Is this unfair ( sexual history related)?

[Anonymous]

My bf has not told be about losing his virginity.
He was my first so he knows all my history.
I know he was not a monk prior to our relationship. I'm not asking for numbers or details on specific acts, and he still won't tell me.
This bothers me, and I'm probably making a bigger deal of it than I need to, but I still feel like this is something he should tell me given our situation.

[Anonymous]

What exactly do you want to know? And how old are you?

[Anonymous]

Really OP? You sound a little young so I'll be easy on you. It's really his business to tell you or not to tell you and you need to take it easy with trying to control the info flow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My bf has not told be about losing his virginity.
He was my first so he knows all my history.
I know he was not a monk prior to our relationship. I'm not asking for numbers or details on specific acts, and he still won't tell me.
This bothers me, and I'm probably making a bigger deal of it than I need to, but I still feel like this is something he should tell me given our situation.

OP, his stats --numbers and specific acts-- matter more for your health than how he lost his virginity. I think you are very young and don't know much about protecting yourself or having important conversations about sexual history with a partner. When I was younger there was a site called GoAskAlice that provided a lot of reliable info and solid advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bf has not told be about losing his virginity.
He was my first so he knows all my history.
I know he was not a monk prior to our relationship. I'm not asking for numbers or details on specific acts, and he still won't tell me.
This bothers me, and I'm probably making a bigger deal of it than I need to, but I still feel like this is something he should tell me given our situation.

OP, his stats --numbers and specific acts-- matter more for your health than how he lost his virginity. I think you are very young and don't know much about protecting yourself or having important conversations about sexual history with a partner. When I was younger there was a site called GoAskAlice that provided a lot of reliable info and solid advice.

What I meant was , I'm not asking for a detailed history of every partner he's been with or what he did with them. He got tested and we use protection etc. etc.

[Anonymous]

What exactly do you want him to tell you? The only thing I want to know is that you have a clean bill of health that's within the last six months. If you took a pineapple up the ass while dressed as Chaz Bono in the front and Cher in the back, I don't care, as long as that pineapple wasn't up the ass of someone with AIDS first.

[Anonymous]

So what are you asking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly do you want him to tell you? The only thing I want to know is that you have a clean bill of health that's within the last six months. If you took a pineapple up the ass while dressed as Chaz Bono in the front and Cher in the back, I don't care, as long as that pineapple wasn't up the ass of someone with AIDS first.

Good god almighty LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really OP? You sound a little young so I'll be easy on you. It's really his business to tell you or not to tell you and you need to take it easy with trying to control the info flow.

I don't see why he won't tell me. If the situation were reversed I would tell him. It just seems wrong that he knows all about my first time and by default my entire sexual history and I don't know much about his. I think it would make sense for him to tell me about his first time given the situation.
I'm not controlling anything. I haven't given him any ultimatums or anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really OP? You sound a little young so I'll be easy on you. It's really his business to tell you or not to tell you and you need to take it easy with trying to control the info flow.

I don't see why he won't tell me. If the situation were reversed I would tell him. It just seems wrong that he knows all about my first time and by default my entire sexual history and I don't know much about his. I think it would make sense for him to tell me about his first time given the situation.
I'm not controlling anything. I haven't given him any ultimatums or anything.

Your insistence on this is odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly do you want to know? And how old are you?

I want to know who? and how old he was?

I'm 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly do you want to know? And how old are you?

I want to know who? and how old he was? I'm 25.

You're being ridiculous and petty. Consider that his first time may have been at age 15 with the school slut, that he didn't love her, just did it so he wouldn't be a virgin, and doesn't care that they never talked again. Consider that his first time may have been at age 17 or 18 as a freshman in college with the TA in his sociology course, and he did it with her because even though he had a girlfriend at the time, she flirted and he realized it would get him an easy A. Wouldn't both of those change how you think of him? If he's 30 or hell, even 26 now, he's a different person than who he was back then. Unless his first time was with one of your immediate family members, it has zero relevance to you. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really OP? You sound a little young so I'll be easy on you. It's really his business to tell you or not to tell you and you need to take it easy with trying to control the info flow.

I don't see why he won't tell me. If the situation were reversed I would tell him. It just seems wrong that he knows all about my first time and by default my entire sexual history and I don't know much about his. I think it would make sense for him to tell me about his first time given the situation.
I'm not controlling anything. I haven't given him any ultimatums or anything.

Your insistence on this is odd.

I guess it's because I waited a long time and it was special to me, and he tells me it was a long time ago and it doesn't really remember much, so I think he's lying because I doubt I'll forget my first time.

I really don't understand why this is weird. Is this really something people don't talk about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My bf has not told be about losing his virginity.
He was my first so he knows all my history.
I know he was not a monk prior to our relationship. I'm not asking for numbers or details on specific acts, and he still won't tell me.
This bothers me, and I'm probably making a bigger deal of it than I need to, but I still feel like this is something he should tell me given our situation.

OP, his stats --numbers and specific acts-- matter more for your health than how he lost his virginity. I think you are very young and don't know much about protecting yourself or having important conversations about sexual history with a partner. When I was younger there was a site called GoAskAlice that provided a lot of reliable info and solid advice.

Thanks, fossil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly do you want him to tell you? The only thing I want to know is that you have a clean bill of health that's within the last six months. If you took a pineapple up the ass while dressed as Chaz Bono in the front and Cher in the back, I don't care, as long as that pineapple wasn't up the ass of someone with AIDS first.

Actually, now that you mention it, I would want to screen for that possibility....