Why so much hate for the OW?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, do you treat your husband with the same caring and love that you used to do when you were courting?

If you don't then why are you surprised if he chooses to wander to greener pastures?

+1. The OW doesn't owe the wife anything. Keep your own life in order and he won't come wandering over to me.

That's nothing to brag about hon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, do you treat your husband with the same caring and love that you used to do when you were courting?

If you don't then why are you surprised if he chooses to wander to greener pastures?

+1. The OW doesn't owe the wife anything. Keep your own life in order and he won't come wandering over to me.

That's nothing to brag about hon.

Don't care, toots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship.

I think it is human nature for the betrayed spouse, male or female, to immediately blame the affair partner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can't you be disgusted by the behaviors of both? 95% if the time, the other woman is the one posting here. Hence why the responses are directed at her vs him. I think the husband is worse than the other woman, but the OW isn't blameless. You'd think any self respecting woman wouldn't sleep with a married man. And yet they do. If I found out a friend was sleeping with a married man, I'd be disgusted by her choice, think less of her, and end the friendship. Complete lack of morals and sign that someone isn't as nice as you thought. I'd be more disgusted by the guy if I knew him. Both are to blame. Both Aren't good human beings. Just because I may call someone out who posts that they are the OW, that doesn't mean I'm putting all the blame on her.

Shit thing to say. People can and do fail in many different ways in life- we all bleed the same. I realize people are flawed and will sometimes make mistakes, sometimes things hard to forgive, but that doesn't make them any 'less' human'. That says a lot about your character.

I don't condone stepping out by either party and in fact, believe that both cheating men and women are broken looking to fill some need from within. I don't see a problem with the betrayed spouse venting on the OW or OM to get to where they need to be in reconciliation. As a PP said, it's easier to blame them than the one you love even though it is misplaced. Both are to blame.

Nope. She's correct. They are both bad human beings.

And it's not "stepping out," an expression that minimizes cheating and betrayal.

Let's not get into semantics. Stepping out, stray, cheat, deceive, swindle, betray...call it what you will. It does not minimize in ANY way what happens. I still hold the idea that most are typical human being who made a very very poor decision. Yet, they aren't necessarily 'bad' people. If they regret it, profess it, and make better decisions in the future...how are they 'bad' human beings? Who made you the one who has the power to judge them? You have experience ?

In the case of serial cheaters, yes I can see your point. However, not all people who cheat are bad people. Just as not all people who participate in drugs are horrible people. (which hurts families as well). This does not dismiss the hurt or pain inflicted on families in any way- but know that sometimes these spouses are forgiven and they live and learn the hard way. I personally, choose to blame the spouses who cheated equally. That said, I'm one who has placed blame on the 'other' initially to get over the hurt SO caused during reconciliation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship.

I think it is human nature for the betrayed spouse, male or female, to immediately blame the affair partner.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, do you treat your husband with the same caring and love that you used to do when you were courting?

If you don't then why are you surprised if he chooses to wander to greener pastures?

Because he isn't a cow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not her fault your man cheated on you. In fact she's just a physical being that could be anyone. He cheated because he's a selfish ass or because you pushed him away. Most times the ow is just as hurt when the relationship ends. Fix yourself and your relationship.

I guess I don't need to repeat what hundreds of people have posted here.

There is perhaps nothing more disgusting and pathetic. than a woman who has a sexual affair with a married man, especially one with children. It's so ugly and sad, and they have absolutely no self-esteem or morals or decency. Gross.

You can say it's OMG SO GROSS all you want, but deep down, you're terrified of the OW. You're not disgusted, you're scared.

Project much? You're awfully defensive, and yes, people genuinely find you disgusting.