It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”

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Anonymous wrote:When people say this, they’re usually just messing with you or preemptively trying to make you feel better about your childlessness. No one actually thinks you did it right. The friend you mentioned with the disabled son just sounds like a loser though.

Have to agree. I say this too, but don’t really mean it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're reading too much into it.

I've even said something similar to Dink coworkers. Like, if they are jetting off to some tropical locale for a spur of the moment trip, I might say "Gosh, that sounds great. You guys really did it right. I'll be stuck at softball fields in the humidity for the long weekend. Bora-Bora sounds so much better."

But in reality, I wouldn't miss DD's softball game and if I had the chance to do it again, I would still have kids

Sure, but would you actually say "you did it right"? I find it hard to believe anyone would ever say that unless they were very bitter/depressed. Of course Bora-Bora sounds better than watching youth sports in the heat, but I don't think DINKs "did it right" because I prefer having kids, so why would I say that? It's just awkward. A normal response would be "wow that sounds great, have a good time!" rather than bringing your kids into it.

[Anonymous]

we say it because we have nothing else to say to you and want you think that you are so superior over us as you probably think anyway.,

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have kids of my own yet but I highly, highly doubt people are telling OP they wish they didn't have kids. This sounds like the fantasy of a rabid childfree person.

That being said, parents who insist they feel sorry for people who are happily childfree are weird too.

I hear parents say they would love a break, complain about any number of things, sure, but no one wished they never had kids. It's hard to describe that parent child bond- It's not something that anyone can explain to others.

Right, but DINKS* would have you believe randoms are just walking up to them on the street like, "Omg, your life looks so cool! I was happy being a parent but then I saw a DINK couple day drinking. So I sold my baby. I wish I had aborted them." Like wtf?

Also DINK women are constantly talking about how dads lust after them. The majority of moms I know are very attractive, not stretch mark-riddled Cathy cartoons.

*Please stop calling yourselves DINKS. Other people can call you DINKS but you should not.

Put down the wine glass and maybe go for a nice walk outside. Touch grass, as the kids say. Speaking of kids, maybe call one of yours? You are sounding very unhappy, and although a call from you will likely bring their day down, it might make you feel better, and that's what's really important, right?

I don't have kids. I am a (gag) DINK and I just don't believe that parents are as jealous of DINKS as people like OP seem to think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have kids of my own yet but I highly, highly doubt people are telling OP they wish they didn't have kids. This sounds like the fantasy of a rabid childfree person.

That being said, parents who insist they feel sorry for people who are happily childfree are weird too.

I hear parents say they would love a break, complain about any number of things, sure, but no one wished they never had kids. It's hard to describe that parent child bond- It's not something that anyone can explain to others.

Right, but DINKS* would have you believe randoms are just walking up to them on the street like, "Omg, your life looks so cool! I was happy being a parent but then I saw a DINK couple day drinking. So I sold my baby. I wish I had aborted them." Like wtf?

Also DINK women are constantly talking about how dads lust after them. The majority of moms I know are very attractive, not stretch mark-riddled Cathy cartoons.

*Please stop calling yourselves DINKS. Other people can call you DINKS but you should not.

Put down the wine glass and maybe go for a nice walk outside. Touch grass, as the kids say. Speaking of kids, maybe call one of yours? You are sounding very unhappy, and although a call from you will likely bring their day down, it might make you feel better, and that's what's really important, right?

I don't have kids. I am a (gag) DINK and I just don't believe that parents are as jealous of DINKS as people like OP seem to think.

Virtually everyone agrees on this, except one person who thinks it's extraordinarily rude to be polite to DINKS instead of laying out all of your feelings about having children everytime you talk to one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When people say this, they’re usually just messing with you or preemptively trying to make you feel better about your childlessness. No one actually thinks you did it right. The friend you mentioned with the disabled son just sounds like a loser though.

Have to agree. I say this too, but don’t really mean it.

I think people are just making polite conversation with you, OP.

Me: do you have kids?
You: no, we spend our time eating out, traveling, and I'm learning the ukelele. We're heading to Italy next week.
Me: sounds great, you did it right!

[Anonymous]

I'll bet your parents didn't tell you this, did they?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have kids of my own yet but I highly, highly doubt people are telling OP they wish they didn't have kids. This sounds like the fantasy of a rabid childfree person.

That being said, parents who insist they feel sorry for people who are happily childfree are weird too.

I hear parents say they would love a break, complain about any number of things, sure, but no one wished they never had kids. It's hard to describe that parent child bond- It's not something that anyone can explain to others.

Right, but DINKS* would have you believe randoms are just walking up to them on the street like, "Omg, your life looks so cool! I was happy being a parent but then I saw a DINK couple day drinking. So I sold my baby. I wish I had aborted them." Like wtf?

Also DINK women are constantly talking about how dads lust after them. The majority of moms I know are very attractive, not stretch mark-riddled Cathy cartoons.

*Please stop calling yourselves DINKS. Other people can call you DINKS but you should not.

Put down the wine glass and maybe go for a nice walk outside. Touch grass, as the kids say. Speaking of kids, maybe call one of yours? You are sounding very unhappy, and although a call from you will likely bring their day down, it might make you feel better, and that's what's really important, right?

I don't have kids. I am a (gag) DINK and I just don't believe that parents are as jealous of DINKS as people like OP seem to think.

I totally believe you. You're telling the truth, nevermind that you called yourself a DINK despite previously posting that DINKs should never self-identify in that way.

Still, giving the wine bottle a break would benefit you. Go on that walk, take in some fresh air, and clear your head so you don't mix up your claims in your next post.

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Anonymous wrote:When people say this, they’re usually just messing with you or preemptively trying to make you feel better about your childlessness. No one actually thinks you did it right. The friend you mentioned with the disabled son just sounds like a loser though.

Have to agree. I say this too, but don’t really mean it.

I think people are just making polite conversation with you, OP.

Me: do you have kids?
You: no, we spend our time eating out, traveling, and I'm learning the ukelele. We're heading to Italy next week.
Me: sounds great, you did it right!

This is another crazed fantasy post. Who responds to the question of if they have kids with a rundown of their hobbies? Only the characters in your head. Even in OP's (likely troll) original post, she said that the conversation topic was summer plans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When people say this, they’re usually just messing with you or preemptively trying to make you feel better about your childlessness. No one actually thinks you did it right. The friend you mentioned with the disabled son just sounds like a loser though.

Have to agree. I say this too, but don’t really mean it.

I think people are just making polite conversation with you, OP.

Me: do you have kids?
You: no, we spend our time eating out, traveling, and I'm learning the ukelele. We're heading to Italy next week.
Me: sounds great, you did it right!

This is another crazed fantasy post. Who responds to the question of if they have kids with a rundown of their hobbies? Only the characters in your head. Even in OP's (likely troll) original post, she said that the conversation topic was summer plans.

DP. This whole thread is crazy. Both sides.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have kids of my own yet but I highly, highly doubt people are telling OP they wish they didn't have kids. This sounds like the fantasy of a rabid childfree person.

That being said, parents who insist they feel sorry for people who are happily childfree are weird too.

I hear parents say they would love a break, complain about any number of things, sure, but no one wished they never had kids. It's hard to describe that parent child bond- It's not something that anyone can explain to others.

Right, but DINKS* would have you believe randoms are just walking up to them on the street like, "Omg, your life looks so cool! I was happy being a parent but then I saw a DINK couple day drinking. So I sold my baby. I wish I had aborted them." Like wtf?

Also DINK women are constantly talking about how dads lust after them. The majority of moms I know are very attractive, not stretch mark-riddled Cathy cartoons.

*Please stop calling yourselves DINKS. Other people can call you DINKS but you should not.

Put down the wine glass and maybe go for a nice walk outside. Touch grass, as the kids say. Speaking of kids, maybe call one of yours? You are sounding very unhappy, and although a call from you will likely bring their day down, it might make you feel better, and that's what's really important, right?

I don't have kids. I am a (gag) DINK and I just don't believe that parents are as jealous of DINKS as people like OP seem to think.

I totally believe you. You're telling the truth, nevermind that you called yourself a DINK despite previously posting that DINKs should never self-identify in that way.

Still, giving the wine bottle a break would benefit you. Go on that walk, take in some fresh air, and clear your head so you don't mix up your claims in your next post.

That is why I gagged typing it.

[Anonymous]

I have two kids and we have taken a number multi-week vacations on different continents. It was fun! If I didn't have kids, I don't think I would be visiting the DCUM site though.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you're reading too much into it.

I've even said something similar to Dink coworkers. Like, if they are jetting off to some tropical locale for a spur of the moment trip, I might say "Gosh, that sounds great. You guys really did it right. I'll be stuck at softball fields in the humidity for the long weekend. Bora-Bora sounds so much better."

But in reality, I wouldn't miss DD's softball game and if I had the chance to do it again, I would still have kids

Sure, but would you actually say "you did it right"? I find it hard to believe anyone would ever say that unless they were very bitter/depressed. Of course Bora-Bora sounds better than watching youth sports in the heat, but I don't think DINKs "did it right" because I prefer having kids, so why would I say that? It's just awkward. A normal response would be "wow that sounds great, have a good time!" rather than bringing your kids into it.

I just don't think "you're doing it right" is that deep of a phrase. It's a throwaway comment to make surface-level conversation. It's not a judgment or a deep glimpse into someone's soul.

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DINKS
Enjoy what you enjoy,OK? No one is challenging you, but listen to us, those that had families- never, never in a million years would I have ever not have my family. And I would never wish to have your child free life, even the hard days. I could never have imagined what it would be like not to have kids or have kids before having kids. Now I know- and you don't. Sorry, but you don't.

[Anonymous]

Refreshing to see positivity around kids here