It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”

[Anonymous]

If OP is a DINK, why are you hanging out on DCUM? Isn't the point of not having kids not having to think about the topics we post on here.

Also, many of us have dates where we wish our load was lighter and we could do more adult travel. Even if we say out loud that we envy you, likely none of us would actually give up the life that we've made with our kids.

[Anonymous]

I hope these parents do not utter such things in front of their own children, because that stuff can be hella damaging to the psyche.

[Anonymous]

We need to destroy the American nuclear family; BLM was right about that.

[Anonymous]

Have not read the whole thread. Basically, millennials, like their Boomer parents, are the most self-absorbed generation(s) of all time. So, they just blab at each other about how hard everything is and prioritize themselves in all situations.

My GenX friends and I love having our kids around, even when it is tough, and enjoy one another's families. Life is not just about expensive vacations (I have done plenty of those). Buying yourself stuff maxes out as far as enjoyment at a certain point. I am headed out to see a new baby nephew soon and cannot wait. I love being from a big family and being part of the next generation as a mom, aunt, and potentially grandmother one day.

I used to travel the world for work business/first class and stay in 5 star hotels. I can't imagine just making a whole life out of fancy breakfast buffets and aperols. But, great--enjoy and if you need validation, just ask another millennial for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread. Basically, millennials, like their Boomer parents, are the most self-absorbed generation(s) of all time. So, they just blab at each other about how hard everything is and prioritize themselves in all situations.

My GenX friends and I love having our kids around, even when it is tough, and enjoy one another's families. Life is not just about expensive vacations (I have done plenty of those). Buying yourself stuff maxes out as far as enjoyment at a certain point. I am headed out to see a new baby nephew soon and cannot wait. I love being from a big family and being part of the next generation as a mom, aunt, and potentially grandmother one day.

I used to travel the world for work business/first class and stay in 5 star hotels. I can't imagine just making a whole life out of fancy breakfast buffets and aperols. But, great--enjoy and if you need validation, just ask another millennial for it!

Sorry, Boomers were not at all self absorbed, and, in fact, paved the road for all subsequent generations of working Moms by 1. Entering the workforce in previously male dominated fields 2. Helped to form policy with regard to work, pay, and childcare 3. Moved men into the family roles of parenting 3. And literally did it all- work, home, kids, friends, community. 4. Started the foundation for racial and cultural integration, a 5. ME TOO warriors before there was Me Too. 6.Boomers brought technology to the workplace and personal life. 7. Boomer women ran for public office 8. Boomer women protested the Viet Nam war and rallied for gay rights. Boomer women started to become financially independent 9. We divorced! Their parents largely could not.


No one in the Boomer years was self absorbed. We saved, and lived through 4 recessions as adults. We entered the housing market when rates were at 18% Gen X took the reign from them and continued the work, which was great!


Sadly, Millennials, though, seem paralyzed in all aspects and that is going to hurt deeply when this generation reaches old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Refreshing to see positivity around kids here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread. Basically, millennials, like their Boomer parents, are the most self-absorbed generation(s) of all time. So, they just blab at each other about how hard everything is and prioritize themselves in all situations.

My GenX friends and I love having our kids around, even when it is tough, and enjoy one another's families. Life is not just about expensive vacations (I have done plenty of those). Buying yourself stuff maxes out as far as enjoyment at a certain point. I am headed out to see a new baby nephew soon and cannot wait. I love being from a big family and being part of the next generation as a mom, aunt, and potentially grandmother one day.

I used to travel the world for work business/first class and stay in 5 star hotels. I can't imagine just making a whole life out of fancy breakfast buffets and aperols. But, great--enjoy and if you need validation, just ask another millennial for it!

Sorry, Boomers were not at all self absorbed, and, in fact, paved the road for all subsequent generations of working Moms by 1. Entering the workforce in previously male dominated fields 2. Helped to form policy with regard to work, pay, and childcare 3. Moved men into the family roles of parenting 3. And literally did it all- work, home, kids, friends, community. 4. Started the foundation for racial and cultural integration, a 5. ME TOO warriors before there was Me Too. 6.Boomers brought technology to the workplace and personal life. 7. Boomer women ran for public office 8. Boomer women protested the Viet Nam war and rallied for gay rights. Boomer women started to become financially independent 9. We divorced! Their parents largely could not.


No one in the Boomer years was self absorbed. We saved, and lived through 4 recessions as adults. We entered the housing market when rates were at 18% Gen X took the reign from them and continued the work, which was great!


Sadly, Millennials, though, seem paralyzed in all aspects and that is going to hurt deeply when this generation reaches old age.

I really agree with what you wrote. Makes me annoyed to read Gen Z and Millenials write (on and on) about their travails in the workplace and how much harder they have to work than men. In 2024. When so many women spent so many years shaping it so that it is so much better than even 10 yrs ago, let alone 30, 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Refreshing to see positivity around kids here

It’s just the usual DCUM crowd circling the wagons. You’ll find them on other threads complaining bitterly about their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope these parents do not utter such things in front of their own children, because that stuff can be hella damaging to the psyche.

Exactly! OP, I loved being DINK with my husband. I have one kid not planned. Catholics so we had her. Great kid and greatest joy of our lives! Most people adjust accordingly. They probably miss great travel. Kids grow up fast...so people might be temporarily miserable. If you had a superstar kid like mine, you'd be sad to miss out. If you have a bad one...you'd be sorry you had one. It helps to have a girl!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:G.d. This is a mean bunch of women.

I was just thinking the same thing.

[Anonymous]

OP, they are just making you feel better and making conversation. I have said the same thing to people without pets, people without mortgages, people without yards and land to maintain, people without kids. Light conversation and by no means would I not want to have my own dogs, my own property, my own yard and my own kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont think your experience is the norm, of people regretting. I can't think of anyone who does. But, i can say as a parent that most of us struggle through with zero village and little family help which is much different then past generations. We also have to both work to even make ends meet, creating full time stress of trying to balance it all. Parenting now is just different then it used to be. It's very go-it-alone and incredibly hard.

You have made choices that make this difficult. Move to be near family. Buy a house that you can afford on one income. Lots of people still raise families, sometimes large families, on one income. But they live in Damascus, clean their own house, cook and go camping for vacation. They also attend church and join other community groups and there is a definite "village" to help them with their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Refreshing to see positivity around kids here

It’s just the usual DCUM crowd circling the wagons. You’ll find them on other threads complaining bitterly about their kids.

People complain about their jobs, parents, siblings, spouses too… do you assume they all think they’re better off without them?

[Anonymous]

They are just making conversation. I mean, yeah, it would be nice to go on a European vacation without the kids but I wouldn't give up my kids to have that. And you should relish that part of not having kids. Both are ok. The grass is always going to be greener. I am jealous of teachers who have the summer off but for the rest of the year, I know how hard that job is and would never give up my job to teach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread. Basically, millennials, like their Boomer parents, are the most self-absorbed generation(s) of all time. So, they just blab at each other about how hard everything is and prioritize themselves in all situations.

My GenX friends and I love having our kids around, even when it is tough, and enjoy one another's families. Life is not just about expensive vacations (I have done plenty of those). Buying yourself stuff maxes out as far as enjoyment at a certain point. I am headed out to see a new baby nephew soon and cannot wait. I love being from a big family and being part of the next generation as a mom, aunt, and potentially grandmother one day.

I used to travel the world for work business/first class and stay in 5 star hotels. I can't imagine just making a whole life out of fancy breakfast buffets and aperols. But, great--enjoy and if you need validation, just ask another millennial for it!

I love how Gen Xers love to say how millennials and boomers are so self absorbed and nowhere near as amazing as Gen Xers. Which is basically the definition of being self absorbed 😂