For those of you whose parents divorced when you were 20+, if one of your parents started a second

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

You assume the kids want a relationship and want to go. By that age, usually, the mom's have destroyed the relationship. You are also talking about very wealthy families. Most don't regularly take trips like that. We don't. If we rarely vacation, I'm not paying for adults to go on vacation while I stay home.

Mom can’t destroy a relationship with a good involved dad who takes his 50/50 custody. But dads who abandoned their kids do cry “alienation” and they are often good at finding foolish clowns who buy it.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

You assume the kids want a relationship and want to go. By that age, usually, the mom's have destroyed the relationship. You are also talking about very wealthy families. Most don't regularly take trips like that. We don't. If we rarely vacation, I'm not paying for adults to go on vacation while I stay home.

Yes normal people want a relationship with their parents. I am sad that you don’t understand that. The trip doesn’t have to be to Europe it could be a weekend to Myrtle Beach to go golfing.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

Do you actually think that the dads are paying for these trips? Omg

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

What you want is his second family to dissappear. Not going to happen. You are so jealous of new siblings.
Dad should bring his other kids on these vacations

No. It’s not every week or every month.

I want fathers and mother to be free to have a relationship with their adult children, untethered by some jealous money, grabbing Ball and Chain.

Why would dad bring little children on this vacation? He doesn’t bring his adult children on vacations with his smaller children to Disney . Also, dad sometimes goes on vacation with one of his other kids and not the other. It’s called bonding.

Do you not know how normal human relations work? Doesn’t the father go on vacation with his new wife and not take any of the children? Because he should.

Why can't adult children go on the same vacations as a family? Why can't Dad take the younger ones to Disney like he did the older ones? Dad should be bonded already to all his kids so that's not an issue.

Many fathers don't get relationships with their kids due the mother's blocking or refusing it. Maybe the issue isn't the wife, but the mother.

Always the mother. Jealous first wife

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

I’m not crying over anything. I’m cackling at idiotic later wives who don’t think what happened to first wives can happen to them.

And I’m rich through the magic of marrying well, to a man my own age, in my 20s, and building wealth together. No alimony, no child support, the only second households are at the beach.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

Do you actually think that the dads are paying for these trips? Omg

You have literally been crying over inheritance and not getting trips and daddy paying for grand kids. Mini wife syndrome
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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

I’m not crying over anything. I’m cackling at idiotic later wives who don’t think what happened to first wives can happen to them.

And I’m rich through the magic of marrying well, to a man my own age, in my 20s, and building wealth together. No alimony, no child support, the only second households are at the beach.

Marrying well...ok gold digger. Wait till he ditches you for number 2

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

You assume the kids want a relationship and want to go. By that age, usually, the mom's have destroyed the relationship. You are also talking about very wealthy families. Most don't regularly take trips like that. We don't. If we rarely vacation, I'm not paying for adults to go on vacation while I stay home.

Mom can’t destroy a relationship with a good involved dad who takes his 50/50 custody. But dads who abandoned their kids do cry “alienation” and they are often good at finding foolish clowns who buy it.

Moms cab absolutely destroy a relationship especially when they use kids for leverage

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

I’m not crying over anything. I’m cackling at idiotic later wives who don’t think what happened to first wives can happen to them.

And I’m rich through the magic of marrying well, to a man my own age, in my 20s, and building wealth together. No alimony, no child support, the only second households are at the beach.

hardship is indiscriminate. It can happen to you, too. That man your own age might have a wondering eye when you’re 45. Likely, that is what frightens you so much.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

What you want is his second family to dissappear. Not going to happen. You are so jealous of new siblings.
Dad should bring his other kids on these vacations

No. It’s not every week or every month.

I want fathers and mother to be free to have a relationship with their adult children, untethered by some jealous money, grabbing Ball and Chain.

Why would dad bring little children on this vacation? He doesn’t bring his adult children on vacations with his smaller children to Disney . Also, dad sometimes goes on vacation with one of his other kids and not the other. It’s called bonding.

Do you not know how normal human relations work? Doesn’t the father go on vacation with his new wife and not take any of the children? Because he should.

Why can't adult children go on the same vacations as a family? Why can't Dad take the younger ones to Disney like he did the older ones? Dad should be bonded already to all his kids so that's not an issue.

Many fathers don't get relationships with their kids due the mother's blocking or refusing it. Maybe the issue isn't the wife, but the mother.

Why must they all go in the same vacation.

Young kids like Disney, dad should take them there. But the adult kids don’t need to be included why would they be? Dad should be free to go on vacation with his younger kids whenever he wants without inviting his adult kids and he should be able to go on vacation with his adult kids without the younger kids. They have different interests.

Are you really going to take the younger kids on the other kids bachelor party to Vegas? That doesn’t make sense.

Normal humans don’t bond and then stop doing bonding things together. Just like a married couple who are bonded and love each other should continue to date each other throughout the marriage to reaffirm their bond.

Is this all foreign to you because if it is, I feel like you came from a really really screwed up family?

Why would your dad go to.your bachelor party you creep

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve driven my dad & his second wife to the brink of divorce. Almost there.

Your divorce will be coming soon too. Your husband will come to his senses.

You don’t get to steal someone’s dad without consequences.

Steal someone's dad lol...maybe your mom should have been a better wife and they wouldn't have divorced. My dh divorced and his ex divorced when kids were toddlers. I met him 13 years later

Or, maybe mom should have made better choices and not have an affair and leave to be with her AP destroying two marriages and two sets of kids.

Oh look it’s the check if it’s OK to punish adopt children for their mothers indiscretions

It would have been nice if the AP adopted the kids but he wouldn't. She didn't want to give up that check.

Exactly they never want to give up the check. My husband's ex trapped him at 26 and once she secured that check trapped another man had another kid and secured a check. That relationship didn't last either.
Rather than collect checks I suggest you first wives get careers.

Your husband is dumb for falling such a floosey. I wouldn’t brag about you trapping him since he’s ao easily got.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

I’m not crying over anything. I’m cackling at idiotic later wives who don’t think what happened to first wives can happen to them.

And I’m rich through the magic of marrying well, to a man my own age, in my 20s, and building wealth together. No alimony, no child support, the only second households are at the beach.

hardship is indiscriminate. It can happen to you, too. That man your own age might have a wondering eye when you’re 45. Likely, that is what frightens you so much.

Absolutely agree

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve driven my dad & his second wife to the brink of divorce. Almost there.

Your divorce will be coming soon too. Your husband will come to his senses.

You don’t get to steal someone’s dad without consequences.

Steal someone's dad lol...maybe your mom should have been a better wife and they wouldn't have divorced. My dh divorced and his ex divorced when kids were toddlers. I met him 13 years later

Or, maybe mom should have made better choices and not have an affair and leave to be with her AP destroying two marriages and two sets of kids.

Oh look it’s the check if it’s OK to punish adopt children for their mothers indiscretions

It would have been nice if the AP adopted the kids but he wouldn't. She didn't want to give up that check.

Exactly they never want to give up the check. My husband's ex trapped him at 26 and once she secured that check trapped another man had another kid and secured a check. That relationship didn't last either.
Rather than collect checks I suggest you first wives get careers.

Your husband is dumb for falling such a floosey. I wouldn’t brag about you trapping him since he’s ao easily got.

I didn't say he trapped me I said his ex trapped two men...

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family

Yes be family - your dad should be bringing along his wife and kids too. After all you are family no?

Don’t worry my dad divorced #2, and #3 too. They don’t want to come.

You have ivanka syndrome lol

What does that mean? That I’m tall rich and blonde? Because that’s all true.

Firstly I doubt you are that rich because you wouldn't be crying over daddy's inheritance and begging for trips to Europe. Nor would you be insecure over your new siblings.
Ivanka syndrome is mini wife syndrome

Do you actually think that the dads are paying for these trips? Omg

You have literally been crying over inheritance and not getting trips and daddy paying for grand kids. Mini wife syndrome
And agree with pp

No we are not talking about that. We are simply talking about our yearly family vacation that dad normally goes to but all of a sudden he can’t because his new wife won’t let him go like he’s not an adult anymore who can make his own decisions.

I also think it’s weird he can’t go visit his new grandchild for the weekend because his new wife won’t let him and yes he tells us that it’s causing a big fight.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in my late twenties when my dad had a baby, and I don’t get all the hate, honestly. It’s not like I was trying to spend a ton of time with him by that point anyway; we lived in different states and even if we’d been physically closer I was more inclined to be going out and having fun, visiting occasionally or for holidays. I definitely was not spending a weekend a month with my dad in my twenties! I also wasn’t counting on some grand inheritance. You guys sound like you are looking at it from the point of view of a cheated on first spouse, but I didn’t feel that way. I thought it was kind of a dumb move at that age, but whatever, wasn’t my life.

Perhaps your perspective is a little bit skewed, since you don’t really have a close relationship with your father. Have you ever thought that other people have really close relationships with their father and they don’t just see them occasionally for holidays?

All the more reason you should want them to be happy. If you’re living your own life, building your own career, pursuing your own adult relationships, you should be mature enough to allow your single father the same grace without causing guilt. For what? You’re a grown person!

All the more reason a 2nd wife should want them to be happy. These children have built a life and a career and have strong adult relationships which includes their dad.

A 2nd wife should be mature enough to allow their fully grown adult husband the same grace without causing guilt for … flying to Paris to enjoy a cafe, or Spain to taste wine, or Arizona for a long weekend golfing? You’re a grown person, you should understand These are normal positive ways adults interact with their father (even if you are at home watching tv with toddlers) … you’ll have your day in Europe with daddy when your kid is 20+.

This is absurd. It sounds very incestuous. If my husband went wine tasting or to Paris with an adult child and left me home with a toddler I’d be meeting with a divorce lawyer and ready to serve him when he returned. He could forever continue his incestuous relationship with his adult kid for all I care. He would owe me so much in child support and a property settlement that his trips to Arizona and Europe would be over forever, and he’d never be able to retire.

People with terrible parents nothing terrible parents. The fact that you think that adults going to Europe together is incestuous is quite frankly insane. No joke girlfriend. You really need some therapy.

Taking your adult kids wine tasting in Europe is text book incest. This is where daddy issues come from. It’s not my problem because DH takes me to Paris, not his adult kids. If that changes we’ll both know that it’s time to move on. My affairs are in order.

I traveled with my parents including tastings and I promise it did not end in an orgy, what is wrong with you? Do you just have no idea what a happy functional family looks like?

You traveled with your “parents”, not your dad. Who left your mom home with younger siblings.

My parents are divorced you dimwit! I travel with them both. And no one is doing anything incestuous. It’s called being family.

Time to grow up and have a life and family of your own.

My dad is my family and we are happily visiting Greece this summer with my 2 brothers.

It’s sad people abandon by their parents don’t know it’s normal to vacation with their dads as adults.

What you want is his second family to dissappear. Not going to happen. You are so jealous of new siblings.
Dad should bring his other kids on these vacations

No. It’s not every week or every month.

I want fathers and mother to be free to have a relationship with their adult children, untethered by some jealous money, grabbing Ball and Chain.

Why would dad bring little children on this vacation? He doesn’t bring his adult children on vacations with his smaller children to Disney . Also, dad sometimes goes on vacation with one of his other kids and not the other. It’s called bonding.

Do you not know how normal human relations work? Doesn’t the father go on vacation with his new wife and not take any of the children? Because he should.

Why can't adult children go on the same vacations as a family? Why can't Dad take the younger ones to Disney like he did the older ones? Dad should be bonded already to all his kids so that's not an issue.

Many fathers don't get relationships with their kids due the mother's blocking or refusing it. Maybe the issue isn't the wife, but the mother.

Why must they all go in the same vacation.

Young kids like Disney, dad should take them there. But the adult kids don’t need to be included why would they be? Dad should be free to go on vacation with his younger kids whenever he wants without inviting his adult kids and he should be able to go on vacation with his adult kids without the younger kids. They have different interests.

Are you really going to take the younger kids on the other kids bachelor party to Vegas? That doesn’t make sense.

Normal humans don’t bond and then stop doing bonding things together. Just like a married couple who are bonded and love each other should continue to date each other throughout the marriage to reaffirm their bond.

Is this all foreign to you because if it is, I feel like you came from a really really screwed up family?

Why would your dad go to.your bachelor party you creep

Once again, somebody who doesn’t know it’s normal for fathers go on trips with their sons.