Is it okay to reveal an SO's secret to a loved one?
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Anonymous
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Bad title, but say you found out some potentially scandalous information about a loved one's SO do you tell them?
It's about the SO's past, but you are fairly certain your loved one doesn't know. Tell or keep mouth shut. |
Anonymous
| Too vague. Depends on the secret. |
Anonymous
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Okay it's anonymous.
SO was at one time a sex worker. |
Anonymous
| I would approach the SO and tell them I know, and I don't want to create trouble and certainly won't gossip, but because this is a potential health issue, I'm going to need them to tell my loved one, and if they don't, I will. |
Anonymous
and this is your business, how? |
Anonymous
If not married yet, tell. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't say anything. It's none of your business. |
Anonymous
| None of your business. |
Anonymous
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Have they been together for a while?
If so, it's probably too late to worry about STD concerns. I wouldn't get into it unless they've only been together briefly. |
Anonymous
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They aren't married.
For those that say it's not my business, I've long been suspicious of this person, and I don't want to see my loved one get hurt. |
Anonymous
They've been together less than a year. |
Anonymous
| Only tell if you're prepared for your loved one to side with the SO over you. |
Anonymous
| How do you know? Is it absolute fact? If you do tell something like that, you can't take any chances on being wrong. If you don't have proof, loved one may not believe you. |
Anonymous
| Suspicious about what? Do you think they are still a sex worker? |
Anonymous
Suspicious that SO is using loved one. |