Are people okay with losing friends over politics

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not losing friends, I’m losing relatives who cheer on my husband and I losing our federal jobs while they— retirees— sit smug all comfy with their —throat clear—public sector pensions. If they live long enough they’ll spend more years collecting than they had actually worked in those jobs.

I think Trump has ruined more families than anything else since the civil war. Friends and I have taken a poll and the vast majority of families with 3 or more kids has at least one sibling estranged over politics. It seems like more MAGA have pulled away, except in DH’s family his gay brother pulled away from his MAGA brother in the first term.

This is the behavior of an abuser… isolate the person from family and friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

OP this thread is a good indication of the world your child is living in and why she is behaving the way she is. I would just keep talking to her and model openness to other opinions. It’s also helpful if you have family who get along and are on different sides of the aisle.

[Anonymous]

I didn't lose friends because I got rid of them. They left and joined a cult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just Trump. They have been protesting Republican attorney generals, calling them fascist at least back to Reagan. I remember the protests in the streets that even blocked ambulances complaining about Ashcroft.
And comparing Republicans to Nazis goes back to Harry Truman.

We are in the heat and now

Miller and Trump
Are Nazis and Trump
Is a con man he does nothing for anyone but himself.

We are in the here and now there is zero reality the Republicans are even a party.

Either you stand with our military who by the way takes an oath to the constitution or you are garbage and you stand with the KKK traitors

There is zero chance one can say they are an American and stand with the dictator crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about someone”s politics until the past year. I would 100% drop a friend who still supports Trump after everything that has happened since January.

This isn’t normal republicans vs democrats anymore. The maga party is doing really criminal things, unconstitutional, illegal.
I have dropped longtime friends who voted for trump. I know two who voted for him and now realize what a mistake it was.
Your daughter is right. Be proud of her for standing up for human rights and for our country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not just Trump. They have been protesting Republican attorney generals, calling them fascist at least back to Reagan. I remember the protests in the streets that even blocked ambulances complaining about Ashcroft.
And comparing Republicans to Nazis goes back to Harry Truman.

Actually for a lot of people it is just Trump. I have never drawn a line in the sand before. Trump is different, and the absolute worst, POTUS of all time. He is ruining the country.

+1 I was a republican before trump and his maga party drive it into the ground.its so different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

the problem is that the difference between Trump/MAGA and normal political disagreements is stark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

You made a choice to be a stealth Trump supporter to avoid any blowback. Your DD’s friend chose to support him openly and accept any social consequences. She’s either very brave or likes being a sh!t stirrer. I think you should reach out to her and let her know that she’s not alone.

Encourage your dd to be kind and to treat others with dignity and respect. She can choose who she wants to be friends with. If she no longer feels compatible with this longtime friend, the relationship may have run its course. She should not be mean to the other girl, but she’s not obligated to remain friends forever.

Trump and MAGA do not treat people with dignity and respect. You are expecting more from the other side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about someone”s politics until the past year. I would 100% drop a friend who still supports Trump after everything that has happened since January.

how about everything that has happened since January 2021????

Other than restoring a broken economy, what happened since January 2021?

[Anonymous]

A family member told me about how extreme the roommate was, like militia level.
Nevertheless remained friends, and this roommate later asked me about letting them know where the ashes would be distributed for my family member so they could visit the site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just Trump. They have been protesting Republican attorney generals, calling them fascist at least back to Reagan. I remember the protests in the streets that even blocked ambulances complaining about Ashcroft.
And comparing Republicans to Nazis goes back to Harry Truman.

Trump and Miller were calling Biden and Harris facists, communists, marxists and so on and you didn't have a problem with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually feel bad for you OP. I can tell you were sincere with your post, but the people on here are viscous.

How is it vicious to point out the trust of MAGA?

[Anonymous]

Before Trump, absolutely not. I come from a very conservative extended family and live in a red state. I grew up Christian, and I am still a Christian. Because of this, I could always understand the R point of view, especially on abortion. Even if I didn’t agree with them, I understood. So I never judged anyone for voting R.

Trump changed everything. It is no longer about politics. At all. Anyone who still supports him and makes excuses for him is simply not someone I want to spend time with. Our values, morals, and ethics are not the same. I have no respect whatsoever for anyone who still supports him. He is a racist, misogynistic pedophile. He is a cheater, abuser, and con man. If you are still in denial of this, then I don’t even know what to tell you. It is all right there in front of your eyes. You are choosing not to see it.

Listen to your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not just Trump. They have been protesting Republican attorney generals, calling them fascist at least back to Reagan. I remember the protests in the streets that even blocked ambulances complaining about Ashcroft.
And comparing Republicans to Nazis goes back to Harry Truman.

Bullshit. Not comparable. Trump is a new beast. Ask the millions of Republicans who reject him.

Where ARE the millions who reject him? Why aren’t they taking action and calling their representatives to oust this Ponzi scheme of a president?

Yeah, there are not millions of Republicans who reject him. The Republicans are MAGA. If not, why are GOP politicians who have been in Congress for decades supporting him?

[Anonymous]

I can not be friends of any Trump supporters. Our basic morals and values differ too much.