“She’s like one of the guys”

[Anonymous]

It’s hilarious how mad women in this board get about this. They sound like the woman version of incels (femcels or ran thru).

[Anonymous]

It means she is one of nature's oddities: a sane female.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women.

You’re not one of the guys cause you’re always making something out of nothing. This is the exact thing men avoid in friends

[Anonymous]

Guys like to hang out with other guys who like to have fun, have a sense of humor, like a lot of the same things they like and are not judgmental of each other.

If you are like that but you are female then you are probably described as being like one of the guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not an insult. It’s the girl all your husbands wish they were with instead of you frumpy old fat dcumdumpsters.

Try to guess why the women you know refer to you as "one of the a$$holes".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s hilarious how mad women in this board get about this. They sound like the woman version of incels (femcels or ran thru).

Read through the comments again. Nobody is mad. You might want to try not making a big hilarious deal out of nothing.

[Anonymous]

I was a bit of a tomboy, but attractive, fun, and down-to-earth. I had a crush on two of my guy friends, but I didn't want to get rejected or lose their friendship. So, I just friend-zoned myself with all my guy friends and become one of the guys. Still friends with them decades later.

One of those guys said, "you know, you're the only female friend that I haven't had sex with". I was a bit offended and a bit heart-warmed at the same time.

No games, no primping, no agenda, etc. I don't think that attracts college age guys.

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of guy friends (but also girl friends) so I've probably had this said about me. I get along with guys, can talk about sports or their relationships, and I'm basically unthreatening. I'm reasonably attractive but not overtly sexy. When I meet their girlfriends or wives, I'm welcoming. If I were an incel, I'd say I get friend-zoned, but in my case, friend zone is just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the heck does this even mean?

She stands up to pee…

[Anonymous]

Not remotely sexually attractive to them. If you are hot or one of them could be into you you might think you are “one of the guys” but you are not, someone is inviting you because they want to sleep with you.

OR

someone’s girlfriend that always wants to come to everything with him.

the only true “one of the guys” women I know are butch lesbians that the men around them truly have no sexual interest in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of guy friends (but also girl friends) so I've probably had this said about me. I get along with guys, can talk about sports or their relationships, and I'm basically unthreatening. I'm reasonably attractive but not overtly sexy. When I meet their girlfriends or wives, I'm welcoming. If I were an incel, I'd say I get friend-zoned, but in my case, friend zone is just fine.

Yes, I like having male and female friends. There was a period of time in my late 20s when I especially liked make friendship because it asked so little of me. I could meet a friend at a bar, we could watch a game and have a couple drinks, and talk about nothing for a couple hours, and then go home. That was a time when I felt like a lot of my girlfriends just wanted to talk so much about relationships, dating, friend drama, etc. I had a stressful job and my own love life was going very poorly with a string of unserious relationships that went nowhere, some with guys who weren't that nice to me. It was a relief to have friends who didn't want to rehash every detail, didn't need me to validate them, never compared themselves to me (in flattering or unflattering ways), and were ok doing low-key things that didn't involve getting dressed up and trying to meet people.

I held onto the guy friends from that era and they remain some of my closest friends. I also have close female friends who I appreciate for other reasons. But back then, being one of the guys meant they'd call me to go watch baseball on a Tuesday over beer and all I had to show up and be myself.

I think women could learn something from male friendship. I wish I could have such low effort friendships with women. I think it would be good for us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of guy friends (but also girl friends) so I've probably had this said about me. I get along with guys, can talk about sports or their relationships, and I'm basically unthreatening. I'm reasonably attractive but not overtly sexy. When I meet their girlfriends or wives, I'm welcoming. If I were an incel, I'd say I get friend-zoned, but in my case, friend zone is just fine.

Yes, I like having male and female friends. There was a period of time in my late 20s when I especially liked make friendship because it asked so little of me. I could meet a friend at a bar, we could watch a game and have a couple drinks, and talk about nothing for a couple hours, and then go home. That was a time when I felt like a lot of my girlfriends just wanted to talk so much about relationships, dating, friend drama, etc. I had a stressful job and my own love life was going very poorly with a string of unserious relationships that went nowhere, some with guys who weren't that nice to me. It was a relief to have friends who didn't want to rehash every detail, didn't need me to validate them, never compared themselves to me (in flattering or unflattering ways), and were ok doing low-key things that didn't involve getting dressed up and trying to meet people.

I held onto the guy friends from that era and they remain some of my closest friends. I also have close female friends who I appreciate for other reasons. But back then, being one of the guys meant they'd call me to go watch baseball on a Tuesday over beer and all I had to show up and be myself.

I think women could learn something from male friendship. I wish I could have such low effort friendships with women. I think it would be good for us!

You either didn't know how to pick your female friends or hold women to higher standards, which leads you to find women to be worst friends, even if they're not. I'm "one of the guys" and also have many female friends. Never had issues with them that I wouldn't have with my male friends, which weren't common either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of guy friends (but also girl friends) so I've probably had this said about me. I get along with guys, can talk about sports or their relationships, and I'm basically unthreatening. I'm reasonably attractive but not overtly sexy. When I meet their girlfriends or wives, I'm welcoming. If I were an incel, I'd say I get friend-zoned, but in my case, friend zone is just fine.

Yes, I like having male and female friends. There was a period of time in my late 20s when I especially liked make friendship because it asked so little of me. I could meet a friend at a bar, we could watch a game and have a couple drinks, and talk about nothing for a couple hours, and then go home. That was a time when I felt like a lot of my girlfriends just wanted to talk so much about relationships, dating, friend drama, etc. I had a stressful job and my own love life was going very poorly with a string of unserious relationships that went nowhere, some with guys who weren't that nice to me. It was a relief to have friends who didn't want to rehash every detail, didn't need me to validate them, never compared themselves to me (in flattering or unflattering ways), and were ok doing low-key things that didn't involve getting dressed up and trying to meet people.

I held onto the guy friends from that era and they remain some of my closest friends. I also have close female friends who I appreciate for other reasons. But back then, being one of the guys meant they'd call me to go watch baseball on a Tuesday over beer and all I had to show up and be myself.

I think women could learn something from male friendship. I wish I could have such low effort friendships with women. I think it would be good for us!

You either didn't know how to pick your female friends or hold women to higher standards, which leads you to find women to be worst friends, even if they're not. I'm "one of the guys" and also have many female friends. Never had issues with them that I wouldn't have with my male friends, which weren't common either.

Or you just don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of guy friends (but also girl friends) so I've probably had this said about me. I get along with guys, can talk about sports or their relationships, and I'm basically unthreatening. I'm reasonably attractive but not overtly sexy. When I meet their girlfriends or wives, I'm welcoming. If I were an incel, I'd say I get friend-zoned, but in my case, friend zone is just fine.

Yes, I like having male and female friends. There was a period of time in my late 20s when I especially liked make friendship because it asked so little of me. I could meet a friend at a bar, we could watch a game and have a couple drinks, and talk about nothing for a couple hours, and then go home. That was a time when I felt like a lot of my girlfriends just wanted to talk so much about relationships, dating, friend drama, etc. I had a stressful job and my own love life was going very poorly with a string of unserious relationships that went nowhere, some with guys who weren't that nice to me. It was a relief to have friends who didn't want to rehash every detail, didn't need me to validate them, never compared themselves to me (in flattering or unflattering ways), and were ok doing low-key things that didn't involve getting dressed up and trying to meet people.

I held onto the guy friends from that era and they remain some of my closest friends. I also have close female friends who I appreciate for other reasons. But back then, being one of the guys meant they'd call me to go watch baseball on a Tuesday over beer and all I had to show up and be myself.

I think women could learn something from male friendship. I wish I could have such low effort friendships with women. I think it would be good for us!

You either didn't know how to pick your female friends or hold women to higher standards, which leads you to find women to be worst friends, even if they're not. I'm "one of the guys" and also have many female friends. Never had issues with them that I wouldn't have with my male friends, which weren't common either.

Nope, I was just mentally in a different space than my female friends during that time in my life and my male friendships offered me more of what I needed. As I said, I still have plenty of female friends and at other times in my life, they've been more primary. But sometimes I want to sit at a bar watching a meaningless baseball game and discussing the shift, and it's really hard to find women willing to do that. It is a version of friendship I really like and it's much more common among men. That doesn't mean I don't like women or hold them to a different standard, it means that I can't get all my friendship needs met with women.

Sometimes I need to talk something to death, too, and my guy friends aren't great for that. It just depends.

[Anonymous]

I work in a male dominated industry and I might seem like a “one of the guys” woman but I never catch the guys checking each other out the way they do me.

We are all friends and they are great guys but I think most guys would be lying if they said they hadn’t thought about an attractive woman sexually, friend or not. If the guys don’t want to f each other but would f you, you aren’t really one of them. Which is fine.