Mom bod in a bikini

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife looks great after 3 kids and weighs 5 lbs less than our wedding day. I much prefer her in a cute tankini.

Is there a reason for your preference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife looks great after 3 kids and weighs 5 lbs less than our wedding day. I much prefer her in a cute tankini.

Nice try honey.

My DH has no idea how much I weighed on our wedding day, or today, after ten years and two kids. He sure as hell does not know what a tankini is, and he would never use the word "cute" to describe an article of clothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife looks great after 3 kids and weighs 5 lbs less than our wedding day. I much prefer her in a cute tankini.

Nice try honey.

My DH has no idea how much I weighed on our wedding day, or today, after ten years and two kids. He sure as hell does not know what a tankini is, and he would never use the word "cute" to describe an article of clothing.

What the hell is a tankini?

[Anonymous]

Well I'm 40, two kids, and wear a bikini... I'd say about half the time at the pool. I wear the same bikinis I did pre-kid: I wasn't perfect then, and I'm not perfect now. So what? Unless you are wearing a thong or either a super model/400 lbs, nobody is going to notice what the heck you are wearing. I would be annoyed at my DH for that reaction because it is commentary about what is basically a non-issue - above and beyond whether he was complimentary. (My DH likes the bikinis or at least is smart enough to be positive!) You're happy, wear what you want. This endless spiral of body-shaming and doubt is just a huge time/energy suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife looks great after 3 kids and weighs 5 lbs less than our wedding day. I much prefer her in a cute tankini.

Nice try honey.

My DH has no idea how much I weighed on our wedding day, or today, after ten years and two kids. He sure as hell does not know what a tankini is, and he would never use the word "cute" to describe an article of clothing.

haha same. The idea of a man writing this is laughable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 45. 15-20 years ago I had an incredible body, but I really didn't know it. Funny how looking back you see what you had and think why wasn't I more confident.

Now, I'm 45 - and I'm very happy with myself. Yeah. I know my boobs aren't perky, my waist has some extra, but I feel sexy. I bought 2 bikinis for my upcoming getaway. I modeled it for my teen daughters and got the approval. But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes. It kinda deflated me. Of course I'm going to wear the suits but why his negativity?

Thanks for letting me vent.

Married guy with kids here. My wife is younger but sounds like a similar situation. I love when she wears a bikini. I think a mom bod - little belly, bigger hips and butt, etc. - is sexy. I might not have as a 20 yo, but I do now. Anyway, go for it. Sounds like a bummer of a guy to be married to.

[Anonymous]

"But my DH looked at me and asked why. He just rolled his eyes."

Oh that's easy to explain.
He was thinking...

"Oh crap here we go with this fashion judge shit again...now all the sudden she wants me to be Tim Gunn from Project Runway."

[Anonymous]

Maybe it was the prancing around modeling that he was rolling his eyes at and not your figure.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on what bikini it is. My sister wore a really small and scandalous bikini on our extended family reunion/vacation. I was annoyed with her, not because she was overweight or looked bad, but because it was really inappropriate to have most of her boobs and butt hanging out in front of our relatives. A more normal bikini I would have been fine with, but that one was just too much.

[Anonymous]

Equally likely he's apathetic to what you wear. If you like it and want to wear it then whatever you know?

[Anonymous]

If I looked even halfway decent in a bikini, my husband would be leering at me and chasing me around, not rolling his eyes.

Do not care what your husband thinks. Enjoy your body and wear what you like.

[Anonymous]

My DH never comments on my clothes or weight - EVER. I'm in good shape, but haven't always been. He doesn't want to "say the wrong thing" so unless I'm dressed for a black tie wedding or something, he won't comment. Doesn't bother me and I understand it.

That said, like pp's I think it depends on the kind of bikini. String bikini? Screams desperate at 45 (and I'm not much younger). Fitted, cute, athletic-style one? Sure.

[Anonymous]

Usually, if my husband gets my bikini off with his teeth before we go out he thinks it's the hottest thing he's ever seen.

Rolls his eyes back for him, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I'm another 45 year old mom, and I kind of don't get your reaction. If your attitude is "I'm going to wear a bikini no matter how I look in it, because I'm more comfortable in one" that's great and you should do it. But if you want to wear a bikini because you think you look good in it, isn't it a relevent data point that your husband doesn't think so?
I see women our age all the time wearing bathing suits that they apparently think they look good in, when they really don't. (Same goes for a lot of young women too, but I think the odds of looking good in a bikini at age 45, particularly after kids, is pretty slim.). If you don't care what you look like, great. But if you're doing it to look great, then wouldn't you want your husband to be honest?

First of all, no, it isn't relevant. She feels good. Her husband didn't even say she didn't look good. Maybe he doesn't want her to get attention or just thinks 45 is too old for a bikini, which it isn't.

Second of all, are you mentally 15? Are you saying you actually spend a second, at FORTY FIVE, checking out and judging other women's bodies when you're on vacation? You are what is wrong with the world. Worry about yourself.

[Anonymous]

Bikinis are trashy at any age.