YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son
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Anonymous
| Too bad the other four kids are stuck |
Anonymous
There is some argument that ABA is fine without ST and OT as the ABA therapist can do it but our experience was they were very different services and the ABA was more a generalist and behavior than a specialist in ST and OT. That kid, not in school and a parent with multiple kids/working and homeschooling should have ABA 7 hours a day, not week. Once adoption they are your child. Adoption is how the child joined your family and should not define the role they take in your family. I have never ever called my child my adopted child. She was using him to make money. She knew exactly what she was getting into and warned about his SN. It isn't that common for a boy to be adopted out of China and and an slightly older one will almost always have SN. He was probably not much of a wait, which is why they agreed as they need immediate gratification. Vs. if they went for a child without known SN, it would have been a much longer wait. |
Anonymous
They will have more kids... |
Anonymous
Different poster. In fact, you may be liable for not reporting them. No qualified professional can say those things. |
Anonymous
They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers. |
Anonymous
The worst part isn't even all that but the damage caused to this child. Now, its all over the internet, including RAD, which it doesn't sound like, and it cannot be erased. This child deserved privacy and its now all out. Likewise, this is why many countries have shut down international adoption as people aren't honest with their intentions and bad things have happened to these kids so many families trying to adopt may not have a chance. She KNEW what she was getting into and was warned. That makes this all the more worse. |
Anonymous
They will run away as teenagers. Maybe the little boys new family will take them in as well. |
Anonymous
Even if you report them, no one is going to hold those doctors accountable. The licensing and state boards are very weak and it has to be basically death before they will do something. |
Anonymous
| I did not read all the pages of this thread but these issues are not as clear-cut as people like to make them out to be. Based upon my own experiences as an adoptive parent, I could see medical and psychological professionals giving the advice that finding an alternative home for one child would be a better course than continuing to have the entire family---including the other minor children---live in the current home environment. I know of situations where one child has had to go live with relatives, or in a residential treatment center, because the child's volatility in the home endangered the physical and psychological well-being of the other children. We had to send one of our children to an RTC for a six month stint because I was not going to have our other children live in a violent household. These are tragic circumstances. I am horrified, however, in general by youtubers/influencers, what-have-you---who would violate the privacy of children by revealing all this on the internet. |
Anonymous
Oh, but those are their “actual” children. Different rules, apparently. |
Anonymous
It is a clear cut, especially based off your post. There is a huge difference in sending a child to a relative for respite/support, or even a RTC. You have gone to your breaking point, done everything you can and doing more by getting the help they need. By sending a child to RTC, you are still their parents, you still have legal rights and if they can transition home, you would take them home. This is a 4 year old child who came from another country with a different language, customs, etc and on top of that had a brain injury which was disclosed at placement. It was clear that there would be long term issues. They still choose to take it on. And, now they got their money's worth, he is hampering their lifestyle and they gave him away. Who gives away their child and immediately goes on vacation? We adopted a child. No one would have predicted SN. We were in therapies 5 days a week. I had to quit my job as cost/benefit of a nanny made no sense and I wanted consistent parenting. We did everything we could and got lucky it worked (who knows if the therapies helped or not). I cannot imagine at any point when it was hard that I would walk away. If anything, it made me more determined to find the right providers, the right help and do everything in my power to give my child a chance to be successful and if not, I was going to save every dime I could to create a trust fund to make sure they had life long care. There was no giving this child back. There was no giving this child away. This woman never bonded with this child and he was a lot of work. They blame him for things like attachments but ultimately they never bonded as how can you just give your child away and be ok the next day. We have had some pretty bad things happen. I wasn't ok days after. I grieved for years and still grieve, especially that related to a child. |
Anonymous
I don't know. When they stop fitting into the perfect mold for youtube they may be sent away. |
Anonymous
| I won't judge these people because I have not walked in their shoes but I have to wonder as an early pp stated "Who adopts a BOY from China?" If you know anything about Chinese culture and society,you would have to know there are some serious issues with this child that he would be given up by his birth family and placed with a foreign [i]family. |
Anonymous
Do you realize how absolutely stupid you sound? |
Anonymous
I have teenagers, I can see the desire to rehome them. |