Why so much hate for the OW?

[Anonymous]

It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship.

[Anonymous]

People are allowed to dislike you for whatever reason they choose. In the case of the OW, they didn't make a vow but that doesn't mean they're not pathetic and trashy for getting involved with a married man. Who likes pathetic and trashy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship.

+1
Because some people think it's fine to throw objectivity and sense and logic out of the window when they've been hurt. They look ridiculous but they are happily ensconced in their self righteousness so they don't care.
And before the predictable and lame responses come no, I'm not an ow.

[Anonymous]

Susie is on the playground. She asks the teacher for a red ball and skips happily playing with it. The teacher has thousands of balls for the children to play, all shapes and colors, but Debbie sees Susie and takes her red ball. Susie is now crying. Debbie could have seen Teacher to get any ball she wished, even a red one like Susie's, but she took Susie's anyway, without Susie's agreement (agreement = sharing = non-exclusivity)

The lessons we have had since childhood: don't take someone else's ball, get your own ball, and play nice.

Debbie is a b!tch. I hate Debbie.

[Anonymous]

Most women here are wives. There is a lot of projection going on. It goes the other way too. Most men would be pissed off at the other guy more than at the cheating wife, because his property rights were infringed on. People are obsessed with possession, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Women control sex. If the OW was being a proper gate keeper, none of this would have happened. It's why women give other women such a hard time for dressing provocatively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Susie is on the playground. She asks the teacher for a red ball and skips happily playing with it. The teacher has thousands of balls for the children to play, all shapes and colors, but Debbie sees Susie and takes her red ball. Susie is now crying. Debbie could have seen Teacher to get any ball she wished, even a red one like Susie's, but she took Susie's anyway, without Susie's agreement (agreement = sharing = non-exclusivity)

The lessons we have had since childhood: don't take someone else's ball, get your own ball, and play nice.

Debbie is a b!tch. I hate Debbie.

Except in this case - The teacher asked the kids to choose a buddy and play with them. Susie and Peter chose each other because they wanted to play on the Seesaw. After sometime Peter saw Debbie playing in the sandbox and he wanted to play too. Peter thought that he could actually take turns playing with both Susie and Debbie.

How does this become Debbie's fault?

[Anonymous]

I do judge the OW when a man leaves his wife and children for her. Then she does have some accountability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do judge the OW when a man leaves his wife and children for her. Then she does have some accountability.

Why would a wife want a husband who wants to be with someone else? This is what I don't get. Some women have zero self-worth, then complain that their men don't want them.

I am not clear on OW's accountablity here. All three are adults capable of making their choices.

[Anonymous]

People with good character don't sleep with married men.

Justify it all you want. The other woman lacks integrity and is disrespecting the family just like the husband is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Susie is on the playground. She asks the teacher for a red ball and skips happily playing with it. The teacher has thousands of balls for the children to play, all shapes and colors, but Debbie sees Susie and takes her red ball. Susie is now crying. Debbie could have seen Teacher to get any ball she wished, even a red one like Susie's, but she took Susie's anyway, without Susie's agreement (agreement = sharing = non-exclusivity)

The lessons we have had since childhood: don't take someone else's ball, get your own ball, and play nice.

Debbie is a b!tch. I hate Debbie.

Men are not inanimate objects/things. They are people who make choices.

It is easier to blame a stranger than it is to blame the person who made a commitment to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women control sex. If the OW was being a proper gate keeper, none of this would have happened. It's why women give other women such a hard time for dressing provocatively.

So men have no control over their choices? A man has no responsibility for his choice to have sex with this woman as opposed to his wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women here are wives. There is a lot of projection going on. It goes the other way too. Most men would be pissed off at the other guy more than at the cheating wife, because his property rights were infringed on. People are obsessed with possession, I guess.

[Anonymous]

I thank and love the OW. Now he is her problem.

[Anonymous]

Easier to blame the other woman than to look closely at your own relationship. I think the excessive hatred comes off as a little pathetic, actually.