My husband just admitted...

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Anonymous wrote:I would be willing to forgive him for a post-nup and an std test (assuming it comes back clear).

+1. I found put my husband cheated overseas. Initially he tried to minimize it and begged me not to kick him out. I agreed on the condition that he and we get therapy. But, in retrospect, I really wish I had insisted on a post-nuptial agreement in order to stay. I and my children would have been far better protected and that would have taken a great deal of stress out of the situation.

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Two things:

I can't believe how inconsiderate this guy was to confess. He got a hand job, the chances of getting an STD that way are zero. He needed to live with his guilt and move on, and not torture his wife with this.

I can't believe how many people see this as THAT big of a deal. Its a handjob. During a massage, they rub you everywhere, so she gave him extra. Not saying I would be happy with DH getting a handjob, but I would put it in perspective of the whole marriage. If he was a habitual cheater, that's one thing. If he was curious as to what a happy ending was and gave it once, he is human.

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Happy endings for women are increasingly popular.

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Anonymous wrote: In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if more DID happen, and he is just testing your reaction by confessing to the hand job.

That was my first thought, too.

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Question - OP you said he called you drunk? Was he drunk prior to the massage, which while probably not great to have alcohol in your system for a real massage, probably explains if he was *truly* uncomfortable why he let it happen. If not, do you think he got drunk afterwards to deal with his guilt. I'd be most upset if this happened, and then he got loaded in a Eff it! kind of way, but less so if he drank to deal with the guilt or was already intoxicated.

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Anonymous wrote:There's more to confess. This is one of those initial confessions like admitting you tasted some cookie batter when, in reality, you ate a cookie. He led off with this to see your reaction. Good luck with this loser.

Bingo! I would bet a million dollars there is more to confess.

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What country is he in?

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Naïve question -- but a "happy ending" is what? They rub your penis? Balls? Both? Is the point to get him to ejaculate??

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While I give your husband a bit of credit for admitting this transgression to you on his own, I still would be livid about it.

He cheated on you, don't forget that. Happy Endings should happen in marriages and fairy tales, certainly not at massage parlors.

I personally couldn't stay with a man who cheated on me, it is a mute cause as to who initiated the act. He was a willing partner, drunk or not.

Your marriage is toast.

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I just would not be mad about this. At all.

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Anonymous wrote:Two things:

I can't believe how inconsiderate this guy was to confess. He got a hand job, the chances of getting an STD that way are zero. He needed to live with his guilt and move on, and not torture his wife with this.

I can't believe how many people see this as THAT big of a deal. Its a handjob. During a massage, they rub you everywhere, so she gave him extra. Not saying I would be happy with DH getting a handjob, but I would put it in perspective of the whole marriage. If he was a habitual cheater, that's one thing. If he was curious as to what a happy ending was and gave it once, he is human.

Yep. +1

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Lady here. What if I let a masseuse finger me? Is that the same as this guy? If it's not a big deal for a happy ending handjob, then what about for a woman?

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Anonymous wrote:I just would not be mad about this. At all.

Pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:Lady here. What if I let a masseuse finger me? Is that the same as this guy? If it's not a big deal for a happy ending handjob, then what about for a woman?

I thought about that. I don't think it would bother me if my wife had this. Maybe if it became a weekly deal, but once in a while? Prob be ok. Of course, I say this now. In reality I'd probably flip shit, so who knows?

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I'd forgive him eventually but make him sweat a bit