Is it bad form to announce a pregnancy days before an extended family member's wedding?

[Anonymous]

Would rather come clean before the wedding bc I look fat and won't be drinking. The problem is that I turn 12 weeks that week, and will get my genetic testing results back just a couple days beforehand. Could this be considered stealing the brides thunder in any possible way? I don't think so, but wanted to make sure. It's not my first child so not even particularly exciting or surprising news, as compared to someone who is pg with their first..

[Anonymous]

Oh, for goodness sake, just wait till afterward.

[Anonymous]

Announce to who?

[Anonymous]

Yes, just wait. If anyone asks, say you are not drinking because you are trying to watch your weight.

[Anonymous]

Why is it anybody's business why someone else is not drinking?

[Anonymous]

Don't announce. Tell your immediate family as you usually do, but then let it work through the rumor mill or come up more naturally in conversation (why aren't you drinking? oh I'm pregnant again).

[Anonymous]

Wait until after. Carry around a drink that looks like it might have alcohol in it, like cranberry juice.

[Anonymous]

Why should you wait? It's not your sister, right?I would tell immediate family and then casually mention it to whoever you see at the wedding. I am assuming you were not planning to put on a slide show or steal the mic before the first dance. I 'announced' a pregnancy at a friend's wedding in that when mutual friends asked me how things were going I said they were going well, job was good, I'm pregnant, sister moved to the west coast, how's your dog? blah blah blah. Don't make a big deal about it and like you said, people won't really care.

[Anonymous]

Is anyone going to make your pregnancy a big deal if you tell people the weekend of the wedding? In my family there are so many kids that another pregnancy is pretty much met with a hearty congratulations and big thumbs up and that's that.

[Anonymous]

seriously? just avoid the question. that is really annoying..what bride wouldn't love to be celebrating somebody else's pregnancy on her big day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:seriously? just avoid the question. that is really annoying..what bride wouldn't love to be celebrating somebody else's pregnancy on her big day?

So no one else is allowed to have any happy news at someone else's wedding? Some of my friends got engaged on the steps of the church immediately before my wedding. I was thrilled for them. They knew a handful of other people at my wedding and told them during the reception. I did not care at all.

For OP, her family is only half the wedding, and taking into account the couples friends, it's probably only a dozen or so people who would even care at all. Not like the entire wedding is going to be talking about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously? just avoid the question. that is really annoying..what bride wouldn't love to be celebrating somebody else's pregnancy on her big day?

So no one else is allowed to have any happy news at someone else's wedding? Some of my friends got engaged on the steps of the church immediately before my wedding. I was thrilled for them. They knew a handful of other people at my wedding and told them during the reception. I did not care at all.

For OP, her family is only half the wedding, and taking into account the couples friends, it's probably only a dozen or so people who would even care at all. Not like the entire wedding is going to be talking about it.

You can also say that no one gives a damn that she won't be drinking or looks fat. OP has nine months to announce her pregnancy. The bride has one day.

[Anonymous]

If there will be family there who you don't see often, I would tell them. If people live in the same city, I'd wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should you wait? It's not your sister, right?I would tell immediate family and then casually mention it to whoever you see at the wedding. I am assuming you were not planning to put on a slide show or steal the mic before the first dance. I 'announced' a pregnancy at a friend's wedding in that when mutual friends asked me how things were going I said they were going well, job was good, I'm pregnant, sister moved to the west coast, how's your dog? blah blah blah. Don't make a big deal about it and like you said, people won't really care.

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people are so crazy bridezilla and worried about thunder stealing where weddings are concerned. Get over yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously? just avoid the question. that is really annoying..what bride wouldn't love to be celebrating somebody else's pregnancy on her big day?

So no one else is allowed to have any happy news at someone else's wedding? Some of my friends got engaged on the steps of the church immediately before my wedding. I was thrilled for them. They knew a handful of other people at my wedding and told them during the reception. I did not care at all.

For OP, her family is only half the wedding, and taking into account the couples friends, it's probably only a dozen or so people who would even care at all. Not like the entire wedding is going to be talking about it.

Your friends are shit.