My husband just admitted...
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Anonymous
| that he got a happy ending after a massage on a business trip. He called me drunk, after the fact, that apparently happened this afternoon. He said it just "happened" at the end of the massage, and he didn't ask for it. I asked if anything else happened and he said he'd never do that. I'm grossed out, disappointed, and suspicious/fearful. But also glad that he told me. I ended the call saying I need to process it. He'll be back next week. We have a five year old. Thanks for any advice/insight. Never faced a situation like this before in our 7 year marriage. |
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How does he think you should react?
I'd be disappointed in him, and I'd say that's the end of massages (or at least massages from ladies, assuming you're a woman). Is he generally a horny guy? Do you believe that this was an anomoly? |
Anonymous
| What the hell does it matter whether he asked for it? If he didn't jump off the damn table when her hand hit his penis, he'd be out of my bed for sure. But then, loyalty is the thing I care about the most. |
Anonymous
| He's lying. He asked for it and paid extra for that old fashioned. He could do it himself for free. |
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He told you. I don't know what your "red line" is, but this is forgivable in my book. Sneaking around and lying would piss me off far more - esp for a one-time hand job.
How are you feeling, OP? |
Anonymous
| Where exactly did this happen? |
Anonymous
On his penis. |
Anonymous
Touche! |
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OP here--I'm feeling confused, to be honest. He said that this happened in his hotel room, the hotel has a massage service apparently. The BS is that he rarely gets massages in the US, so I'm pretty sure he wanted this to happen (he is overseas right now)
He told me, so that shows that he is honest and cares enough not to sneak around. But I'm also worried that he's testing the waters... what can he get away with? Or is he already cheating and admitting to a small discretion is alleviating his guilt? Or maybe I'm over-reacting. Again, I am feeling confused. And skeeved out that some other woman was fondling my man. |
Anonymous
NP here, married 19 years -- he told you, he didn't pay for it specifically, and he doesn't know her. Let it go and be glad he told you. |
Anonymous
| There's more to confess. This is one of those initial confessions like admitting you tasted some cookie batter when, in reality, you ate a cookie. He led off with this to see your reaction. Good luck with this loser. |
Anonymous
Posted before I saw the next part about it being in his hotel room and him enjoying overseas massages. Tell him to never do it again, and insist that he get tested for STDs. |
Anonymous
| He told you KNOWING it would hurt you. He's a fucking cheat. |
Anonymous
I think that not only did he want that to happen, but that he knew ahead of time that it would be part of the massage. And it is skeevy, and gross. I'd be wondering if there were more "services" being offered, honestly, since this happened in a private hotel room. Sorry you're dealing with this, OP. |
Anonymous
| I'd be worried about HPV. Could be transmitted from hand to penis. |