“She’s like one of the guys”

[Anonymous]

It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The woman fits in to a group of low stakes, low emotional/drama relationships typically enjoyed by stereotypical heterosexual men.

That's how I read it too. Haven't heard this phrase in 30+ years. The woman could be a girlfriend too. It didn't mean she wasn't attractive or wanted as a partner.

[Anonymous]

^^PP, also, there was usually one guy in the group who preferred this type of girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not pretty ?

She might be pretty but they don't think of her as hot. She can be pretty like your sister is pretty. Women like this tend to be extremely laid back in how they dress and not very fussy. Like Billie Eilish is pretty but she does not dress in a way that most men find hot. She is not overt about her sexuality and that makes it very easy to be around her without thinking about it.

It would be hard for even a mildly attractive woman who really dressed to catch male attention to be "one of the guys" because even if she was very chill and liked sports and low drama, simply the way she dressed would get those guys thinking about it. So she's probably a bit of a tomboy or just a modest dresser (but not modest in an Amish way like she's hiding something you might want to see, just modest in a doesn't really show much skin or show off her shape a lot way).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women.

It's not when it's just an honest assessment of someone's character. Some social settings are gendered, and a woman like this will fit into a masculine-gendered social setting without it being disruptive. The same way some men can hang out with a bunch of women and it just feels normal and natural and no one acts any different (but some men absolutely cannot).

It is not an insult to anyone and it's okay to not be one of the guys. And most men do not end up dating or marrying a woman because she is a "guy's girl." A lot of men don't even find it attractive. It's just a personality type and reflects shared interests and attitudes, but not necessarily attraction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What the heck does this even mean?

Means she’s easy to talk with in the group and no one’s sexually or romantically interested in her.

Like Sally rider the astronaut was treated “like one of the guys.”

hahhaha yes, and she was gay.

And her name was Sally Ride, not Sally Rider, imagine not knowing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women.

No, it doesn’t insult anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women. [/quote

It is a compliment. If you were offended it’s because of jealousy and likely the reason you’ll never be one of the guys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was one of these about 25 years ago.

Thinly-veiled code for ‘girl we’d like to run a train on’.

“One of the guys” girls usually don’t let anyone they hang out with touch them and the guys she does hang out with protect her like their sister.

If they were running trains on you then you weren’t one of the guys. You were the chick they talk about with the guys.

They definitely weren’t running trains on me - I shut down the talk. But I’m surprised that people are surprised by this. Maybe it’s regional? Several of my friends met their husbands in ‘one of the guys’ situations and there were always times when one girl was desired by multiple guys in the group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the heck does this even mean?

Means she’s easy to talk with in the group and no one’s sexually or romantically interested in her.

Like Sally rider the astronaut was treated “like one of the guys.”

hahhaha yes, and she was gay.

And her name was Sally Ride, not Sally Rider, imagine not knowing this.

imagine not knowing how easily iphones autocorrect things

[Anonymous]

Sally ride the train

All makes sense DCUM

[Anonymous]

Definitely not an insult. It’s the girl all your husbands wish they were with instead of you frumpy old fat dcumdumpsters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was one of these about 25 years ago.

Thinly-veiled code for ‘girl we’d like to run a train on’.

? what does that mean?

I think I was "one of the guys" female friends back then. I was somewhat tomboyish and had a lot of guy friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s supposed to be a “compliment” but it’s actually a way to insult other women.

No, it doesn’t insult anyone.

It was always a compliment when I heard it said about someone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She’s the kind of woman that men marry, not date for fun.

That's something the guys' girl tells herself. But the guys really don't care about her football knowledge. They have plenty of real guy friends to talk about that with. The guys' girl brings nothing of interest to the table. She's just, there.

Yes. Men want a lady in the streets, freak in the sheets. A woman who likes to get off as much as any man is a huge turn on. "She's like a guy" can be said with awe in that context.

"She's like one of the guys" is the platonic guys' girl.