Is it bad form to announce a pregnancy days before an extended family member's wedding?

[Anonymous]

I have been in this situation before. One of my cousins told family at my wedding reception that she was pregnant with child #3. I didn't even know at the time, and didn't care - I was busy being the bride. And why couldn't my family talk about that exciting news in person?!?

I also announced my second pregnancy the morning after a cousin's wedding, when the family was together for breakfast. And some astute family members already suspected, given that I nursed the same drink all night (!).

So my vote is to just let folks know.

[Anonymous]

Three people announced pregnancies at my wedding, including two family members. It was wonderful! This is what family is all about people. Spread the joy!

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask the question, you already know the answer. No no no. Don't do it. It's the couples day, not yours.

[Anonymous]

It's not even your first? hardly an earth shattering announcement, then. I say post it on FB in advance and be low-key at the event, but don't lie. that's just pointless.

[Anonymous]

Wait till after.

[Anonymous]

I'm Catholic. Everyone in my family is pregnant at one time or another. It's no big deal...it's like getting another speeding ticket in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't announce. Tell your immediate family as you usually do, but then let it work through the rumor mill or come up more naturally in conversation (why aren't you drinking? oh I'm pregnant again).

Agree with this. I think hiding it so as not to "thunder steal" is stupid, especially with 2nd and 3rd pregnancies and so on. The jig is up, since you are already a parent, and people will be excited but it won't be big news in the same way as your first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't announce. Tell your immediate family as you usually do, but then let it work through the rumor mill or come up more naturally in conversation (why aren't you drinking? oh I'm pregnant again).

Agree with this. I think hiding it so as not to "thunder steal" is stupid, especially with 2nd and 3rd pregnancies and so on. The jig is up, since you are already a parent, and people will be excited but it won't be big news in the same way as your first.

I agree too. There's no big announcement - if you've had a kid, and are within the usual time frame (a few years) of that one, it's just not that big a deal. Tell close family as you normally would.

[Anonymous]

Please wait! I was 14ish weeks at a family wedding-- we waited until the morning after to tell folks, to keep attention on the bride and groom. It's their day, and btw, people are going to be so busy they probably won't notice you drinking something non-alcoholic. It was super easy to avoid at the wedding I attended. I also knew that if we told family before-- even a few weeks before-- the wedding would be the first time we saw them in person and there would be a lot of excitement, so we wanted to reserve that for after the wedding.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't announce AT the wedding or the wedding day. The days leading up? Sure. I wouldn't personally make a big to do with everyone but tell your immediate family as you would and let it go from there. I certainly wouldn't make up lies or drink fake drinks for the sake of a bridezilla

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- i was planning to post on Facebook several days in advance of the wedding, basically as soon as I get my test results back. I would never make some big announcement at the wedding!

If I don't do the above, I will probably take the route of slipping it into conversation at the wedding when I see people, but I was hoping to put it on fb first so I wasn't talking about it very much at the wedding itself. Just trying to be sensitive to the bride. And no, not my sister, an extended family member who is getting married late in life (i.e. Not my generation).

Do this. Put it on FB. It's fine. Life doesn't stop when someone gets married, ornin the weeks before someone gets married. Good lord, People.

That is 100000% fine. If anyone has an issue with that, they are NUTS and it is their problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the bride and grooms day- the attention will be on them, not you. No one will notice you drinking Shirley Temples and that you are getting a little thick in the waist.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should you wait? It's not your sister, right?I would tell immediate family and then casually mention it to whoever you see at the wedding. I am assuming you were not planning to put on a slide show or steal the mic before the first dance. I 'announced' a pregnancy at a friend's wedding in that when mutual friends asked me how things were going I said they were going well, job was good, I'm pregnant, sister moved to the west coast, how's your dog? blah blah blah. Don't make a big deal about it and like you said, people won't really care.

Yup this. I think a FB announcement is fine. Life does not stop for either babies or weddings.

It's not stopping life. OP can wait another day or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- i was planning to post on Facebook several days in advance of the wedding, basically as soon as I get my test results back. I would never make some big announcement at the wedding!

If I don't do the above, I will probably take the route of slipping it into conversation at the wedding when I see people, but I was hoping to put it on fb first so I wasn't talking about it very much at the wedding itself. Just trying to be sensitive to the bride. And no, not my sister, an extended family member who is getting married late in life (i.e. Not my generation).

Bullshit! Clearly it's all about you and your plans at all times.

Why don't you have the minister make a special announcement for you.


How dare she get married late in life and not get a chance to be a breeder like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- i was planning to post on Facebook several days in advance of the wedding, basically as soon as I get my test results back. I would never make some big announcement at the wedding!

If I don't do the above, I will probably take the route of slipping it into conversation at the wedding when I see people, but I was hoping to put it on fb first so I wasn't talking about it very much at the wedding itself. Just trying to be sensitive to the bride. And no, not my sister, an extended family member who is getting married late in life (i.e. Not my generation).

Bullshit! Clearly it's all about you and your plans at all times.

Why don't you have the minister make a special announcement for you.


How dare she get married late in life and not get a chance to be a breeder like you.

I'm usually not a fan of the overused DCUM of "unhinged" but it fits you like a glove. Slow your roll, crazy.