How to tell my fiancé to stop always waking me up?

[Anonymous]

Omg it's getting out of hand! I have a chronic condition and I get very tired. I work and after my shifts I am usually exhausted. I come home and sleep for 2 hrs or so before getting up to do chores, cook and watch tv/chill with him. He is constantly waking me up. If it's in the morning or I'm napping he will just stand next to the bed and call my name until I wake up. Sometimes I wake up to him shaking me awake to ask a question or tell me something.

I have asked him to stop. He replied that he doesn't wake me up. And also I wake him up sometimes. Ugh. Fwi, I wake him up for important things like if his alarm clock is chiming and he doesn't hear it not to tell him that I'm leaving the house to walk the dog. It's like when normal people have the thought "oh she's asleep" he doesn't and he just barged to wake me up. Advice?

[Anonymous]

Scream when he does it again

[Anonymous]

Refuse to engage with him when he wakes you. Refuse to give him what he wants, whatever that is. When he figures out it's pointless to wake you, he will stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scream when he does it again

+1.

[Anonymous]

Tell him, "Do not wake me up. If you wake me up to ask me a question, I will not answer it. If you wake me up to tell me something, I will not listen. Do not wake me up unless the police are in the house, you need to be driven to the emergency room, or the house is on fire."

Then stick to that.

[Anonymous]

Also, if his alarm clock is chiming, and he's not waking up, then don't wake him up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him, "Do not wake me up. If you wake me up to ask me a question, I will not answer it. If you wake me up to tell me something, I will not listen. Do not wake me up unless the police are in the house, you need to be driven to the emergency room, or the house is on fire."

Then stick to that.

Lol these are pretty much exactly the only reasons I would be ok with it.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry him until this stops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, if his alarm clock is chiming, and he's not waking up, then don't wake him up.

If I don't, he will be annoyed that I let him sleep. Sometimes he wakes me up just because he needs help with sometimes that he could figure out if he tried longer.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is the problem? He wants to let you know that he is leaving to walk the dog. I don't see anything wrong with that. If you are so unavailable to him then you should rethink getting married. Why do you take a two hour nap after work? Why don't you plow through and get a solid nights sleep and then wake up with your soon to be ex? It sounds like your chronic condition is broken sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't marry him until this stops.

+1. Why do you live with/ want to marry someone this disrespectful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him, "Do not wake me up. If you wake me up to ask me a question, I will not answer it. If you wake me up to tell me something, I will not listen. Do not wake me up unless the police are in the house, you need to be driven to the emergency room, or the house is on fire."

Then stick to that.

Lol these are pretty much exactly the only reasons I would be ok with it.

I cried the last time my husband woke me up for no reason. I was sick and hadn't slept much the night before and he woke me up for no damned reason and I just lost it. Not my best moment but he hasn't woken me up for no reason since.

[Anonymous]

OMG, have you already been married for 20 years?! Because this is what old married people fight about. This is why couple move to separate bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him, "Do not wake me up. If you wake me up to ask me a question, I will not answer it. If you wake me up to tell me something, I will not listen. Do not wake me up unless the police are in the house, you need to be driven to the emergency room, or the house is on fire."

Then stick to that.

Lol these are pretty much exactly the only reasons I would be ok with it.

And if he refuses, don't go through with the marriage. He's clearly immensely self-centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, if his alarm clock is chiming, and he's not waking up, then don't wake him up.

If I don't, he will be annoyed that I let him sleep. Sometimes he wakes me up just because he needs help with sometimes that he could figure out if he tried longer.

Then he will be annoyed.