Is it bad form to announce a pregnancy days before an extended family member's wedding?

[Anonymous]

Just wait!!!

[Anonymous]

Why wait? I don't get it. Happy news, and would make the day even more of a celebration. As a bride, I would be thrilled to learn of a new baby the same day I was celebrating my wedding. I don't get the "stealing thunder" thing.

[Anonymous]

If there is a family breakfast the morning after the wedding, you could do it then. I would not do it at the wedding. No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, for goodness sake, just wait till afterward.

+1000 Don't be selfish.

[Anonymous]

This is the bride and grooms day- the attention will be on them, not you. No one will notice you drinking Shirley Temples and that you are getting a little thick in the waist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should you wait? It's not your sister, right?I would tell immediate family and then casually mention it to whoever you see at the wedding. I am assuming you were not planning to put on a slide show or steal the mic before the first dance. I 'announced' a pregnancy at a friend's wedding in that when mutual friends asked me how things were going I said they were going well, job was good, I'm pregnant, sister moved to the west coast, how's your dog? blah blah blah. Don't make a big deal about it and like you said, people won't really care.

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people are so crazy bridezilla and worried about thunder stealing where weddings are concerned. Get over yourselves.

+1


I can't believe the number of people telling you to wait and even lie.

[Anonymous]

Days before? Yeah. Of course. It's not like you're putting it in the toast.

[Anonymous]

OP here- i was planning to post on Facebook several days in advance of the wedding, basically as soon as I get my test results back. I would never make some big announcement at the wedding!

If I don't do the above, I will probably take the route of slipping it into conversation at the wedding when I see people, but I was hoping to put it on fb first so I wasn't talking about it very much at the wedding itself. Just trying to be sensitive to the bride. And no, not my sister, an extended family member who is getting married late in life (i.e. Not my generation).

[Anonymous]

Why take a chance? Just wait!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- i was planning to post on Facebook several days in advance of the wedding, basically as soon as I get my test results back. I would never make some big announcement at the wedding!

If I don't do the above, I will probably take the route of slipping it into conversation at the wedding when I see people, but I was hoping to put it on fb first so I wasn't talking about it very much at the wedding itself. Just trying to be sensitive to the bride. And no, not my sister, an extended family member who is getting married late in life (i.e. Not my generation).

I would announce a few days before - preferably NOT on rehearsal dinner day or another day that is wedding related. I would want to avoid making first mention of it at the wedding though - that could very well come across as thunder stealing which is not your goal.

[Anonymous]

Slipping it in later during the wedding when most people will be suspicious when they see you is in some ways worse. People will be talking about you and your suspected pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seriously? just avoid the question. that is really annoying..what bride wouldn't love to be celebrating somebody else's pregnancy on her big day?

So no one else is allowed to have any happy news at someone else's wedding? Some of my friends got engaged on the steps of the church immediately before my wedding. I was thrilled for them. They knew a handful of other people at my wedding and told them during the reception. I did not care at all.

For OP, her family is only half the wedding, and taking into account the couples friends, it's probably only a dozen or so people who would even care at all. Not like the entire wedding is going to be talking about it.

Your friends are shit.

Haha. +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slipping it in later during the wedding when most people will be suspicious when they see you is in some ways worse. People will be talking about you and your suspected pregnancy.

No they won't. It's not her day and no one cares about her that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Slipping it in later during the wedding when most people will be suspicious when they see you is in some ways worse. People will be talking about you and your suspected pregnancy.

No they won't. It's not her day and no one cares about her that much.

I think if she's coy about it, then yes it will. But if she's direct and doesn't make it a big deal, it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Announce it.otherwise it will become the "big news" at the wedding when Aunt Biddie just straight up asks you and wants to be the first to tell everyone.

The people saying don't announce it are loones.