go, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Screw him. Roll your eyes when he asks for a BJ.

[Anonymous]

So I'm another 45 year old mom, and I kind of don't get your reaction. If your attitude is "I'm going to wear a bikini no matter how I look in it, because I'm more comfortable in one" that's great and you should do it. But if you want to wear a bikini because you think you look good in it, isn't it a relevent data point that your husband doesn't think so?
I see women our age all the time wearing bathing suits that they apparently think they look good in, when they really don't. (Same goes for a lot of young women too, but I think the odds of looking good in a bikini at age 45, particularly after kids, is pretty slim.). If you don't care what you look like, great. But if you're doing it to look great, then wouldn't you want your husband to be honest?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Screw him. Roll your eyes when he asks for a BJ.

Dh here. Agree. Eye rolling? What an ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Another DH - if my wife could fit into a bikini, I would never take my hands off her. And if other men were checking her out and flirting with her, it would only make me want her all the more.

Congrats on your bod. Enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Probably not a good choice to embarrass your husband but YOLO

[Anonymous]

I'm in my mid thirties and would give almost anything to get back into my itty bitty teeny bikini. Rock on, OP!

[Anonymous]

Why his negativity? Maybe you don't look as hot as you think you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I'm another 45 year old mom, and I kind of don't get your reaction. If your attitude is "I'm going to wear a bikini no matter how I look in it, because I'm more comfortable in one" that's great and you should do it. But if you want to wear a bikini because you think you look good in it, isn't it a relevent data point that your husband doesn't think so?
I see women our age all the time wearing bathing suits that they apparently think they look good in, when they really don't. (Same goes for a lot of young women too, but I think the odds of looking good in a bikini at age 45, particularly after kids, is pretty slim.). If you don't care what you look like, great. But if you're doing it to look great, then wouldn't you want your husband to be honest?

Not the OP, but even if you are generally of the mindset that you're are not going to worry about what "others" think, your husband is a reasonable exception to that rule. OP's reaction shouldn't be a surprise at all. Her DH wasn't being gently honest or something, he was being dismissive. Hurtful and rude. Shame on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Do you. /End thread/

[Anonymous]

He is saying "know yourself".

[Anonymous]

No matter their shape or size, one of the hardest things for women is to feel good in their own skin. Kudos to you, OP. And enjoy your bikini!!