If all your siblings went on vacation without you, would you be hurt?

Anonymous
Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.


I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.
Anonymous
Can’t the sister with the little kids leave them at home? Or put the kids in camp/daycare at the resort?
Anonymous
It would hurt my feelings but there must be a reason. Are you a moocher, PIA, buzz kill? Have you had conflicts on previous trips?

We have a sister that we won't travel with because she drinks and turns into a B*tch wrecking the trips with drama. We exclude our SIL because she mooches and several times brought extra people (friends of her kids) without asking if there is room.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Is she a single mother? You don’t mention husbands.


No, we all have spouses.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It would hurt my feelings but there must be a reason. Are you a moocher, PIA, buzz kill? Have you had conflicts on previous trips?

We have a sister that we won't travel with because she drinks and turns into a B*tch wrecking the trips with drama. We exclude our SIL because she mooches and several times brought extra people (friends of her kids) without asking if there is room.


The reason is that OP doesn't want to deal with her younger nieces and nephews. Her sister isn't a drunk or mean or a moocher; she has younger kids who can't ski independently and OP doesn't want to deal with the way they "change the vibe" of her vacation. But her solution is garbage. Excluding her sister would be hurtful and probably damage their relationship. Either invite everyone or just go with the one sister.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.


I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.


No, she and her wife are both still in grad school, so they aren't really in the place to afford a nice vacation, but because we're already paid for the house, and we've got room in the minivan, they could come for just the cost of lift tickets, and we could afford to give them those as a Christmas gift.

Frankly, getting married in a pandemic sucks, and they're great people, so it would be nice to do something for them, and they're easy. I know that if I say "Hey, I want to ski with just my kids" or something, they'll be like -- "Have fun, we'll head over to this other slope, see you at dinner!"

Neither my older sister nor I have kids who still need babysitting.
Anonymous
I have 4 sisters, local and close to all of them, so yes, would be hurt. OTOH, only 2 have children, ranging from 2 years to 11, and I understand your concern regarding the younger kids might needing help/care. I would be clear with my sister regarding the skiing, and who knows, she may decline.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I would invite them, but say you and the one sister want to get your own house because of the ages of the kids, but she is welcome if she wanuts to rent a place nearby.

Why would your sister expect you to babysit her kids while she goes skiing? I guess she used to do that for your kids before you had kids? And now that her kids are young, you don’t even want her along? Nice.


This is also my suggestion. Also, wait a while to tell the other two so they have less time to plan. Yes, passive aggressive, but some times that is only way to handle family.

And it is on you if you watch the kids, don't blame anyone but yourself for that.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.


I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.


No, she and her wife are both still in grad school, so they aren't really in the place to afford a nice vacation, but because we're already paid for the house, and we've got room in the minivan, they could come for just the cost of lift tickets, and we could afford to give them those as a Christmas gift.

Frankly, getting married in a pandemic sucks, and they're great people, so it would be nice to do something for them, and they're easy. I know that if I say "Hey, I want to ski with just my kids" or something, they'll be like -- "Have fun, we'll head over to this other slope, see you at dinner!"

Neither my older sister nor I have kids who still need babysitting.


Then why weren’t they invited to start with? Your family dynamics sound miserable
Anonymous
Yes, I would be incredibly hurt.

It's up to the sister to babysit her kids, not you OP.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.


I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.


No, she and her wife are both still in grad school, so they aren't really in the place to afford a nice vacation, but because we're already paid for the house, and we've got room in the minivan, they could come for just the cost of lift tickets, and we could afford to give them those as a Christmas gift.

Frankly, getting married in a pandemic sucks, and they're great people, so it would be nice to do something for them, and they're easy. I know that if I say "Hey, I want to ski with just my kids" or something, they'll be like -- "Have fun, we'll head over to this other slope, see you at dinner!"

Neither my older sister nor I have kids who still need babysitting.


You sound annoyed at the resounding no you are getting. But there is a reason you're getting. Regardless of all the qualifications, there is no way to do this in a way that would not deeply hurt sister #3. If you choose this path, you choose it knowing that and should, at minimum, not pretend like it is no big deal and allow sister 3 to be angry about it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.

I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.

No, I think her and her sisters' kids are old enough that they won't need babysitting. I think she wants to focus on skiing, which is possible with older kids/teens and with childless people.
Anonymous
I wouldn't be hurt, but I only have 2 sisters. Inviting 3 of 4 seems troublesome, unless the non-invitee is very very chill.

Traveling with young kids turns it from a vacation into a trip (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/vacation-or-trip-a-helpful-guide-for-parents_b_7789310).

I would just invite everyone, and accept that, maybe encourage a babysitter if that is reasonable. But if you don't want to, just stick with the original plan, or risk really damaging your relationship with your other sister.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t invite either of your younger sisters. You don’t want to be irritated with your sister with young kids the whole time and it’s rude to invite everyone but her.

Do the trip as originally intended; with you and your older sister.

I bet she wants the younger childless sister along because she hopes she will babysit.

No, I think her and her sisters' kids are old enough that they won't need babysitting. I think she wants to focus on skiing, which is possible with older kids/teens and with childless people.


But the childless sibling hasn’t been invited and everyone’s solution is to not invite her because apparently she doesn’t have feelings
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