Husband wants to visit a female friend in another state w/o me
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Anonymous
| Husband wants to visit a female friend, with whom he grew up with as friends, in another state. Im not ok with this. I told him this. I met the female twice and both times, she was very cold to me and although not rude to me (she didnt say a word to me to even be rude), she was rude to others. I dont want to go with him to visit her and her husband and child. He still wants to go. Im upset. I expressed this. He doesnt understand why im upset as they grew up together. Big deal... Its still a female friend you are visiting in another state. Am i overreacting? |
Anonymous
| OK... Exactly why are you upset again? |
Anonymous
| Why don't you go with him? |
Anonymous
| I don't know. If they were really good friends growing up and she is married and has a child I don't think I'd have a problem with it. Do you trust your DH? |
Anonymous
OP here. Because i do not like the female friend and see no reason in why we need to visit her. |
Anonymous
It doesn't matter if you like her. She is hid friend. If you don't want yo go, then he goes alone. Are you always this selfish and self-absorbed. Everything cannot always be about what you want. |
Anonymous
OP here. I only met her twice so cant be really good friends... She just recently moved. Nothing sexual would happen im quite sure. But my husband and our family were just down there on vacation. Would have been a two hour drive for him to see them. I told him to go. He said no, too far. Yet now is planning to go back down there specifically to visit her. |
Anonymous
So did try to make this a couple trip, you declined and he decided to go any way? |
Anonymous
| Go with him and be gracious. Or stay home and be quiet. |
Anonymous
OP here. He had an opportunity to visit. He decided not to go. I even said they can each drive one hour each way and we can meet at a restaurant. He said no but is now planning to go back down there again to visit. It would still be a two hour drive so wtf, yes im pissed |
Anonymous
OP here. No he didnt decide to go anyway. He is planning a trip on his own to go. He could have went when we were just down there |
Anonymous
| So they are having an affair. There I said it for you. Figure it out |
Anonymous
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You're being ridiculous. He likely regrets not meeting up with her when he was close by. Hence the trip now.
Poor guy, this is a lose lose situation for him. Although given your posts, he's likely used to it. |
Anonymous
OP here. How does he regret it? He had the opportunity was lazy then not wanting to drive. So a month later he goes back for her? |
Anonymous
OP here. Not at all. |