Are people okay with losing friends over politics

[Anonymous]

We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

[Anonymous]

It’s different now for a lot of us: we aren’t talking anymore about who wants smaller government or who wants to spend more on the military.

To have a vote for Trump and the GOP be “not a big deal” means reproductive rights, voting rights, and the rule of law is not a big deal to you either, and for me, we are talking about not sharing real values here.

[Anonymous]

I never cared about someone”s politics until the past year. I would 100% drop a friend who still supports Trump after everything that has happened since January.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

You made a choice to be a stealth Trump supporter to avoid any blowback. Your DD’s friend chose to support him openly and accept any social consequences. She’s either very brave or likes being a sh!t stirrer. I think you should reach out to her and let her know that she’s not alone.

Encourage your dd to be kind and to treat others with dignity and respect. She can choose who she wants to be friends with. If she no longer feels compatible with this longtime friend, the relationship may have run its course. She should not be mean to the other girl, but she’s not obligated to remain friends forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about someone”s politics until the past year. I would 100% drop a friend who still supports Trump after everything that has happened since January.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

Your daughter is a lot smarter than you. Learn from her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

This is cultish. Did your daughter have Biden flags? I think this explains everything. Besides all the blatant cruelty. Finally, if you can’t tell anyone who you voted for, you know it’s wrong.

[Anonymous]

I’m not losing friends, I’m losing relatives who cheer on my husband and I losing our federal jobs while they— retirees— sit smug all comfy with their —throat clear—public sector pensions. If they live long enough they’ll spend more years collecting than they had actually worked in those jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re the kind of parents who don’t really care much about who wins elections. We did vote for Trump, but either way it wasn’t a big deal to us. My daughter, however, was very upset when she found out. She’s glad we live in a very blue state. We knew he wasn't going to win Maryland.
This why we can't tell anyone who we voted for....

Her best friend has some Trump flags in her room, and now my daughter doesn’t want to be friends with her anymore because of it. I told her that it should be okay—that differences in political views shouldn’t end a friendship, especially since they’ve been close friends since kindergarten.

The girl is also losing many of her friends for the same reason. I even spoke with her mom. Most of the friend group is Latinas, so SHE NOT RACIST. but they keep telling she likes a "PDF" and a racist. m

How can I help my daughter understand that it’s okay to have different views, and how can I help the kids stop treating her friend this way?

Do you have a lot of friends that have different political views?

No. Trumpers and you want to kill my family and me because I support the constitution. You want troops on the streets of Maryland because there are too many uppity blacks and hispanics. You support kidnapping people off the street and force everyone to work in a factory owned by some billionaire who gave Trump a dollar.

I always wonder who would stand with the Nazis as they dragged your neighbors away and it is people like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never cared about someone”s politics until the past year. I would 100% drop a friend who still supports Trump after everything that has happened since January.

how about everything that has happened since January 2021????

[Anonymous]

We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist. ~ James Baldwin

This is the problem with MAGA politics; it seeks to oppress and deny the humanity of a large swath of the American electorate. At this point denying this reality is straight up gaslighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not losing friends, I’m losing relatives who cheer on my husband and I losing our federal jobs while they— retirees— sit smug all comfy with their —throat clear—public sector pensions. If they live long enough they’ll spend more years collecting than they had actually worked in those jobs.

I think Trump has ruined more families than anything else since the civil war. Friends and I have taken a poll and the vast majority of families with 3 or more kids has at least one sibling estranged over politics. It seems like more MAGA have pulled away, except in DH’s family his gay brother pulled away from his MAGA brother in the first term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not losing friends, I’m losing relatives who cheer on my husband and I losing our federal jobs while they— retirees— sit smug all comfy with their —throat clear—public sector pensions. If they live long enough they’ll spend more years collecting than they had actually worked in those jobs.

I think Trump has ruined more families than anything else since the civil war. Friends and I have taken a poll and the vast majority of families with 3 or more kids has at least one sibling estranged over politics. It seems like more MAGA have pulled away, except in DH’s family his gay brother pulled away from his MAGA brother in the first term.

I’m pp >> meant to say white families

[Anonymous]

But surely, someone’s morals are indicative of who they are. So are their politics; where you vote indicates what your priorities are.

It isn’t “dehumanizing” someone to point out that if they don’t care about Trump & Co. undermining science, healthcare, the rule of law and so forth, they might not be the type of person I want to be friends with. I’m not saying you aren’t human, but I am saying you aren’t my kind of human.

[Anonymous]

It's not just Trump. They have been protesting Republican attorney generals, calling them fascist at least back to Reagan. I remember the protests in the streets that even blocked ambulances complaining about Ashcroft.
And comparing Republicans to Nazis goes back to Harry Truman.