Ladies, would you settle down with a man who wants to be a SAHD?

[Anonymous]

I make plenty so it's financially feasible and I do want a family, but I feel like more and more men are using the "I'm a feminist and I'd like to raise kids" excuse to cover for their lack of ambition and success.

[Anonymous]

I admit I'd have a very hard time with it unless there was a compelling argument to be made (like we're living overseas and he can't work or because he's writing a book about being a SAHD).

[Anonymous]

Nope!

[Anonymous]

No sorry. I expect an equal partner.

[Anonymous]

Uh, no. Part time so he could pick the kids up after school? yes. Saying that, I was a SAHM for my child's first year, which was great but I wouldn't be ok with being a SAHM now either.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

For forever? No way. For the earlier years of child rearing? Hell yes.

[Anonymous]

Interesting double standard here.

[Anonymous]

If I made enough money, sure. However, he would have to do the management of the household, all of the childcare, cook, clean, doctors appts, etc. Basically everything a SAHM does. I know several women who have husbands who are SAHDs and they are lazy bums. The wife works a full time job and then does a ton of shit at home too that her husband should be doing since he has no job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For forever? No way. For the earlier years of child rearing? Hell yes.

Agree. DH doesn't make much and I'm the primary breadwinner. I would love it if he wanted to stay home for a year or two when our child is born later this year.

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with it for a few years, but not as his permanent career ambition. But he'd have to be awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting double standard here.

I agree. It's pretty remarkable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I made enough money, sure. However, he would have to do the management of the household, all of the childcare, cook, clean, doctors appts, etc. Basically everything a SAHM does. I know several women who have husbands who are SAHDs and they are lazy bums. The wife works a full time job and then does a ton of shit at home too that her husband should be doing since he has no job.

+1 or if I was late 30s and getting desperate for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting double standard here.

I agree. It's pretty remarkable.

Disagree. Most men don't want SAHMs either.

[Anonymous]

No.